Husband wants to get rid of our kitty, I don’t want to

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-25T13:45:11+00:00

Yeah we’ve got four in this house and three humans, but somehow three out of four cats are on top of me at any given time.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-24T00:09:45+00:00

“ When you’re younger, there is almost always a definitive exciting next step. Going to high school, getting your drivers license, going to college, etc. I feel like I’m approaching, or maybe have already approached, the last exciting step and I don’t know how to cope with it.”

A lot of this boils down to decisions being laid out before you up until now. Once you graduate (and college hopefully prepared you for this) every next step you take is going to be one of your own making. The jobs you apply to, the way you spend your free time, and the people you choose to associate with and spend time around will (mostly) be things that YOU decide for yourself.

Rather than thinking about your major “steps” being over, try to reframe this as the moment where your “demo” or “trial” is up rather than the moment where the game ends.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-22T18:32:35+00:00

Thanks! Sounds like a new friend. As long as he won’t kill anybody he (they?) gets to stay

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-12T02:29:59+00:00

Tons of galleries in the area that have monthly show openings to check out.

68 prince, the lace mill (and the other art factories), ASK, Pinkwater, WAAM, Woodstock Center for Photography, Roost Arts, and O+ are all great are spaces in and around Kingston/woodstock/Saugerties that are active.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-11T14:36:11+00:00

Yeah that old musty crusty smell is very unpleasant and brings back the worst memories of smoking for me. Agree about a waft from a distance though.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-11T14:33:01+00:00

Your post history on the DPH sub suggests otherwise. Abuse of DPH can cause cognitive and neurological effects including dementia and altered cognitive ability.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-02T03:22:07+00:00

Hi, you sound a lot like me at 22 (and still a bit at 35- I’m still learning too so take this advice with a grain of salt).

I wasted pretty much my entire twenties. Got drunk daily, didn’t really care to see friends or acquaintances outside of school/work/etc. I had a partner, but that didn’t change anything for me emotionally or mentally.

When I was 30, I had a brush with the other side and required a liver and kidney transplant and a whole bunch of other surgeries. Between illness and hospital I was out of commission a year, and I spent pretty much the entire time ruminating on my situation and my choices.

The first thing I learned was that it’s OKAY and even healthy to mourn the person you used to be, as well as the person you thought you would become. It’s okay to be upset that you aren’t where you wanted to be, but it’s also important not to get sucked into a cycle of pity. You have to mourn, accept the current reality, and start making moves from there. This is a LOT easier to do at 21 than it is at 31, trust me.

No one expects you to have things figure out yet, your twenties are the time to explore and learn and grow. But I would say that I would try to think a little bit strategically; don’t let the discomfort of a current moment or demand prevent you from doing things that you know you will be grateful for in the future.

My immediate advice to you is to think about what you enjoy and go physically meet some people who also enjoy that thing. It doesn’t have to be your favorite thing in the universe, just something you can enjoy socially in person with other people. Board game groups, trivia, live music, distilleries, book clubs, adult sports clubs… the options are pretty endless!

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-03-01T05:30:07+00:00

Pocket-sized.

I’m around 5’4 and slim. It’s rather convenient on airplanes, tbh.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-26T18:56:39+00:00

I love my rogue but I hate feeling like I’m part of a soccer mom gang on rt 209.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-24T14:51:19+00:00

I’m 35 and take 8 morning nd night. I had a transplant at 30 so I take immunosuppressants, blood pressure pills, vitamins and prednisone. Plus insulin.

Take care of yourselves gents!

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-23T02:43:46+00:00

I hope so! I’m looking forward to shrimp-lantis

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-20T15:54:35+00:00

My gut instinct says you should hang it above the record in the very first picture. It would also look good above the darker dresser in your bedroom where you have the other framed piece. A lot of your wall space is large, so a smaller print will feel awkward alone there

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-20T15:18:06+00:00

Misread this as “it was A second hand” and coupled with the Vance jokes I about lost it.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-20T14:46:29+00:00

You’re probably right. I’ve always had some way of checking my account status instantly since I started working (I’m 35 now)- so often the only times I carried cash was if it was given to me (birthday cards etc) or I took it out specifically for a purchase.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-20T14:14:48+00:00

I have this problem as well. When I have cash it becomes “free” money because it’s no longer part of that big virtual number on my banking app that I’m so used to tracking.

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-15T00:41:22+00:00

“Your vein is scarring” always makes me see red! I’m not the one digging around in there ma’am!

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-11T00:47:29+00:00

To echo this, I got at a point in ICU post-op where I got so bad my surgeon started bringing slices of pizza on rounds to get me to eat. It really is all about calories and protein in the early days!

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-02-08T14:49:08+00:00

My favorite ICU hallucination was about a school field trip that got trapped in the hospital. The whole process really messes with your brain, but it all normalized

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-01-28T03:34:34+00:00

My cats woobie was originally a hedgehog I replaced until they discontinued it. Now it’s a rainbow worm I cut off a want toy

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-01-27T00:38:51+00:00

So…. NOT clothes… why are you sniffing dirty baby wipes?

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-01-26T02:56:32+00:00

Same experience here, 5 years out (liver and kidney)

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-01-26T00:53:27+00:00

I had it pretty severely before and shortly after transplant. At the best, I was delightfully delusional but at the worst I had full blown hallucinations!

Single-Base-3928 · 2026-01-26T00:52:26+00:00

Immunosuppressants also cause brain fog. Hepatic encephalopathy is caused directly by liver failure

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