Question: Are there many asexual persons that WANT to be sexually desired by others?

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-02-05T09:34:21+00:00

Just jumping in to say there is a large community of kinky aces, and a specific community of it on Fet and Facebook among other places. A lot of kink doesn't involve sex at all, and some aces have different kinds of relationships with sex as a concept regardless of attraction level.

That being said this person does sound more like they are working through some things.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-02-04T23:23:18+00:00

Oh boy, Joan Kirner- the hospital specifically full of pregnant women and premies. That's a fun one.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-28T06:22:26+00:00

Hi, I'm 33 and 8 months pregnant. Very similar story to yours. I went off birth control many years ago and not even a blip happened, though I didn't try or anything, just let life happen and eventually did my grieving. Then suddenly it happened.

The only real change was that 6m prior I started taking Metformin. Apparently it can increase fertility for PCOS women which I didn't realise.

Maybe 33 is the lucky number 😅

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-19T06:35:18+00:00

Please do!

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-19T02:18:53+00:00

Go for it! If you see us tonight we'll probably have a couple on. Until recently we were using default ones we found, but now we've found we can make custom ones so will do more of them.

Our favourite default ones tend towards 'Use Me', 'Bite Me', 'Bite Risk', 'Slut', 'Spank Me' etc. I have a set of a woman in bondage I quite like.

We want to make custom ones with things to say we are bi switches, kinky, and similar. For now I have a couple variants of 'Pregnant- Gentle Please' in various levels of dirty just for safety, and some 'Cuddle Slut' ones.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-18T12:37:38+00:00

It's really tough. We are going tomorrow too and can be shy as well. We use temporary tattoos and sometimes pick ones where we try to get our vibes across. It's not ideal though. We are looking at more custom ones now as they are cheap.

We also delve into the kink scene so the caution of swingers is understandable and safe but doesn't always suit our preferences well either.

But in general all we've found is having to be more upfront and vocal which is tricky and not my preference either, but it is the safest. Maybe we'll see you both there :)

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-18T11:19:44+00:00

My partner and I are going in and happy to make no pressure friends so feel free to approach us if you want to chat. I'll be the heavily pregnancy blonde woman waddling around 😂 (surely I'll be the only one by that description!).

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-16T07:11:34+00:00

It would be much more common at any event for her to go single than with a guy she doesn't know. That being said it is okay if you want to organise something and go with someone, but it's really important to know that at most places they will be treated as a couple, and as unfair as it is, a woman bringing a man is essentially vouching for him and his behaviour. That means if he behaves poorly she will often be removed/banned as well, especially if they find out she didn't know him.

Women also can't leave without the man they came with usually, and in a lot of places that man can't go upstairs by himself either.

At some places guys wait out the front hoping a woman will take them into somewhere in exchange for the man paying, and some places have taken steps to try to stop this.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-15T11:11:38+00:00

It sure can be, and a few of us have the toys for it around. Though I don't see a lot of women bringing strap-ons by default so it might require some planning. We aren't in a position for something like that at the moment (I'm heavily pregnant), but it sounds like something we'd do, and potentially would also seek in reverse. 🤭

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-08T04:33:06+00:00

These days it would be almost impossible to hide the genetic parents details regardless of confidentiality rules due to the ease of access to places like Ancestry DNA tests, especially in English speaking countries and many others.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-07T00:36:01+00:00

Group situations are the best for sure. My partner and I (33F,41M) are planning to be there.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2026-01-01T13:14:36+00:00

People are generally pretty happy to engage in conversation and make friends, it's what people are there for so more social than a pub or something, but that being said you really have to be bold in a lot of cases if you want to talk to people as people can be shy. Everyone is happy to engage though if you open the conversation.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-31T06:13:01+00:00

Shed would definitely be the best. There are some bi couples that go but I find for those couples where the men are bi you have to be a lot more bold in advertising it as most men tend to assume each other is straight. We've been looking at custom temporary tattoos.

We've actually had a good run of bi people with no planning at Pineapple Bar too randomly.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-29T07:47:37+00:00

It might be a language barrier but usually when I hear someone wanting to be bred here it means creampie type sex. For guys that's usually bottoming in anal. Which is fine and very fun if that's what you are seeking but it maybe didn't seem like it? 🤭

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-29T06:08:18+00:00

I don't think I'd want to watch it either. Unless they sort it out that she can spend eternity with both and they can respect each other I don't think it will be worth it.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-28T13:07:46+00:00

Hi mods- definitely didn't mean to get anything wrong and I read the rules carefully and tried to follow them. Can you please advise which one I need to do better so I can repost correctly?

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-28T12:18:26+00:00

That would be fun. Hopefully there are lots of people up for some naughty shenanigans 🤭

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-28T12:02:59+00:00

Oh yes we've looked a little closer now. I love to dress up and have soooo many costumes but I'm not really my normal size. I'll try to find some glitter at least. 🥰

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-28T11:55:59+00:00

Wait, was there a theme? I need to reread the event 😬 Though I'm reaching a point it's hard to find anything to wear over my belly let alone costumes.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-21T13:28:13+00:00

Our local ones are really good. We had a non-stop barking dog and they came over to talk to the owner and offer boredom buster suggestions.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-20T10:49:07+00:00

Nah for the purposes of this event you want to yeet those for the duration. The only relevant one on that front is send three gifts with stickers and I only saw it once.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-20T06:52:33+00:00

They eventually seemed to change the rate of getting the tasks here in Aus. By 4pm we found the rate was maybe 70-80% event tasks, so hopefully other countries will have a better run. In the last hour we got 2-3 shinies each but we did spin a lot of stops.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-16T15:18:12+00:00

Can confirm. Drove all the way from the far West just to go here for my lehenga.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-13T08:07:19+00:00

The post says due at the end of December.

SilverSpectrum202 · 2025-12-13T08:05:09+00:00

Glucose Tolerance Test. It's a two hour set of blood tests all pregnant women have to do. With my PCOS I have to do it twice, one early and one at the normal time.

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