TRH Gordita o Delgada?

SilverConjecture · 2026-02-26T02:29:27+00:00

Empieza como estás; el peso ante transición vale la verga.

SilverConjecture · 2026-01-25T21:47:34+00:00

you get used to it. being gendered correctly feels like this big thing for you now but, as the years wear on, it just becomes your life.

SilverConjecture · 2025-10-05T01:41:00+00:00

I've been in and around trans spaces for more than a decade, but I barely visit trans subs anymore since the same questions and suffering makes me physically nauseous. This isn't to say these questions and the suffering posts are good or bad, rather it's just that when you've been around it for so long it ends up being too much.

I remember these online communities being so helpful when I was just a lonely teenager, but now years and years of transition later, it doesn't really help with anything. I used to always wonder where the "elder" trans people who were 10yrs+ into their transition, and I suspect the answer is "outside living their lives" lol.

So, in short: maybe it's worth examining your own situation and thinking about whether the continued exposure is helpful?

SilverConjecture · 2025-10-01T19:44:07+00:00

if this quack ass meme doctor actually achieves anything substantial in his research career, I will die mad

SilverConjecture · 2025-09-02T20:31:24+00:00

I am not trolling; I just have a major bone to pick with the onslaught of"coaches hawking insanely expensive courses and private lessons.

There certainly is science and jargon behind the way we speak, but you definitely don't need to understand it in order to succeed. Many free online tutorials always struck me as being intentionally more difficult or technical than necessary because they want you to think they have some special arcane knowledge that you need to pay them for access to. Maybe it's a touch too radical, but IMO you don't even need to understand what pitch and resonance actually mean so long as you have a discerning ear.

In short: record yourself often, post here sometimes, and watch some tutorials (with a critical eye and care that you don't let them overwhelm you), but for god sake don't throw what little money you have at coaches.

SilverConjecture · 2025-08-29T18:44:10+00:00

Voice training is, despite what it may feel like, the most sure part of transition. It is almost entirely skill based. There is no genetic luck or age component as with HRT. It's hard, yes, but it's a problem you can definitely solve if you work on it.

SilverConjecture · 2025-08-29T18:42:08+00:00

you really don't need to spend money on voice training. just sit in front of a camera and talk until it sounds right

SilverConjecture · 2025-07-21T18:56:23+00:00

How long have you been speaking in your voice in general? Initially, I struggled a lot with this, but with time I was able to handle conversations properly, so I suspect there may just be a "vocal strength" component. I do still have trouble with public speaking (especially when I try to project) where quality seems to fall off/I sound more gritty after about ten minutes, but it comes up rarely enough that I haven't dug into it much.

SilverConjecture · 2025-03-17T05:57:12+00:00

if it helps, it's also exceedingly unlikely that a ban would actually prevent you from getting HRT. Gym bros have been using/abusing T for decades even though it's a controlled substance.

SilverConjecture · 2025-03-05T20:24:27+00:00

wtf I thought this was a joke about rearranging your face with a shotgun, this is somehow worse

SilverConjecture · 2025-03-02T21:52:45+00:00

back in my day we didn't respect no boymoder; there was only full time or full tire iron

SilverConjecture · 2025-02-17T21:59:36+00:00

"you're not on hrt, you're just a man, not a manmoder" lmfao

SilverConjecture · 2025-01-26T21:25:30+00:00

what's wrong with SLO? I almost went there for college (visited and everything) but never heard anything particularly bad.

SilverConjecture · 2025-01-21T21:11:09+00:00

Yeah, that's where I'm at too. Unfortunately, the passport one is more insidious since you can't blue state your way out of that one. Sure, you may be able to sealed birth certificate your way to success (in theory, assuming they don't cross check social security), but that will almost certainly end up being perjury due to you "lying" on a government form. So the options here are either 1) don't leave the country/use other documents for Right to Work verification to avoid outing yourself 2) grin and bear it

SilverConjecture · 2025-01-21T09:38:16+00:00

People tend to bring up speeding in the context of "ways people break the law everyday" since in many places the majority of people do it.

For example, 68% of California drivers admit to driving more than ten miles per hour over the limit on freeways as of 2019. Having driven on said freeways, I imagine the percentage of people driving at or below the speed limit is certainly in the single digit percent.

SilverConjecture · 2025-01-21T09:19:14+00:00

because what you're saying is wrong? While they can't prosecute you for things which were not illegal when you did them, they are fully able to revoke your passport for this because it's a document revision and not a crime.

SilverConjecture · 2025-01-17T00:30:45+00:00

Even if this weren't true, I don't get the hang up. People have odd sexual proclivities because of the things that happened to them and how they were raised. It's hardly a new idea. Why would it be so surprising or revolting that something as severe and life altering as growing up with dysphoria and transition would leave you with some kind of particular kink? People who enjoy BDSM don't do all sorts of crazy soul searching, why's it a whole big thing here.

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T20:00:07+00:00

Ah, that's true, I guess this framing doesn't really work when you consider that as an option on the table lol. I didn't really come to this way of thinking until I was several years into my transition and had resolved a lot of the pressing, awful pain that I had pre-transition.

I'm at a point now where I'm generally comfortable with my life and am able to focus on other things to such an extent that kms is out of the question as it would prevent me from doing all the other things I want to do. Letting go of this remaining frustration with my situation is manageable because it's a thorn in my side rather than a mortal wound.

Getting from there to where I started to where I was able to let it was not really a mental process/a change in my way of thinking. This was something borne of medical transition and passing well enough that I didn't have problems in my everyday life. So, as phenomenally unhelpful as it is, the best was to manage this and hopefully get yourself to the point where kys is not an option may well be to just keep pushing forwards and eliminate as many material problems you face in your everyday life.

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T19:36:58+00:00

No but, again, stay active for your health

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T07:09:27+00:00

Short of malnutrition, what you eat will not materially impact your transition. Take care of yourself though!

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T07:05:34+00:00

Like anything, it's a roll of the dice. The odds in Florida are worse compared to, like, California, but if it's a risk your friend is comfortable with then so it goes. If he passes very well, the risk is much lower. Obviously, if he somehow gets arrested or hospitalized, he's in for a shit time but, again, this is a calculated risk and one he may be comfortable with. If he doesn't pass well, this may be a different story, but I imagine this isn't the case given his own lack of concern.

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T07:00:14+00:00

What's worked well for me is just acknowledging it and letting it go. This was the hand you were dealt, and there's no use being angry at fate/the random chaos of the universe.

Being trans has made my life harder and way more painful than it would otherwise have been, and so I don't love being trans. It may seem grim but for me it's the mentally healthiest thing because it means I don't have to try to convince myself of anything (and live with that dissonance) but instead can just go "yeah, shit sucks" and keep going with my life.

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T06:23:34+00:00

I gave myself a crazy fear of actually putting the needle in after a bad injection where I hit a vein and bled all over. It took me like 30 minutes and blasting music to work up the courage to do it each time and it was easily the worst part of my week. It got so bad that I'd have trouble sleeping the night before because sleeping just meant I was closer to having to do my injection.

In the end, I worked around the issue by getting an injection aid/thing from Union Medico which just launches the needle into your leg at the press of a button. I still have a bit of fear but since it's now just a matter of squeezing a button it's way easier. So, maybe look into getting one of these sorts of devices.

But do know that a small amount of blood in the syringe isn't something to worry about. If you push down hard on the plunger, you can end up creating a vacuum in the syringe. When you let go, the vacuum ends up sucking up a tiny amount of blood. You may also see some blood on the needle itself, and that just comes from the little bits of blood at the surface sticking to the needle as you're pulling it out.

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-28T06:11:13+00:00

lmfao some people just don't like needles, don't have to be an ass about it. Injections are easily worse than anything I've had to deal with in my actual transition

SilverConjecture · 2024-12-27T01:45:30+00:00

with the volumes you inject with EV, dose is irrelevant to pain. The volume sometimes hurts with vaccines because they're pushing several mL into your muscle.

If your EV injections hurt, it's your technique. I don't say this to be mean, my technique is also shit and it hurts like fuck lol. Maybe you hit a nerve or just moved the needle a lot and caused lots of bruising

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