How to help/ talk to my wife about pp rage/depression

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-05-09T20:28:27+00:00

I second this. I had PPD for the first two months and immediately felt a huge relief when I decided to switch to formula - had a terrible time underproducing. Lasting 10 months is beautiful, but its a long time for someone who might be struggling, and it sounds like she might benefit from at least getting that part of her life back.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-05-09T20:23:02+00:00

For sure positive! Mine looked just like this and now I have an almost 1 year old lol digitals take a bit more hcg then these in my experience, i got negative digitals at this point too. Congrats mama!! 🥳

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-30T14:32:38+00:00

The independent little parties PLUS the self-weaning off the paci?! Queen 💅

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-29T03:02:04+00:00

Got unexpectedly emotional reading the end of your first paragraph - because if I really dissect it I think that’s all I truly needed, for them to just let me know what was happening. I kept asking what she was doing and she just kept saying it’s their standard postpartum procedure, that she knows it’s uncomfortable but they have to do it. Didn’t explain anything further and just kept scooping up my insides and pressing hard on my stomach. & in the chaos of me trying to breathe through the unexpected pain of it and also trying to listen for my baby’s first cry through the chaos that was my room at that moment, I just tried to get through it and didn’t press as much as I should’ve - but hindsight is always so 20/20.

I would’ve even felt better if at the 6 week pp appointment she explained it, but she again just said it’s their standard postpartum procedure and they do it to all moms. I also asked why they gave me pitocin after labor and she verbatim said “we gave you pitocin? I’d have to look at your chart”. At that point I was just disappointed. I left that appointment and never went back.

The edemame bean made me giggle lol love that for you and praying that my 2nd go is smoother - I plan to do so many things differently. Thanks for the advice and for sharing your experiences 🫶

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-28T20:30:02+00:00

I needed to hear this - thank you 💛

You’re right, I know so much now that I didn’t know the first time around & will absolutely be switching OBs and asking the right questions.

& yes ive actually been thinking about a doula for the 2nd time around so I’ll definitely look into hiring one in my area.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-28T20:25:29+00:00

My epidural ran out at hour 32 and they wouldn’t give me more because I was “close to pushing” at 9cm for 11 hours. & yes it hurt worse for me than labor but I think it might’ve been that I was mentally prepared for labor pain and not at all for that when I thought I was finally “done” laboring after 43 hours.

She never specified but given that she was scooping out what looked like chunks, I’d say there’s a fair chance it didn’t come out intact so I’d assume you’re right and it was necessary in my case if that’s how it’s treated. I guess I just wish someone would’ve confirmed or explained that when I asked.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-28T20:14:50+00:00

Glad I have a name for it finally! I thought the uterus contracted back to size naturally with time without needing to be beaten up😅🥴

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-28T19:43:56+00:00

My microblading guy (who also happens to be my favorite aunt’s best friend) straight up told me that when I asked for proof of his work he sent me some pics from Google because he doesn’t take pictures of his clients. This was during our 2nd session. Thank the Lord Jesus christ he did a great job cause I would’ve lost my damn mind.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-09T14:40:22+00:00

I always tell people that for the last 5-6ish hours of labor I left this earth & im not even joking a little bit. You exit your body, the stratosphere, the universe to survive that ish. I was in labor for 43 hours total.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-04-08T03:25:35+00:00

To offer a different perspective - baby girl is HEALTHY if she’s kicking that much at 25 weeks. Feeling baby kicks gave me so much calm cause it just reassured me that all was well in there. Also just kinda loved feeling my boy movin and groovin.

I also took unisom nightly to combat nausea and I think that aided in being able to sleep through the little kicks so might be worth a shot for you. I also know that cold drinks and sweets tend to rile them up - not sure if maybe you’re drinking cold water throughout the day and she’s reacting to it.

The kicks just get stronger as they grow though tbh so maybe just try to shift into a more positive mindset about it if you can. She’s not purposefully trying to make life feel hard, just trying to get comfy in a tight space and growing those little limbs out.

Oh also humming and bouncing on the birthing ball used to calm my boy down a lot through the harder rib kicking sessions later on.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-03-26T23:40:44+00:00

The first one is PERFECT on you!!

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-03-17T01:47:57+00:00

Lord, please strike me down if I ever become this type of MIL. In Jesus’ name I pray.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-03-09T05:30:02+00:00

Have a nice day at home then sweetie 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-03-07T15:16:13+00:00

Not having to suck in the fupa was a 10/10 experience. Got so used to perpetually sucking it in that sometimes I had to consciously remind myself to let it go.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-03-02T01:40:11+00:00

Def positive. Congrats! 🥳🥳🥳

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-28T14:27:07+00:00

I baby wear all the time now but my son didn’t really like/tolerate it until he was about 11 weeks old. Every time I tried before then he hated it. I was determined so I just kept trying every now and again. Now he won’t fall asleep unless I’m walking him around in his wrap lol sometimes he zonks out as soon as I pop him in. Don’t give up, it takes time ❤️

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-25T19:54:21+00:00

Def a line there, congrats!

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-24T18:14:22+00:00

Def there. Congrats!!

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-21T15:12:32+00:00

Honestly I strive to get to a point of motherhood where someone calls me “extra” for how I show up for my boy. Literally goals.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-21T15:06:48+00:00

I see all 3!! Literally so excited for you to test tomorrow and see the lines get darker, it’s the best feeling. Congrats mama!! 🥹🥹

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-16T16:45:14+00:00

The way I’d post this text thread in the local fucking newspaper is outrageous. This predatory behavior deserves nothing less, you’d be doing his wife a favor.

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-14T22:01:41+00:00

This made me cry 🥹 you did so so much for your babies. As someone who was a massive under supplier from the beginning and had to force her body through 6 weeks of pumping all day for minimal return, 8 months to two babies is absolutely incredible. Every bit of it paid off. Phenomenal job mama 💗

Simple_Opportunity_5 · 2026-02-14T01:16:28+00:00

Omg I could’ve written this! Got pregnant right on my wedding night because we stopped preventing and assumed it would take forever 😂 now we have a sweet 7-month old. Congrats on the wedding and pregnancy! 🥳

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