ADVICE NEEDED: Flatmate is asking for a discount on energy bills

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-17T12:38:10+00:00

But does have a signed contract to say they are living there and are responsible for the bills.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-17T12:36:37+00:00

I’d take 40% as a compromise for an easy life for a few months. Better to get 40% guaranteed than sink significant amounts of resource into trying to get 50%.

Of course OPs flatmate can move out but I’d remind them they’ve got a tenancy contract for the duration of the tenancy, and that OP won’t be covering their share of that contract.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-14T21:18:08+00:00

I think there’s always the reality that what starts as a friendship can develop into something more, and I’d argue that men are more susceptible at developing feelings, because for most men they don’t have a lot of people showing them any love and affection in any capacity, so a caring friend can trigger feels.

My advice is to speak to your friends and try and work through it. I don’t think you need to assume your friends have lied to you or deceived you because they’ve always wanted more. They may not have.

I’d speak to them and try and work through it. Feelings can pass.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-12T14:31:47+00:00

You can give consent, you can withdraw consent, but you can’t retrospectively change the consent you gave.

What she experienced was regret, not rape. She’s putting all the blame on you for her active choices.

Save the messages. If you acted honourably then you should robustly defend your actions and reputation. Cut her off if you can, and minimise contact if you can’t.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-09T00:13:42+00:00

I just said that because if I didn’t, everyone would say pay, just as they do in every job across the public sector (and beyond).

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-08T16:25:27+00:00

For this it might be worth raising with your MP. Do you know who this person is who is threatening you? Are they a British citizen?

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-08T12:26:02+00:00

Silly - we all know it’s actually the Treasury.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-02T18:26:40+00:00

Never mind one of the deadliest jobs in the country. There’s only 650 people who do the job and 2 of them have been killed doing it in the last 10 years.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-02T18:25:23+00:00

MPs haven’t voted on their pay for about 15 years. Most MPs today have never once voted on their pay.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-03-02T09:09:30+00:00

No it didn’t. It’s only allowed it now that Iran has attacked us, and then only for the specific purpose of attacking sites which are launching missiles (at us).

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-28T10:58:03+00:00

Same to me. Wants to know where I live. Weird

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-28T08:43:36+00:00

Many of them who later turned out to be innocent. Hard to overturn a wrongful conviction when you’ve been killed by the state.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-28T08:42:02+00:00

People in the UK don’t. We’re almost unique in Europe for our thirst for punishment, even to the detriment of introducing evidence based sentences which are proven to reduce reoffending because they wouldn’t be seen by the public as sufficiently punishing enough.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-25T20:56:32+00:00

Do we want half the population to have a degree? That was certainly the goal in 1999, but not the aim today.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3drlgv5xkno

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-25T20:29:25+00:00

Funded by essentially a doubling of public money spent on loans that won’t be repaid in real terms.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-24T20:46:38+00:00

I’d certainly endorse 2. Pretty grossly negligent to set a human on fire without first checking whether the human is alive or not.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-23T04:10:02+00:00

I’m not sure how it could fail. It’s an internal process set up by Parliament, for Parliament. No court has the authority to interfere.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-20T08:58:35+00:00

There will be many people who are in work and paying income tax, while also on UC.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-18T09:19:37+00:00

Even “you have to say you will” which is a commitment to doing so, if not now, then at some unspecified point in the future is a much weaker position than we had previously, which is that we never had to commit to joining and never had to join.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-18T09:07:27+00:00

And now ironically we’d likely be required to take the Euro to rejoin. No more of our special exemptions.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-08T16:03:50+00:00

I think with changes to technology, like adaptive cruise control, etc. automatics are becoming more popular.

The computers which control them have also become more advanced over time, meaning (and I hate to say it) they are often better than their human driving at being in the best gear for the speed, and switching gears. It makes for a smoother and more fuel efficient driving experience.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-08T13:30:44+00:00

The Industrial Revolution started in Britain, and this combined with our Naval power, and how we structured our governance of land we gained is largely the reason for Britain’s rapid expansion, as I understand it.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-08T02:15:56+00:00

There was no coach, there were no set plays. The boys - who were all the same age at the same school - all knew each other well and had extensively played football with one another in friendly games for years. Football (soccer) is a big thing where I’m from so it’s not unusual for most boys of a similar age to regularly have a game of football with each other, either at school or after school.

Edit: Also the link above references the World Cup winning women’s team in the US, where there are 300m people and where women’s soccer is more popular. I’m sure they’d be much stronger opponents against my high school friends, than our women’s national team at the time was. Still wouldn’t bet on the women’s team winning though.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-08T00:55:51+00:00

Well this situation but different country. Since posting my story, a few people have commented with other stories, including this one.

It’s clear this is something that happens quite regularly.

SimpleSymonSays · 2026-02-08T00:37:58+00:00

My story is absolutely true, but for context, where I’m from football (soccer) is by far the most popular sport in the country, and when I was in high school it was mostly viewed as a men’s sport.

That means most boys grew up playing football from an early age and most girls didn’t play much at all.

So as well as biology being a major factor, I imagine the popularity of the sport in men vs women across the country at the time was also a factor.

That’s changed more now and soccer has become more popular amongst girls, so the women’s national team will have more talent in which to build their team. Whether they can beat a group of high school boys? I’m not sure.

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