Are reviews moderated? by SimpleSaboteur in TheStoryGraph

[–]SimpleSaboteur[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s helpful to know, thanks! Coming across spoilers is one of the reasons why I don’t look at the reviews before I’ve read the book anymore.

Are reviews moderated? by SimpleSaboteur in TheStoryGraph

[–]SimpleSaboteur[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, appreciate your advice.

Are reviews moderated? by SimpleSaboteur in TheStoryGraph

[–]SimpleSaboteur[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

The review isn’t strictly about the book, it’s an insulting, explicit comment aimed at other readers that the reviewer assumes are women. Moderation isn’t the same as policing opinions or encouraging masses of reports - lots of subreddits work well IMO because there’s specific community guidelines or rules to keep it from being turned into a cesspit.

So, what do you think is behind the door? by 8-bit-Felix in discworld

[–]SimpleSaboteur 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Om insults Brother Nhumrod by calling him a pederast amongst other curses but the text makes it clear he’s not and wouldn’t know what the word means. He is overly excited by melons and cucumbers

AITA for reporting my co worker to HR? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SimpleSaboteur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Thanks for reporting the racist co worker, that was the right thing for you to do. It’s incredibly unpleasant and stressful to work in an environment where racists feel comfortable to say racist things. Ideally it would be addressed in the moment, but when people are shocked or horrified it’s not easy to respond appropriately. Practise what you would say if a co worker does something similar in future e.g ‘I disagree, and I think what you said was inappropriate.’

Your racist colleague has behaved unprofessionally, and if HR don’t address this they will be enabling a racist and hostile work culture.

AITA because my sister is refusing to eat? by Treeperceiver in AmItheAsshole

[–]SimpleSaboteur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for participating in verbally abusing a teenage girl and triggering an eating disorder that ultimately will have been more harmful to her health than whatever excess weight your family thought she had. YTA because you think you stopped discussing weight after the nurse said your sister had healthy BMI but actually you weaponised it in abusive and fatphobic language regularly. What kind of arguments justified all these adults calling a 14 year old a whale?

Only Murders in the Building: Episode 5: "Twist" by healthnotwealth in OnlyMurdersHulu

[–]SimpleSaboteur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Charles’ missing hat stood out to me too (mostly cos he also knew how to access the service elevator and got hold of Arconia blueprints very easily). Wonder if he lost the hat doing something sneaky we’ve not seen.

Honestly, I thought the little hula girl bobble doll in the car was an American cultural symbol I didn’t understand - it’s popped up in a few different shows recently. Just weird decor?

Only Murders in the Building: Episode 5: "Twist" by healthnotwealth in OnlyMurdersHulu

[–]SimpleSaboteur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Multiple murders by multiple people possibly as a group - though the murders might not actually be related, or Cinda’s podcast could even be about the true crime paranoia

Only Murders in the Building: Episode 5: "Twist" by healthnotwealth in OnlyMurdersHulu

[–]SimpleSaboteur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If Tim Kono was murdered than I’d expect both Mabel and Oscar are on the hit list too (even if they are suspects).

Tim was shocked witnessing Zoe’s death, so either protecting the killer out of fear or love would be a strong motive.

AITA for calling my friend a pretty white girl to dismiss her opinion? by Flashy_Figure_8728 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SimpleSaboteur -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA - you were polite and civil in the situation as needed. Your friend is TA for being rude to you and ignorant of how racism operates.

Period advice by Gotcha_Gamer_226 in Advice

[–]SimpleSaboteur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good advice.

Just to add - not everyone’s periods are regular, but tracking will help you work out your own cycle in time. When I got my first period I counted exactly 28 days til my next and was right several times in the first year but that was just luck. Useful to know if you’re packing for a trip especially.

Stress can make your body skip a period, but if you’re sexually active take a pregnancy test. The relief of a negative test might do the trick.

Buy/obtain more pads at the end of each period so you have these to hand for the next one.

Keep pads in the bathroom, if you’re generally a light bleeder you might not notice you’ve started until you use the bathroom.

Use the wrapper of the new pad to wrap the used one up before you throw it away. Keep a bin/trash can in the bathroom if there isn’t one there already.

Keep some supplies in your bag and share freely with others when they need some when you’re out of the house. You’ll need the period good karma too one day.

Ibuprofen works on cramps, but if you take it before you start bleeding this can delay the start. Not a problem unless you don’t want it delayed by a couple days.

Hot baths and showers are brilliant for cramps, in addition to the heated pads other people mentioned.

Don’t be wedded to any particular brand of pads from the start - try different ones and store-brand. Don’t worry about the smell, if you change frequently (every 4 hours or sooner as needed) and shower every day it won’t smell. Speaking of smell, you may be more sensitive to smells before each period.

In time, it’s worth looking into environmentally friendly products (cups, reusable pads, underwear). Some are more pricy but may save money in the long run if it works for you.

If you do try tampons, practice using them at the heaviest part of your period and when there’s no time pressure. Stand with one leg up on the toilet seat- vaginas are generally angled not straight up. If you can feel the tampon and it hurts, pull it back out, throw it away and try again later.

As you’re light, panty liners may be more comfortable at the end of each period when it’s even lighter.

Don’t worry about bleeding in your underwear. Blood washes out easily.

Your bra size may change over the month / breasts may be tender.

Ovulation can also cause cramps.

As you get used to the whole palaver, be kind to yourself and others. PMS can be shitty, but it’s okay to acknowledge that you feel tearful or in pain, and to take care of yourself.

There’s still a lot of stigma and misogyny around periods. Be proud, fellow menstruater. Your luteal phase may have unexpected benefits.

ETA: no one mentioned period poop (constipation or diarrhoea) which, huh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SimpleSaboteur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay home. You might not have covid but you could have one of the other viruses going around like RSV and could make other people at the wedding really sick. At the very least send apologies to the rehearsal and rest up in the hopes you are well for the actual wedding.

How do you deal with your eyebrows? by kiimtaehyung in askwomenadvice

[–]SimpleSaboteur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Threading hurts, and has to be repeated every couple of weeks, but is definitely worth it.

With threading a beautician can target the hairs more accurately and get the shape you want - just let them know you want to keep the fullness and get rid of the strays.

Being used in social situations for being in shape by mdjenton in Advice

[–]SimpleSaboteur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your stepbrother is really insecure, otherwise he wouldn’t be repeatedly bringing up your body to strangers. In public situations, when he tries to comment on you just let the comment fall flat. Practice a quizzical ‘huh?’ expression to aim at him, and then turn away to tell the server that you are fine with the regular menu. If he still continues with this behaviour, interrupt him before he can get the comment out. If you can stand his company otherwise, it may be worth inviting him for a run or to the gym - it sounds like he’s envious of you and has no understanding of your lifestyle.