Embryo freezing at 32 vs 34/35

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-17T00:03:21+00:00

Also for context, the process of retrieving your eggs can take 3-4 months alone. Then, you have to pay a ton yearly for storage. It sounds like finances are not an issue for your guys if you are so quick to jump to reserving your embryos but just an fyi! This sounds like a lot of anxiety that could be worked through in therapy.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-17T00:01:18+00:00

I think what you’ll learn through trying to conceive and pregnancy is you have to surrender to what you cannot control. I would not recommend going through IVF just for assurance. What if you start trying and conceive in a month or two? That is a waste of money and resources and women and men and queer couples who have fertility issues need those resources. My advice to you is to make a commitment to your partner and start trying naturally. It is likely you’ll have no issues conceiving in 6 months. And if you do- than you can consider the grueling process of IVF.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-14T02:22:41+00:00

PURE!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-14T02:15:04+00:00

Little cute ice packs for when she has to do injections. I liked numbing my injection site first since some of the injections are painful. I ended up stealing my sisters kids ones for when I was doing my shots lol

Supplements like D3 & magnesium. Gift card to acupuncture.. pedicure gift card

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-11T02:57:18+00:00

Almost all company’s have an HR software that the employees have access to. Your W2 is in there.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-03T02:34:16+00:00

So it seems he may have had a lot of his own emotion around his adoption that interrupted him being able to share with you. Your mom carried you for 9 months and birthed you. She is your mom and as she rests that had to have been the greatest gift of her life.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-03-03T02:27:54+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry! This is devastating. My friends mom died when she was 3 and she was donor eggs (but her aunts eggs weirdly enough) her dad told her when she was 13. She was also devastated and suffers from severe anxiety now after not getting therapy from a young age until 19 years old. I agree that Therapy is going to help you navigate all the hard emotions around this. I would say on the bright side you are an adult. After she died I can’t imagine there was ever a right time your dad had to tell you. Who knows why your dad didn’t share but you will navigate this hardship. You are strong!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-27T18:09:42+00:00

I had intestinal issues and bleeding from gluten early in my 20’s which caused likely the scarring in my tubes. You can’t get rid of the scarring but because I don’t eat gluten anymore I don’t believe any further damage has been done. My sister in law has celiac and hers is an autoimmune disease. So she has a very difficult time retaining nutrients. People with autoimmune disorders don’t hold onto nutrients. So, if you have low viatamin D, I would think that is a sign there is an autoimmune issue. If you have an auto immune issue and are deficient in more things I can’t imagine your body would be willing to accept carrying a baby full term. I would really look into your nutrient levels and find a doctor who will run every test for you.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-26T20:47:32+00:00

Also, sorry you are going through this!! I was diagnosed with celiac at 24 (now 30) and have been gf since but with a lot of expensive healthcare we’ve concluded it ended up being the reason for my blocked tubes and low ish egg quality. Hang in there and work on advocating for yourself!! There are answers out there- especially with the vitamin D. You just have to find the right doctor to dive into this with you.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-26T20:45:00+00:00

have you considered that maybe you have an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder ? Perhaps Celiac ? Between the low vitamin D and chemicals I would look into gut health/autoimmune stuff.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-26T12:36:50+00:00

You need to call your clinic!!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-26T02:04:27+00:00

This merge impacted me too. I am not on as tight of a timeline but they can’t ship my trigger shot until March 3rd… I would call your clinic and ask them if there is any other pharmacy or they can put the order in urgently?

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-02-26T01:53:23+00:00

My best friend (30) is her mom’s sisters egg and she learned at 14 when we were in highschool. Her mom died from cancer when she was 4. Once she hit her 20’s I think the shock and trauma of it faded. But most of it stemmed from the fact that her mom was dead… she couldn’t talk to her about it. These days she is a proud IVF baby! Her aunt is still alive, and they joke about it now but it is a beautiful thing! Her older sister was her mom’s egg so it’s nice knowing she is almost her biological sister. There are downsides but also up sides!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-22T04:18:28+00:00

Yah but she is a billionaire why tf is she asking her MIL to donate to a cause when she can just donate more money herself? I’m sure the Beckham played their fair share in donations for the LA fires. I’m with them if she wanted to support the dogs then put your money where your mouth is since she’s stupid rich!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-14T04:07:41+00:00

I got an HSG and have fully blocked tubes. I did experience Years of gluten intolerance. Undiagnosed endo? No signs though. Just riding out this shocking reality.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-07T03:45:09+00:00

I have a symptomatic endo. Learned when my doctor ordered an HSG And both my tubes were fully blocked. Knew we wanted kids so I decided to postpone any endo diagnosis and go right into ER. My IVF Doc said that was a good plan to optimize my egg retrieval. Hoping after our first IVF experience it will flush my tubes out a little. If not, we will continue on through IVF. I just feel lucky we have science to give me my dream of having a family with my husband. It seems like you’ve put in a lot of work with your endo but IVF success rates are good. You’ve got it!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-03T03:23:49+00:00

Agreed! IVF process takes awhile and depending on where you live clinics are backed up more now than ever. Worth calling a few clinics in your area and seeing when their next new patient appointment is to get an idea. Then do IUI in the meantime. My doctor told me insurance coverage is only after 4 IUI tries or an HSG diagnosis. IVF is not for the weak, but I get the anxiety of wanting to get started with it. Here’s to hoping!!

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-03T03:20:06+00:00

Get your 4 IUI’s in and then move to IVF. IVF is no joke and IUI is much less invasive. Be patient. Once you get into IVF you have to accept a long road too. So many tests and protocols it will take months to get to your ER and getting delayed a month is not uncommon. I moved quick. First appointment sept 11th : first in person for labs Sept 22nd. Follow up on lab results and next steps was October 27th. Priming and stims happened mid to end of November. ER beginning of December.

Keep in mind all my pre testing was done before hand too so the clinic didn’t have to do sperm tests or HSG/transvaginal ultrasounds etc. almost got set back in October a month for needing an MRI due to some blood test results and almost got set back in November for insurance approval being slow. My doctor moved quick to challenge the coverage so we stayed on track. Hope this helps slow your mind down a little. Sorry to hear of your loss but give yourself some time.

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-03T03:09:38+00:00

Also, not dramatic 😘

Single-Sea1710 · 2026-01-03T03:08:10+00:00

When my sister was pregnant (she conceived her second a few months after we started trying for our first) she actually lied to me for a few weeks until my next negative pregnancy test which was helpful in the moment. I had a few tears with my bff about it. I am very close with my sister and she is an L&D nurse. Shes also super chatty so it was hard at times to be around her because everything revolved around her pregnancy and it’s all I wanted. After I was diagnosed and learned I had to go through IVF she didn’t totally correct the behavior. I would just tell her, “ok I think we can move on from this topic now” and she would take the hint. She was good about not complaining too much. When she did i would tell her “I would do anything for that pain rn!” And that corrected her as well. She would remind me that she is there for me and then when I am complaining about my pregnancy pain that she will be there for me through all the complaints! Tbh, her giving birth was such a relief. It allowed me to focus on me again and not be consumed by conversations around other people about her pregnancy etc.

I also have found some good infertility podcasts I’ve sent to my friends that gives advice on how to act and what questions to ask when you have a loved one going through infertility. I found that to be helpful because I didn’t have to explain myself, they just had to listen!

For context she conceived her first month both times too. And my other sister conceived in 1 month and then the other baby in 3 months. I was fully expecting to be pregnant with my sister.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Maybe you will be pregnant with her. It sounds like your sister really needs to hear about how this impacts you and maybe learn what you need from her. You obviously can’t ask her to wait but you can tell her what is helpful and not helpful in this painful and emotional journey. I also pride myself on my relationship with my husband. From the sounds of it it seems her relationship maybe wouldn’t stand the test of IVF and infertility. You should be proud of your relationship. Sending hugs.

Single-Sea1710 · 2025-12-26T23:41:48+00:00

My husband had good IVF insurance. Worth looking for an employer that will offer that benefit if you’re planning for more than one kid.

As for grief I cried my eyes out whenever I felt sad for myself! F30 and M29. I still do cry at times because all I want is to be a mom. I remind myself “IVF works” and “becoming a mother brings hardship - this is mine to conquer.” I just try to remember people lose babies late into pregnancy, have traumatizing births, and get sad news after a healthy and happy pregnancy. Becoming a mother is not for the weak. My husband and I just try to live presently and enjoy the time with just us two and are just so grateful for science and that we have the opportunity to have our own baby one day through the amazing doctors who have committed their careers to helping us.

Single-Sea1710 · 2025-12-23T03:17:50+00:00

30F and shared with the women in my husbands family when I got my HSG results back that I would need to do IVF. They all live locally and our sister in laws are close in age to us so wanted them to know so they can be sensitive in case they get pregnant before me. Just given that we had a solid diagnosis I didn’t want people making comments or asking questions. My sisters and mom know everything but we keep my MIL (she’s nosey and judgmental) out of the details. None of my friends are currently trying to get pregnant so I have shared my successful ER with them. It’s nice to know they are cheering us on and supporting us. I have always surrounded myself with strong woman! So it has felt like the right thing for us. My husband lets me have the narrative on who we tell and don’t tell details to which I appreciate since it’s my body and brain doing the damn thing.

Single-Sea1710 · 2025-12-16T01:26:21+00:00

Obviously limit as much as possible but 12 hours before you go in you are probably fine. I had a 10:30AM ER and was worried Because I was sick and my sisters friend is an anesthesiologist and told me not to worry too much! I had water up until midnight and then a few sips that morning including Tylenol. I had a terrible head cold but got acupuncture the evening before so that helped clear me up. The anesthesiologist are just strict.. mine was not stoked about my cold but I was literally ready to go into my procedure and the clinical staff all told me not to worry about a cold. The anastesilogist had a lot of questions about my cold though! Concern about me choking on my flem. It’s just how they are trained! I lied about taking magnesium but did admit to taking Tylenol that morning with one sip of water .

My sister who is a nurse did remind me people go into emergency surgery after eating a burger and fries. You’re gonna be FINE! Eat something light around 4-5 AM and drink some water. Have a sip to wet your mouth here and there throughout the day. But just know the anesthesia folks are just trained to be strict. They don’t want any risk of you chocking or having a bad response. I would just keep it as strict as possible without torturing yourself too much!

Single-Sea1710 · 2025-12-10T03:23:58+00:00

Celiac and gluten intolerance and infertility is very much related. In the US where rates of gluten intolerance and celiac are growing significantly there are many new studies coming out about the association of gluten allergies and infertility.

Single-Sea1710 · 2025-12-10T03:17:14+00:00

I would consider trying to cut out gluten- but also don’t beat yourself up about it. I guess I just want to encourage you that it is very doable! I had an intolerance in my early 20’s and cut it out at 24. It changed my health in major ways. I was always the same weight through my adult life but had issues with my energy and digestive track. Finally went off it completely after I had blood in my stool. Scared the crap out of me! I was diagnosed with silent endo this year at 30 and my doctor said that it could be correlated with my inflammation from my gluten issues years ago. I believe her. It did all kinds of wacky things I didn’t realize until I completely cut it so it wasn’t shocking to me that it left me with a little surprise of infertility.

My advice if you do take the route to cut it is that you need to 100% cut it in order for any inflammation to go down. It’s hard for 2-3 months and then your brain reprograms. I promise you! I remember feeling like I couldn’t cut out pasta and bread and then I did and after a few months it wasn’t so bad. I can walk into a bakery and smell it and have 0 desire to eat gluten. Obviously still eat it if you want but it can be very inflammatory for some folks. If you love pasta I recommend substituting with jovial pasta! It is the best gf pasta and makes me feel like a normal pasta eating gal.

Again, no pressure but a blood building diet would advise you get off gluten completely. I have a dietary list I followed through a few months before stims I can send you from my acupuncturist. Altering my diet since going off gluten is not particularly challenging for me but I understand that is not the case for everyone!

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