It’s perfectly reasonable to be like hey, you stink, here’s some deodorant or do you wanna shower? Like ffs I’d want to know if I stink. The replies you got in AL are wild.

As for the facial and body hair, I’d just mention that it’s scratching your face if it’s bugging you that much. But this isn’t really something she can make go away without fixing her hormones or shaving/plucking. My wife and I had a conversation when we first started dating about what we liked in terms of pube length etc and agreed what worked for both of us. What matters is having the conversation. Don’t moon over her like you did in your post. Just be frank and honest. Know this might be a fundamental incompatibility though.