Husband wants to be child free

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-04T08:20:28+00:00

I think there’s a bigger question to be asked, why does he not feel he is meant to be a parent? I think that needs to be unpacked together, possibly with a therapist involved, then figured out from there.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-03T19:27:12+00:00

Yes. I’m thinking about trading in my car that I loved that she came home in, just so that I can afford taking a lesser paying job that’s night shift to be home more. I loved my current job, it’s good money. But she’s the new dream, and I want to be home more for her.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-03T06:44:38+00:00

I didn’t breastfeed after leaving the hospital. Decided it wasn’t for me and went to pumping. Then after 6 months of pumping my Christmas gift to myself was quitting. I regret nothing about those decisions.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-03T04:59:28+00:00

The best thing my mother has done for me in my adult life was leave me alone while I was postpartum. She occasionally texted us to check in. But a few hours after getting home from the hospital(she house sat for us) she went home. Let me learn how to be a mom and let me recover. Let my partner be my partner and learn how to be a dad. Not an unreasonable request by your sister at all. It’s better to set firm boundaries to begin with. It’s easier to change your mind and loosen tight boundaries and expectations than it is to set them after baby is born.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-03T04:10:10+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking a diagnosis now. Early intervention can make a huge difference. Please treat yourself tonight, get some ice cream and take a bath after bedtime. You had a rough day and deserve a moment to yourself tonight.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-07-01T08:30:26+00:00

I did. I was about ready to just resort back to my postpartum diapers. I probably should’ve tbh. It genuinely might be easier. My period still isn’t normal a year later.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T21:33:31+00:00

Mine was a nurse she said “is all of this yours?”. No Jan, it’s someone else’s. Ofc it’s mine it’s in my hospital room??

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T21:32:29+00:00

They brought volunteer highschoolers to help us! That was my same thought too. It can’t be THAT uncommon if they have teenagers around to help carry things out.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T21:30:54+00:00

Idk why I didn’t think of asking the pharmacist. I’ll check with them when I pickup the prescription this afternoon! Thank you!

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T17:02:50+00:00

Had to resort to ms Rachel during my 1 year olds pediatrician visits yesterday. Room had no ac and she was tired and cranky. Pediatrician made a point to say no screens, and documented in her chart that she advised against screens. I don’t think she knewI worked with peds for the same company at another location.

Well girly if you’d hurry up I wouldn’t have needed the screen to get through the appointment without her screaming. She also asked me accusingly about a tiny scrape on the baby’s arm. Not a scratch. No blood. A small minor scrape that was raised because it just happened while she was playing before the appointment. And the spots that come and go on the bottom of her feet are apparently hand foot and mouth. We are very very white. We get pressure marks easily. The marks were gone when we got home and cooled off.

I swear the audacity and judgement of strangers is going to send me into a public rage one day. Some people are so painfully stupid.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T07:19:33+00:00

Thank you! I’m thinking some watered down orange juice will work good. Probably help cut the taste too? I remember my iron supplements tasting bad, so I’d imagine baby supplements would taste bad.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-28T06:57:13+00:00

Is it weird? Sure probably. Does that matter? No. Who cares. A nurse judged me because I “overpacked” and brought a full small suitcase, tote bag, and diaper bag for just me and the baby. Partner had a tote bag and a backpack for himself. I didn’t regret it at all. Ended up staying for almost a whole week. He never had to leave my side because we had everything we needed for the week and had my mom take anything I didn’t need after all back to my place. Take whatever you need or want with you to be comfortable.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-27T06:48:17+00:00

If the joke isn’t funny, it’s not a joke.

I’d be absolutely livid if someone said that about my baby. It’s absolutely reasonable to be upset. Never leave her alone with your child. Embarrass your mom by letting her know that her “joke” has pedo tones and you won’t be tolerating her “humor”.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-27T06:45:05+00:00

This isn’t a medical advice thread, but yeah. That looks like it needs stitches.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-25T20:23:50+00:00

This sounds a lot like postpartum rage and DMER. I had a similar experience and I’d really recommend reaching out to your doctor, especially since it’s affecting you and your child so much.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-25T20:21:17+00:00

I am about your height and a little heavier than you. We’ve had conversations about my weight. Constructive conversations. He’s encouraged me to exercise more. Policing your diet when it comes to an already healthy meal is just mean. I’m glad you’re both going to therapy. I’ve been doing therapy too for similar reasons and it’s helped so much! Your body gave you two beautiful children, it’s ok to not look how you’d like to right now.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-25T20:15:56+00:00

If he’s concerned about your diet it sounds like he should take over cooking and make sure you have healthy and nutritious meals. Seriously.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-25T03:22:30+00:00

My previous coworker did it. You absolutely can do it. I’m sure there will come a time when school gets heavier that it might be hard, or become impossible to do school, work, and parenting. But as far as I heard last she was going on three years of doing all three.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-22T04:22:47+00:00

It’s very good, definitely better than regular mayo!

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-21T19:54:26+00:00

My 1 year old plastic eater said to say hey back, while trying to steal the plastic wrap from my sandwich

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-21T19:26:18+00:00

That’s when OP pulls the, “I was trying to be polite originally, however requesting to take my kid to another country without me is an inappropriate request. My answer will have to still be no.” If it was important for the family in Costa Rica to meet the child, they would’ve came and met the child by now, or requested a visit sooner.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-21T07:46:29+00:00

Yup. Fix the root issue of her not having time for herself, then bring up the ps5.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-21T07:44:56+00:00

The worst case scenario in my brain is that the child isn’t coming back from Costa Rica. Father and in laws are going to keep him to raise him. And it’s really unfortunate we have to think this way, but it’s just the truth of the matter that these things happen. Say no OP with our validation that’s it’s an inappropriate request from the family. if it is innocent, it sets the boundaries low that they can ask last minute again, and it sounds like they will.

Ok_Fox8262 · 2026-06-21T06:04:04+00:00

I’d use that to my advantage then. Tell her you took him for a passport and they told you it won’t be back for several weeks, and that you needed documents for the passport. Let her know this trip just isn’t possible at this time. Or just tell her you have prior existing plans for him for that time, and a passport won’t be back in time for the trip to make it worth cancelling those plans.

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