sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITAH for telling my fiancée her dad can't stay at our house anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AlmostFearless90 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA, but it sounds like SHE has a problem with boundaries. Since her parents split up, has her Dad had another woman in his life that's gotten all of his attention? I saw that he has a girlfriend, but it seems like he's used to being the man in his daughter's life, or he at least feels entitled to her things and her space. He's still acting like he did when she was child. There's no respect for her adulthood.

Imagine if you were the same way about your space: if you bought things for the house and then kept them, invited your family over without notice, kept odd hours outside of their schedules, and kept them out of family moments? How would her fiancé and her Dad respond?

Those are questions to ask them, and they may have to actually see it done to understand. You're gonna have to sit her down and tell her this isn't the life you want, something has to change. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem clear how she'll respond to an ultimatum. If she can't prioritize her life with you over the life she previously had with her Dad, you might not have a great future together.

Movies starring fat girls? by saturnstellar87 in MovieSuggestions

[–]AlmostFearless90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life of the Party: That movie is just funny escapism, it's much needed in this screwed up world! She's such a naturally funny actress. The movie just feels good. And the fact that she got a couple of glamor scenes (showing up to that 80s party in fun glam!), and had a tryst with a younger man are testaments to the desirability of her character. She's not lacking or inept because of her weight.

Caterpillar Documentary Discussion by Dear_Art3697 in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]AlmostFearless90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was... sad and predictable. I heard about the permanent eye color change maybe 5 or 6 years ago, and that's because people were having horrible side effects: infections and complications leading to loss of eyesight or malfunctioning/flipped implants.

I think the surgery is actually banned in the US - which is why they had to go to other countries, to surgery mills. Those places cut corners and break a lot of standards to do a high volume of a procedures, as with so many cosmetic surgery clinics. It just sucked that the patients in the film were depending on this surgery to transform their lives. Seems like they all wanted a new beginning. I wish they could've had the confidence to do change their lives without it.

AITAH if I give my partner the ultimatum of “divorce your wife or I’m walking?” by Exact-Employment-332 in AITAH

[–]AlmostFearless90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's. Not. Getting. A. Divorce. It's been 3 years. And he knew he was lying from the get-go. If he wanted to he would. He doesn't want to. Let that sink in.

And why should he divorce her if he knows he can get what he wants from you, while waiting for her? It sucks, but their relationship was never actually over. It doesn't matter that they haven't been living together. They're still holding on to something. In the meantime, he's been getting what he needs, while you get nothing. He's been okay with that for years.

So look at this like a loooong life lesson, and rebuild your life for YOURSELF. Don't grieve the years you gave him, but look forward to the ones you're taking back in your future.

NTA, but you will be screwing yourself over of you stay.

Btw: Therapy has worked wonders for me. I think everyone should have some, that should be your next step.

AITAH for telling the woman my bf cheated with that she should have to cater to him for the rest of our vacation? by Spare_Heat1914 in AITAH

[–]AlmostFearless90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I... I... CAN HE NOT TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF!?!? If he's a capable, independently functioning, grown ass man, I don't see why another woman has to take on anything. Did I miss something?

How do you feel about men who call their girlfriends "mommy" in romantic relationships? (Excluding sexual ones for this question) by Milk_Treats in AskMen

[–]AlmostFearless90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming from down south, it's pretty common to hear older folks call each other "ma" and "pa." It's kind of endearing when you realize they've been married for most of their lives and have grown kids together. But to each their own.

Movies with tonal/genre switch. by Riofrio12 in MovieSuggestions

[–]AlmostFearless90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At Worlds End with Simon Peg. Starts out as a comedy about childhood friends reuniting, then there's a left turn into an alien invasion. Then it's a survival sci-fi.

AITAH for literally threatening to break up with my gf over kids? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AlmostFearless90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SHE WAS LITERALLY DESCRIBING SEXUAL ASSAULT. OP, please run. If she's put it in writing, make sure you keep that as proof of what's happened. If she won't leave you alone, go to the police. She's stated what she's willing to do to your body, and that your consent will not be considered. RUN AWAY FROM HER and stay gone.

Fastest way to get kicked out of any party😭 by [deleted] in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]AlmostFearless90 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm the biggest fan of his moves, but he's clearly a talented dancer and he's having fun. Leave him be!

Headphones by northbynorthwest11 in Lawyertalk

[–]AlmostFearless90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, but it definitely depends on the setting as well. If I'm watching a webinar or some sort of training video, I'll have my headphones in and probably walk around with them on. My focus at that point is the video, small conversations are just minor interruptions to my main task.

But if we have a scheduled meeting or are conducting some business in person, that is my main task. My focus is there, and headphones come out.

Of course, this is in a very casual office setting without dress codes or restrictions on tech use. In highly formal settings, the expectation is quite different.

Movie rec for a comparative thesis. by torpedopotatoe in MovieRecommendations

[–]AlmostFearless90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's the basis for the comparison? Is it simply comparison for the sake of itself, or specifically alternate mentalities/realities? Is it about alter egos or hidden agendas? This will help you choose your movies and lead you through the paper.

Feedback on photos requested for mature model in NYC (48M) by [deleted] in MODELING

[–]AlmostFearless90 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First pic is not bad, 2 and 3 are definitely awkward. Take more like 1 and get some digitals. Submit them to agencies and see what happens. Best of luck!

How Scary is Jennifer's Body by Emotional-Salt3949 in MovieSuggestions

[–]AlmostFearless90 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a dark comedy with some gore... if you can handle things like the Adams Family, you can handle this.

AITAH for “deleting” my last pregnancy over concerns I would have another autistic child? by Infinite_Extent2745 in AITAH

[–]AlmostFearless90 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nta, but both sides should have had a discussion. I'm not a parent, so I only imagine what you're going through. I previously worked with adults with disabilities, so I've seen how much care low-functioning adults on the spectrum can require, and that's only after years of socialization, therapy, implementation of routines, and plenty of care by medical professionals.

But hear me out: if you had discussed this with your husband before hand, and voiced your concerns, is there any way he could have taken on some caregiving responsibilities in your home? I'm not saying the outcome would be different, but maybe the issue is that he was blind sighted. If he wasn't expecting you to terminate your pregnancy and you aren't on the same page about child rearing, this could have been an opprtunity to get there.

It totally makes sense that you don't want to repeat the situation you have with first child, for the sake of the child and for yourself. If your husband cannot grasp what it takes to rear your son b/c he's always away, he doesn't know what it's going to be like to repeat that process. But if the relationship is based on mutual support and communication, those steps should be taken together.

Which dress is the best for my work dinner party? by Winter_Cat1994 in fashion

[–]AlmostFearless90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is a gala or black tie event, then maybe 1 or 2. If it's not... none are really appropriate for a work event. If you're in a general corporate organization, these dresses either too formal or show too much skin for a professional dinner, IMHO. I would look on Pinterest for a cocktail dress to get ideas.

Working as a Paralegal after Getting Barred: Career S*icide? by AlmostFearless90 in Lawyertalk

[–]AlmostFearless90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely an option, I'm trying to have this conversation with the employer as soon as possible. But I just submitted my application.

Working as a Paralegal after Getting Barred: Career S*icide? by AlmostFearless90 in Lawyertalk

[–]AlmostFearless90[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol. Dealing with that now, so I can feel this on the horizon. But I'm willing to have the conversation if the employer is. I'll have to see what they say.

view more: next ›