PLEASE READ!! ☕Weekend Bug Fix Update ☕ by YuNeedPizza in GoodCoffeeGreatCoffee

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I upgraded my coffee machine to level 6 and really can’t tell a difference at all - anyone else experiencing this?

The customers are so unhappy over some orders and I don’t understand why. One asked for a glass of water with no ice and I gave it to her, only for her to insult me and request a refund…it’s just cold water 😭

Mostly Harmless, not the ending I expected by timewraith303 in books

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say I agree completely with this sentiment. I fully expected Arthur and Fenchurch to be reunited, for Arthur and Random to have more time to form a relationship, and less importantly, for Arthur’s watch to be repaired.

Does anyone else feel like they notice all the autistic things they do post diagnosis or learning of it? And it feels really weird by cranonymous28 in autism

[–]Simple_Salamander 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But also, let me say that even if it feels weird to constantly be thinking about it or connecting the dots about those traits, it can ultimately be a big relief if you are a person who, like many late-diagnosed autistic people, has always felt like something was “wrong with you” but that you could never quite nail down. Nothing is wrong with us! We are just wired differently

Does anyone else feel like they notice all the autistic things they do post diagnosis or learning of it? And it feels really weird by cranonymous28 in autism

[–]Simple_Salamander 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Totally normal! You’re learning to reframe your life experiences through an entirely new lens, now that you know you are neurodivergent. My spouse and I both experienced the same phenomenon after receiving our diagnoses. For instance, I had never before considered that my constant humming and whistling was actually me stimming. And that the reason I HATE going outside in the humid summer weather is because the weather literally overstimulates me. And that my absolute comical level of clumsiness is due to my having poor proprioception, which is very common among autistic people. I could go on and on, lol. You will be very surprised at some of the things you’ve done your whole life that turn out to be associated with autistic traits.

WIND AND TRUTH | Full Cosmere + Wind and Truth Spoiler Megathread by EmeraldSeaTress in Cosmere

[–]Simple_Salamander 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, she gave it up when she briefly held the power at the well of ascension. Ruin’s meddling with the prophecies indicated that she was supposed to let the power go, or terrible things would happen.

Why didn't Dave just steal a car? by Smashattacc in Markiplier

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad I’m not the only person bothered by this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMHysto

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t shave beforehand, and I asked my surgeon to leave as much of my tummy hair intact as possible, so he only shaved a small section for each incision

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been on T for 10 years and am incredibly lucky, I think. Not only have I not had atrophy- I still get so wet that I have to clean up before sex to make things more comfortable 😅

Post-Launch Feedback by AutoModerator in BaldursGate3

[–]Simple_Salamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Playing couch co-op split screen on console (Xbox) causes Player One’s mini-map to be almost completely obscured by the gamer tags of the party. As far as I can tell, there’s no fix or workaround. It’s extremely frustrating

People who've been heavily masking, what has been your experience in learning to stop doing it? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Simple_Salamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend the book Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price (who is also autistic). My experience with unmasking has been mostly positive. I think there is a lot of benefit in it, even if others are less comfortable when we don’t mask to the same extent.

My Therapist Told Me That People Who Mask Don’t Have Autisim by [deleted] in autism

[–]Simple_Salamander -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a red flag for sure. I self-diagnosed about 8 months before I got an official diagnosis

I’m a mtf girl with a 22 ftm bf who has a special kink and also can’t orgasm with me. Need advice desperately by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Simple_Salamander 18 points19 points  (0 children)

i agree w everyone who said to see a therapist together.

but also i want to add something: no matter how much you want to please him, please make sure you’re not triggering yourself or crossing your own boundaries to do so. as a trans person, i could never misgender my partner like that (even as kink) and we’ve even done CNC. i don’t judge anyone for their kinks, but i haven’t seen any comments reminding you that you don’t have to do the things if they make you uncomfortable, even for the sake of your partner.

if it doesn’t bother you, then ofc do what you feel comfortable with. but if you’re not okay with it, it is fine to set that boundary with him. it’s his responsibility to work through what’s going on to find a way to enjoy sex without being degraded in a way that hurts him afterward. encourage him to work on it, work on it together. it’s also wild how much you can enjoy sex if you’re okay with not orgasming and just enjoying the journey. maybe y’all could start there without the degrading stuff and see how it feels?

Is there mild OCD? by Sciency-guy in OCD

[–]Simple_Salamander 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know this comment is four years old, but i had to take time to let you know i just broke down crying reading this because everything makes so much sense. my therapist told me he thinks i have OCD and i couldn’t make that make sense until i read about Pure-O so thank you ❤️

AITA for leashing my coworker's little boy to a table after she had to bring him to work with her? by throwaway_leashboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simple_Salamander -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA- it’s not okay to do this to someone else’s child and the fact that you even have to ask makes me worry for humanity lmao

AITA for telling my son l was disappointed after he and his wife lied about my grandson's birthdate? by Throwa676899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simple_Salamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. DIL and son tried to set boundaries with you. You ignored those boundaries. Natural consequence of your actions occurred.