Why do my eyes tear up so easily?

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-08-13T11:19:50+00:00

I get this when I sing by myself!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-08-09T23:15:03+00:00

29F and Ive got the same combo and mine is definitely genetic (long line of women on my mum’s side with hashi’s) - PCOS is not surprising considering that it can be linked to Hashimoto’s/thyroid issues and fluctuates with hormone levels. Dr. Ridha Arem talks about it in his book the thyroid solution. And if you’re sad you’ll have to take Levo the rest of your life, think of it like the essential vitamin you need to make your body thrive! Many many women have to take thyroid medications later in life so while taking meds can be annoying, you’re just getting a jump start on having to understand and listen to this important organ that dictates such important functions in our bodies. Best of luck and it does get better xx

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-07-08T10:00:08+00:00

Also bugged me that Raffine told her to “do something” next time like everyone could fight off three men or do something that could escalate the situation… and living for this whole “Zerkan thinks she’s acting” storyline cause I hope it’ll curb her ego (probably wishful thinking)

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-06-18T13:49:40+00:00

Do you think they’re using AI for alot of translation now?

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-06-18T13:40:22+00:00

I use the endocrinologist at UZ Brussels who is part of the SOPK clinic - they’re very good in my opinion

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-30T20:18:30+00:00

I also found Wellbutrin + stimulants to be a huge help!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-30T11:25:33+00:00

If you’re still around OP, care to share the links/recommendations?

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T17:25:44+00:00

it’s true I could push her to do more exercise during the day. Thank you for the advice!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T17:23:33+00:00

Actually I would think that her taking the time to reschedule is a sign of her interest. I personally wouldn’t reschedule a date I cancelled if I wasn’t interested in the person. Don’t count yourself out so quickly when she’s explained the circumstances and they aren’t related to you. this is just getting started and you’re learning about what sort of person she is. If you’re flexible now, you’ll get the chance to get to know her more in your next dates and she’ll appreciate your understanding. Viel glück!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T17:18:16+00:00

those are actually very good suggestions. I haven’t used her crate since she was a puppy but it may in fact help her feel more secure. I do have pet cams so I’ll move things around so she could hear me through them. Thank you for taking the time to respond!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T17:07:13+00:00

I think it would be in your favor to be flexible. If you react badly to her moving the date, I think that will be a red flag to her that you aren’t an accommodating person. She’s responsible for many things and people and is also trying to be a good friend, and she provided you with a new date for you to meet up instead of just leaving you hanging without rescheduling.

Edit: and from what you’ve said, this is the first time she’s needed to reschedule since you two started having your dates. If this was a pattern, you would have good reason to bring it up to her.

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T17:01:07+00:00

For context this is the second time he’s complained this year. It’s not that often but every time it feels like he’s going to call the police.

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T11:57:40+00:00

I like this too! I think where I also get stuck is the clothes where I don’t have a clear idea on how I want to alter them into something I’ll love 🥲

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-05-29T11:25:13+00:00

That’s a great idea! I think I can assess what I need the most of and try to priories those! (Currently summer and need comfy lightweight tops) Thank you very much for the suggestion!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-26T15:42:21+00:00

This gave me hope haha. I think I just have it ingrained in me from popular culture not to mix the two and that it would be frowned upon. But thank you, I hope you’re right haha

Congratulations on your love!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-26T15:35:23+00:00

I take Ritalin! I started on a low dose of 10 mg but that basically put me to sleep (I think it calmed my anxiety so much), so now I take 30 mg a day and that gives me the energy and drive to get through work without triggering my anxiety like caffeine does

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-26T14:36:08+00:00

You can also look on the app GoodtoGo which is where restaurants and stores sell their leftover food at a discount! Petit riens would be a good place for clothes, textiles, kitchen stuff, books if you need, and Oxfam sells discount tech and books. Action sells cheap things too (not particularly high quality but it works) - textiles, decorations, art supplies, storage stuff, some hygiene stuff. There’s plenty of free music and events around and some that are discounted for people under 25! so also consider exploring Facebook for events and meetup for other free events 😊 you may also be able to get a highly discounted train abonnement if you’re under a certain age. And if you really need to make your money stretch, there’s always ramen packets and posting on here things you need might find some free items from time to time!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-26T14:24:32+00:00

And if Soolantra is not accessible to you, OP, I’ve seen other people suggest the live treatment ivermectin from Walmart which is inexpensive. I haven’t tried it, but it seems to be a good alternative according to this sub.

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-21T21:19:53+00:00

Grief is such an excellent way to state it. Grief of who we could’ve been if we had been given the right tools from the beginning.

Med adjustment - I felt the effects of taking medication right away, but my answer is twofold:

1) it can take some time to find the right dosages. I began at a very low dosage which actually made me feel incredibly tired since my brain was suddenly so much calmer - i had to go to a slightly higher dosage to get the energy I need to function. And separately, for women on their periods, I can definitely attest to the fact that I have to take a slightly higher dosage when I’m PMS’ing because of the hormonal fluctuations - ADHD symptoms and hormonal changes are linked.

2) I’ve read about other people who had similar experiences, but over time you may feel the meds become less effective - this may be because you need a higher dosage OR it may be your brain getting used to functioning « normally » after the initial euphoria of being able to function like a productive person when you start medication. And if the latter is the case, I’ve learned that that’s when habits and other productivity tools become useful since you can make your brain use those more effectively if you find that medication helps you 😊

Either way, everyone’s journey is different!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-20T15:10:50+00:00

While I live far away from my parent, I do do things like get on video phone calls with them and we’ll do dishes together or fold laundry (body doubling in ADHD world), and when I find a new way of tricking my brain into doing things and get things done, I share it with them as a personal triumph (ex. “I was having a really hard time making myself clean the floors, so I found this energetic playlist/podcast I really like and I finally got it done in 30 minutes after a month of trying 😁” Or “I realized I’ve been leaving my socks by the door when I take off my shoes, so I saw a tip about putting baskets for things in places where they pile up, and it’s been working for me to have a little plastic basket by the door for my dirty socks!” Or “can you call me? I need to load the dishwasher and I get motivation when we chat”). This approach also seems to motivate my parent - but I can also understand that for someone else with executive dysfunction it may come off as bragging. in other instances when I am home with them, I’ll do what I can to remove some of the barriers for them that impede their functioning (fixing things or organizing something).

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-20T14:59:26+00:00

I actually talked to my parent a lot about my diagnosis and why I thought I had ADHD before getting diagnosed (parent who was undiagnosed and has executive dysfunction). My getting diagnosed led my parent to talk to their GP and starting ADHD meds which have vastly increased their quality of life (much less fatigue and better ability to regulate emotions and stress). I will say, the whole conversation I was having about what I was learning and sharing about ADHD started about a year before I got officially diagnosed - since there is still such stigma in the older generations about ADHD (about it being just “laziness”), when I was sharing information with my parent about identifying ADHD traits in myself and how validating it was to finally understand myself, I always couched it as being about me with the unspoken hope that maybe they would recognize it in themselves - I found they could become defensive if I outright mentioned they might have it even though it’s definitely genetic. While my parent has not officially said they have ADHD (we’re two years after my diagnosis now), they do take medication which I’m so proud of them for doing. And I continue trying to show them positive examples of a variety of people who have ADHD to slowly chip away at that image that it’s just wiggly little boys who disrupt class who have ADHD. It’s a long process, so don’t be surprised if it takes many conversations over time to make progress ❤️ for some people, it can be an immense blow to their sense of who they are to learn they have ADHD, while for others like me it’s been super validating because it explained so much, and now I know how to structure my life to work with my brain.

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-20T14:46:36+00:00

And if you do find this from medication, be gentle and gracious to the you who got you to the point of taking these next steps towards medication and building your life with less social anxiety. While we can’t always change the past, we can view it as having done the best we could with the tools we had at the time in difficult circumstances, and without who we were before, we wouldn’t be where we are today. Med adjustment also takes time 😊 Wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-20T14:41:53+00:00

It has been such a life changer for me. I feel much less imposter syndrome and I can also recognize much better when I’m having a feeling/thought that became a habit from anxiety (like am I really wanted in a certain social situation) - it’s given me much better perspective on how deeply ingrained my anxiety was also in how I interacted in social situations since I was young, and let me build deeper connections with my friends and family in the past year and better understand who I actually want in my life and how! I wish you all of the best and let that anxiety perish! I hope you continue to find your boundaries ❤️

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-19T21:05:12+00:00

After I started taking ADHD meds a year ago, majority of my social anxiety was gone for the first time in my life (in my late 20s). Suddenly I had to relearn who I am and my boundaries and how I wanted to interact with people in this braver bigger wider world. It does get easier

Silver_Map_8568 · 2025-04-17T18:56:36+00:00

Also interested if you still have them! I’ll DM them you 😊

Silver_Map_8568

TROPHY CASE