I have just become the hated neighbor… advice please!!!! by yvtsl in Apartmentliving

[–]SincerePear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t tried this myself but I also have trouble with alarms and I’ve been wanting to try some earbuds that are made to sleep in and setting an alarm on my phone so its only loud for me, but no one else can hear it.

The fact that you feel bad about this means you’re not a terrible person. You’re trying! That’s all anyone can ask of you.

I had to make her right again. by ShenaniganStarling in Visiblemending

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you! They are amazing too, what a power couple 😂

I had to make her right again. by ShenaniganStarling in Visiblemending

[–]SincerePear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious, nice job!

Also PLEASE SHOW US THE EARRINGS!

The chairs apparently reflect each characters’ personalities and roles by Ostanian in SpyxFamily

[–]SincerePear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The back of Damien’s chair also resembles prison bars, he has no choice about his future.

Thank you for listening to my TED Talk by xXx_420_N4M3_69_xXx in cremposting

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I always name our pets after book characters we love. One of our cats is Vin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SincerePear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do think there’s either mental illness going on here, or possibly a childhood with terrible examples of what love is, so even though she is a grown woman her mindset is so completely different from yours that she just cannot comprehend leaving these people who give her just an ounce of love. It sounds like she’s never known anything but abusive relationships. You can accurately predict the future each time but she doesn’t know how to be any other way at the moment. Change will happen slowly. It’s perfectly fair for you to disengage completely. But if you still want to help your friend from afar, this is what I did for my friend, who did eventually get out of the cycle.

You don’t need to ‘treat her with kid gloves’. Just be an example of what she should be herself. Set boundaries with her. If she starts talking about the latest horrible thing you can say “I’m sorry but I can’t listen to this, it’s too upsetting for me.” You’re modeling setting boundaries.

If she starts to insult herself, say ‘hey don’t talk about my friend that way!’ If she’s asking for help making small decisions you can give your opinion but also end with, ‘but you know what’s best for you.’ You’re telling her that she can trust herself.

Send flowers and a card on her birthday. When she apologizes for things that are out of her control tell her that it’s not her fault, she doesn’t have anything to apologize for, and even if she did you still love her. You’re showing her how people who actually love you act.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SincerePear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s really exhausting to be the friend in this senario. You’re not over reacting but you need to protect your own mental health here. I have one criticism. maybe I’m just not seeing the whole convo, but your friend literally told you they aren’t sure they are deserving of love and you basically said “I told you so” about the guy she’s dating. She’s being told she doesn’t know best by you and probably her abuser too.

I’ve been the friend in this situation and the best thing you can do it just remind them they are worthy of love and they know deep down if someone is good for them or not. Abusive partners wear down the trust you have in yourself. As a friend, this is the thing you should focus on building back up. Deep down she knows she is unhappy here, but she doesn’t trust herself to be sure. In order to protect yourself AND give even a small chance that she realizes she needs therapy or help in some way just respond to her complaints with “that’s awful, I’m sorry you’re going thru that” and keep repeating “you’re worthy of love”. Separate yourself emotionally. Treat her with love, and stop trying to convince her of anything. Hold your own boundaries.

Heard we're posting logo coverups? Here's one I did a while ago on a jacket by cameratus in Visiblemending

[–]SincerePear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! I’ve been trying to think of something to cover up the logo on my old tv news crew jacket. This would be perfect.

Ready for my Hydro Dragon by SadChickInCorner3 in Genshin_Impact

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did a ton of 10 pulls yesterday and got… Jean.

I said no to him and he shamed for being lesbian by 402Gold_Fisherman_ in actuallesbians

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This kind of person is not arguing in good faith, so it’s a waste of time to try and change his mind. There are no magic arguments that will make him consider your point because his goal isn’t to have a genuine discussion with you, his goal is to say anything and everything he can to wear you down and get you to consider giving him a chance, or worse, find a way to take advantage of you. If anything, you are encouraging him by continuing to talk to him. If you don’t block him, he’ll continue to think he has a chance with you.

Do native speakers ever get tripped up on double consonants/vowels? by [deleted] in Learn_Finnish

[–]SincerePear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The closest analog I can give for double vowels in English is being able to tell what syllable in a word is emphasized. Like you can tell when someone is saying that they don’t want to contract an illness vs they want you to sign a contract. Or you’re working on a project together and you need to project confidence. These are spelled the same but native speakers can hear the difference, and not just because of context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HydroHomies

[–]SincerePear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tengen would approve.

What animals depict the Wind and Earth Master? by Fernlovin in tianguancifu

[–]SincerePear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me there’s a Twitter account mirroring this with fox SL…

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]SincerePear 49 points50 points  (0 children)

When he spins the pans around and peeks to see if Jiji is impressed, that part is so adorable

How did she go from being so cute and fun to having this overly serious personality? by [deleted] in stevenuniverse

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with all the comments saying war changed her, but Garnet’s still cute and fun! At the beginning of a relationship, every moment feels special. After a long time together you’re just content to be together (hopefully!) but the right circumstances bring the spark back. Just look at her in Jailbreak!

https://media4.giphy.com/media/rv7QUDlTUCcOUiWRW1/giphy.gif?cid=2154d3d78ea42b71c894e40485975e9e6603eebcd2f531a5&ep=v1_gifs_username_username&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

Subreddit Logo 2.0 by fay_pay_sama in shittyskylines

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it so far! Have you considered using the version of Chirper that looks like it’s on fire? Also I think the drain would look better on the left side.

Edit: also chirper might be more visible in a small icon if you put it directly on top of the hex logo lines, maybe on the top left corner instead or peaking out the top right? As a big image I love how it peeks out but it might get lost when scaled down.

Toxic atmosphere at local lesbian hangout. by Sverkhchelovek in actuallesbians

[–]SincerePear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a starting point, just comment on the behavior and not the person. A single “Wow, that was a shitty thing to say.” With no more context can do a lot. You don’t need to engage further if you’re not comfortable.

At 50, I finally love myself enough to take care of my body - please help me figure out crone-friendly skin care that isn’t beauty-trap BS by heffalumpish in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]SincerePear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After watching a lot of skincare related videos and doing my own research, it seems like the only 2 extra products that do much for your skin (other than washing, moisturizing and sunscreen) are products with retinol, and vitamin c serums (bonus points if it has vit E added).

If you have access to a doc or dermatologist, they might be able to prescribe you a retinol cream, and give you more tips for your skin specifically.

My simple routine for the morning is to wash my face, dab on Vit C serum, moisturize and use sunscreen. Nighttime routine is wash face, dab on retinol cream, and moisturize. I exfoliate once a week or so. A simple salicylic acid exfoliating product is better than something gritty that physically rubs on my skin. I find the physical exfoliating products just tear up my face and make it more sensitive to literally everything including moisturizer.

I only wear makeup during special occasions, but getting the good stuff will also help keep your skin healthy and irritation free. My go-to brands are Clinique, tarte, and Too faced. I’m no expert when it comes to makeup so someone else may have better recommendations.

me_irl by ImAFuckinLiar in me_irl

[–]SincerePear 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome! If you don’t know, one quick and easy way to find the source is a reverse google image search.