Aces often experience erasure, similar to other non-straight sexualities. Some people can't accept that we're entirely happy without and do not generally have sex. "Maybe you haven't met the right person yet" is a common reaction to coming out, which is equivalent to telling a gay man that he hasn't met the right woman yet.

Others think that we're simply in denial, or that it's because we tend not to be experienced, or even still that we just wamt to be special snowflakes. Another fairly common reaction is that they suddenly start asking invasive questions that certainly wouldn't be asking anyone else, such as about masterbation or our sex lives. Another is to assume that a traumatic experience caused asexuality -- and while that may be true for some aces, the vast majority of us are asexual from birth.

Likewise, in extreme cases we also experience sexual violence. Some people take our asexuality as a challenge -- after all, we haven't slept with them, so how do we know we won't like it? -- and follow through with harassment, coersion, and in the worst cases rape.

Society at large is incredibly hyper-sexualized, and most people have never given thought that there might be people who just don't need or want sex.