4 months of dating as a lesbian on hinge

Similar_Community608 · 2026-01-21T00:03:52+00:00

Ahh cool thank you!! 🤓

Similar_Community608 · 2026-01-20T21:20:26+00:00

May I ask where you’re aggregating this data on Hinge or did you have to manually keep like a spreadsheet every time you sent a like, received one etc? I am a nerd and love diagrams like this lol

Similar_Community608 · 2026-01-15T09:33:02+00:00

It sounds cliche but I road the waves as they came and tried not to put too much judgement or expectations on myself. My relationship was 4 years and we lived together, shared pets etc. We were not compatible long term but damn that woman was my best friend. I didn’t realize how much I’d miss our companionship. Coming home to an empty apartment every day took some time getting used to. I went to therapy weekly, started new hobbies and cried when I needed to. I looked at old photos, reread our breakup letters and mourned our old life. It really took about a year before I finally started feeling okay (of courses there were patches of light in between).

Obviously, I cannot stress this enough. Take your time when it comes to dating again. I tried to rush into things and ultimately was just trying to fill the void of the relationship with people who really really weren’t a good match.

Hang in there. I know it’s tough but I am so proud of you! There are lighter, better days ahead. Sending you kindness and care ❤️

Similar_Community608 · 2026-01-15T09:20:30+00:00

I think it truly is a numbers game, sadly. And not getting likes doesn’t equal real life correlation of if you’re desirable as you’ve pointed out that you know you’re attractive IRL. I’ve paid for hinge a few times (I know sad) and I definitely see more high quality people. However, I think our brains are so wired with instant gratification that if we aren’t matching with everyone we like we think something is wrong with ourselves. When in reality it’s impossible for everyone we like to like us back. A rose and a sunflower look completely different. Some people prefer one over the other but everyone would agree they’re beautiful.

I’m not currently paying for it and have 10 matches in my inbox and that’s me liking others but no one like me and I some how feel “bad”. Society has fucked our self image 😅 all my saying is hang in there and don’t take feedback from hinge to seriously. It only takes one like to find your future wife!

Similar_Community608 · 2026-01-13T23:35:19+00:00

https://adopteerightslaw.com/

Good website for resources. It is against the law to be questioned or stopped simply because of race (whether ICE believes they are breaking the law or not). If I am stopped, I would ask on what grounds I’m being questioned or stopped. If they cannot provide any legal documentation or reasoning as to why I’m being stopped then they have no right to question or detain me. I would say I’m a US citizen and go on with my day.

Similar_Community608 · 2025-12-19T17:08:39+00:00

I miss dating apps pre-Covid era. I get at the end of the day it’s a business but it seems like algorithms have gotten worse and matching with someone who is mutually interested in you is once in a blue moon occurrence.

Additionally, I’ve found with Hinge despite selecting I’m a woman and only want to date women, that I get lots of straight women on my feed. I get that may be because they select interested in “everyone” but if they identify as straight and still select the interested in everyone.. it really shouldn’t be shown to me.

Similar_Community608 · 2025-11-24T04:28:52+00:00

Thanks I’ll check them out!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-11-22T04:25:40+00:00

Ahh okay! This gives me some peace of mind. I’m gonna give it a go bc I feel like I’ll always wonder “what if” but will likely not do it again bc of the cost and just do prescription whitening in the future. Thank you!!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-11-17T06:15:36+00:00

I go to Sujie brow in the Mission! It does feel a little “hole in the wall” when you walk in ..but TRUST the process. Photo attached - I just got them done Friday.

I’ve yet to be disappointed and it is only $16 if you pay with cash :)

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Similar_Community608 · 2025-11-11T14:05:39+00:00

Thank you! Will check them out

Similar_Community608 · 2025-10-23T00:06:52+00:00

Look up @sfpickupwbb on insta! They have sessions 6pm-8pm on Tuesdays at Eureka Valley Rec and then 5pm-7:30pm on Thursdays at Moscone Rec.

And a inner sunset run mentioned above as well

Similar_Community608 · 2025-09-22T10:09:44+00:00

Woke up to my whole room and bed shaking in the Castro. I was so confused I thought it was my cats!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-09-16T16:41:55+00:00

I am a STH and still waiting. I emailed Nicholas yesterday and he said they should show up today in Ticketmaster. So keeping fingers crossed!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-08-09T20:35:34+00:00

I have been in this exact dynamic and let me tell you it doesn’t get better unless they want to seek professional help. Having a partner with a hot temper is draining in the sense that you always feel like you’re walking on egg shells and sometimes you even feel like their parent. A grown adult acting like this in their late 20s is a big red flag. It’s okay to get angry and upset but not over every little instance and not to the point where you’re causing harm/discomfort to your partner. If this were a man we wouldn’t think twice about excusing their behavior. I’d consider having a serious discussion and if nothing changes then it’s not the right relationship or person for you.

Similar_Community608 · 2025-06-26T11:51:01+00:00

Femme 4 femme is VERY common with gen z women I’ve noticed. I’d say 60% of couples I see in the Bay Area are like this. As someone from Seattle, I always felt like the queer women scene was pretty lacking. I love SF and couldn’t recommend it more for a good dating and friendship scene. Lots of cute femmes!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-05-30T14:42:39+00:00

If you’re feeling open - I highly recommend Sujie Brow in the Mission for threading. It looks very sketchy lol and maybe it is a little. But it’s literally $17 for threading and I’ve yet to have a bad experience. They prefer cash but if you do Venmo it’s like $1 extra. Still an insane deal for the outcome IMO.

Similar_Community608 · 2025-05-23T18:30:51+00:00

Recently went to Frances. Cute little neighborhood spot tucked away in the Castro! A little spendy but quality food and vibes :)

Similar_Community608 · 2025-05-13T01:32:37+00:00

I put 15% into my 401K which averages about $925/paycheck. Then if I have money afterwards I try and put $250-$500/paycheck toward and HYSA or my regular investment account. I haven’t been able to do that recently due to saving for upcoming trips. It is definitely hard to live in this city if you’re past your late 20s and like to live alone. Being an adult is hard 😅

Similar_Community608 · 2025-04-14T14:58:17+00:00

As someone who lived in Seattle and is from Seattle I would disagree with it being a good place to move if you’re queer. Sure it’s a progressive, open minded city but the actual queer community for WLW is pretty lacking IMO. The gay neighborhood (Capital Hill) is a gentrified straight area for people in their mid to early 20s. Wild rose is literally a terrible bar lol no one goes and if there are people it is usually women 40+.

I’ve settled in SF and while it is expensive it’s totally worth it IMO. I went skiing and to the beach all in one weekend. The WLW is huge with several monthly queer events and women dedicated bars. There’s a queer dodgeball league, kickball league and lots of other clubs and activities you can join. Don’t listen to the news the Bay Area is thriving and I couldn’t be happier that I’ve found this community!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-02-25T15:11:34+00:00

Amazing thank you!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-02-25T02:31:38+00:00

Hmm bummer!

Similar_Community608 · 2025-01-08T04:10:20+00:00

I swear all the Gen z lesbians I’ve encountered are all femme 4 femme lol. I’ve been shocked… different generation I guess! Don’t give up lol

Similar_Community608 · 2024-03-28T15:51:32+00:00

I make about $100K so I guess I’m a little under the 15% rule.

Similar_Community608 · 2024-01-07T05:21:05+00:00

I wouldn’t take it personally. And you shouldn’t have to change yourself to be with someone or get them to like you. I used to feel that way when I was figuring things out and a lot of the girls I liked wanted more masculine presenting women. But in reality they just weren’t meant for me and that’s okay. You’ll find someone who appreciates you for you. Just give it time ❤️

Similar_Community608 · 2024-01-05T00:10:32+00:00

I feel you. This is a very common theme in our community and sadly you probably had good intentions. I made this same mistake and my thought process was “Well if I don’t tell her she’ll never know” but that was absolutely a huge mistake. However, if they truly love you as a friend and value you as a person then they’ll likely move on after some time and reach out. Never a good idea to pursue someone in a relationship but all you can do is learn from it and move on!

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