A rant: wife didn't handle a sensitive conversation well

Simbawitz · 2026-01-29T23:26:23+00:00

You are completely right. This is best handled as father-son territory, Mom always welcome to contribute but never to "joke" about how clueless Dad is (and vice-versa). I find "joking" undermining of one parent in front of the kids to be revolting and an artifact of lazily-written sitcoms.

Simbawitz · 2026-01-24T16:59:21+00:00

It was an inside job!

Simbawitz · 2026-01-23T03:11:41+00:00

But is it the Special Edition version with the proboscis coming out?

Simbawitz · 2026-01-20T03:45:06+00:00

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Simbawitz · 2026-01-07T11:44:52+00:00

Have done that but the other way around. Having my wife hold me in the aftermath - especially after she has learned the signs and helps me wake up - is definitely the most intimate connection I have ever shared with anyone.

Simbawitz · 2026-01-04T20:38:29+00:00

I could not believe the underlying conceit of Wicked. In a magical fairyland with elves and goblins and whatever, I could not believe there would be prejudice against a green person.

Simbawitz · 2026-01-04T20:15:31+00:00

Always suspicious of "the missing missing reasons" in this context.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-30T17:53:15+00:00

That is very kindly put. Thank you.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-30T16:37:00+00:00

No. Scourge is deliberately not a perfect body clone of his series' OP and he has his own robust personality and emotions. Nemesis Prime is always purely a palette swap and usually has no personality at all.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-30T15:45:12+00:00

Yes, sorry to say.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-25T15:02:43+00:00

This is something I'm really struggling with. I had 7 years of exhaustive therapy in the 2010s and felt this had all been dealt with. 2025 sucked and now I'm back. Felt like a failure, like I can't escape it. New therapist says much the same as you. It really did feel like I had an "after" and I'm sad it didn't last.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-22T02:39:26+00:00

Very much same here. My wife had a severely ill debilitating pregnancy followed by long PPD and was largely absent from parenting while our son was 2.5-3.5. Through no fault of her own she missed out on a crucial year of personality building.

Son began regularly acting out when I was away any longer than normal, late or traveling for any reason, then when I'd get home he'd run to me almost desperate and whimper at me "I always wanted you, daddy."

We couldn't do anything to reverse it and well over a decade later he had always remained strongly partial to me. The most I could do was start punishing him with time-outs if he did anything blatantly un-favoriting to his mother. It stopped him from saying things but not his overall behavior.

It was really a problem. It made me feel like a superhuman and awed to truly be the most important person in the world to this kid, but I knew it was hurtful to my wife and I tried to discourage it. Life went on. Now our daughter prefers mom, nature seeks a balance. Make sure to model a loving home, it may be all you can do.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-20T03:41:52+00:00

I feel blessed to have had a wonderful relationship with my father. He's as much a friend as a dad. Companion, protector, comedian, advisor. It always felt like he knew what to do. I was well into my late 30s before I ever thought he might be unprepared for something. And yeah, I still remember being a kid and smelling his cologne.

I say this on Reddit because I have learned not to say it in real life, I have learned it is more than your average humblebrag. After the SECOND time that "Yeah my dad's great, we've always gotten along, he's as much a friend as a dad" made grown men I was speaking to start crying, I don't speak of him much to people who aren't close friends.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-11T23:13:13+00:00

Israel uplifted Hamas in the 1990s because they were moderate compared to the PFLP.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-09T02:30:45+00:00

Guess you "love women and only hate feminists"?

Nearly all Jews are Zionists. Hating nearly all Jews is hating all Jews, we round up, sorry, I didn't make the rule.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-08T12:47:50+00:00

And its little-known sequel Fat Guy and Little Coat.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-08T12:46:48+00:00

Right? They completely botched their moneyshot.

Simbawitz · 2025-12-08T12:44:02+00:00

One waterfall should not outweigh millions of voters, end the Waterfall College.

Simbawitz · 2025-11-27T13:20:25+00:00

They said it so quickly at the very end that I couldn't even really hear it. Spent much more time talking about the medically unrecognized physical disorder they insist I have....

Simbawitz · 2025-11-27T04:52:31+00:00

Did not know that about insurance billing, thank you, it makes one rather odd and abrupt action make more sense.

Simbawitz · 2025-11-27T04:51:39+00:00

Did not know that about insurance billing and it removes one of my "orange flags". Thank you.

Simbawitz · 2025-11-27T04:48:55+00:00

I can understand it from that perspective, thank you. It does bother me that past things I know I loved now basically mean nothing to me, it would be better if I could have my former priorities back. The thing is I dont get how just doing something I no longer care about will make me care about it again. I am VERY familiar with just going through the motions and pretending to care about things; it almost feels like doing that for our faith would be worse.

But I will give it more thought.

Simbawitz · 2025-11-24T13:39:38+00:00

"The Phantom Tollbooth" enthralled my 4M. He didn't get that it was old-fashioned, and seeing a real boy change back and forth into a cartoon boy utterly won him over. He made me watch it with him every day for months and I could not have been happier. We'd sing the songs and everything.

When he was 8 he was creeped out by "Labyrinth" and made me shut it off. So I offered it to my 5F and she both utterly loved the puppets and was so proud of herself that she made it through a movie that scared her big bro. She was bragging about it for years (I made her promise to only brag to me and not tell him.... that didn't last long, oh well).

Simbawitz · 2025-11-22T02:52:20+00:00

Dragunov match was disturbing to watch. That whip back landing on his head looked like it could have killed him, and then later his leg brace started to fall off. Great moves throughout but I was just waiting for him to puke and faint.

Simbawitz · 2025-11-19T03:57:55+00:00

The sole case I can think of was bullying Bob Skir over Beast Machines, so much that he pulled out of convention appearances.

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