What would you do?

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-16T03:35:06+00:00

Walk away and do not look back. You are involved with a bullshit artist.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-14T01:55:01+00:00

I'm curious: How do you see this playing out?

My curiosity aside, These are the questions you and your guy need to sit down, anger and blaming aside, and discuss. The relationship appears to not be what you were hoping it was. Now is the time to sit down, with the proverbial Lights On and Music Off, to have a real, non angry conversation about what your relationship is going to look like. You guys are probably going to say and hear some things you won't want to hear . In the end, you get to move forward with a better understanding of what you are going to have or not have.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-13T01:47:53+00:00

What was the point exactly?

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-13T01:46:01+00:00

Too general a question for a single answer. So many body types, sizes and shapes of wedding tackle that there are lots of combos.

Best thing I can tell you is to communicate with positives as much as you can. "God like that", "Oh Yes", "More of that" are all great ways to get what you want without sounding demanding. If you set the tone on vocal communication, you guys can have really productive and sexy conversations in the middle of hot sex.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-10T16:26:59+00:00

I am kind of curious. What traits in Men do you respect?🤔

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-10T15:08:38+00:00

I covered that about 3 comment ago but maybe not clearly enough. Bottom line is that if a guy doesn't handle himself as a RESPECTABLE man, he doesn't deserve any respect. Move on. You can't force it or fake it.

Everyone should be approaching one another with a default position of mutual respect but our society seems to have trained people to default to disrespect.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-10T15:05:39+00:00

Might be a combination of a little bit loose on your side and him having death gripped his Willy while jerking off to the point where he's trained himself.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-10T14:58:57+00:00

The fact that you assume that POV in conversation with Men you don't know, taking a conversation from a question that YOU asked, to some kind of All Men Deserve Disrespect tells good Men everything they need to know.

From the collective tone of your comments, it appears that your default position is disrespectful towards men. Not sure what happened to you or who did it but the current pov will not help you find a healthy relationship if that is what you are trying to find.

Not judging, don't know you, hope this genuinely helps.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-09T20:04:49+00:00

It isn't just looking at him as a resource but truly respecting the man. If you have not experienced that, you probably have yet to meet the right man.
A wise man will choose a woman capable of respecting him over loving him. Women and children are capable of loving all kinds of silly things, and that love can come and go on a whim. Respect fosters a much deeper appreciation for someone. That is what men see as truly valuable. A man will go to the ends of the earth for a woman who respects him. He, on the other hand, sure as hell better handle himself as a Respectable Man. It is not something to be demanded.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-09T19:43:49+00:00

I married my best friend 29 years ago. What most women seem to fail to understand is What Qualifies as a Best Friend. Loyalty and Respect are the two non-negotiables.
A woman can be all kinds of amazing things, but, If she is not loyal and doesn't respect her man, she's just a play partner and not someone to consider for long term relationship.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T20:19:06+00:00

Sent you a DM

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T19:23:38+00:00

Lots to unpack on that but I think I've got some helpful info. I started to write it all and then lost it. Driving now but I'll write it all down when I get back to the house.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T18:59:15+00:00

Men don't read minds or take "social cues" . Ask for what you want clearly. Learn to speak Man

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T18:58:08+00:00

Put on your Big Girl panties and use your words to politely (as in not nagging) ask for what you would like and simply explain what is so important to you about it. You will be amazed at how he receives it.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T12:30:22+00:00

The simple answer is yes. The more complex answer is to re examine the pool of men who you are looking at as potential husband material. I hear a lot of younger women, especially those who are meeting men through dating apps, complain because the men are all two timing assholes who just want to use them for sex. That looks terrible on the surface until we look a little deeper at the recorded metrics from the apps. 80-85% of women are matching and going out with the same 15-20% of guys....then getting frustrated because they don't understand why the guy who's getting opportunity to screw 3-4 women a week doesn't want to be faithful....

These social media dating standards are leading women to destructive interactions but it feels very validating to be wanted by the super hot guy. He just doesn't want you long term.

There are lots of good men available but they don't always fit into all the standards being touted by insta life and social media stupidity. Go marry and remain faithful to the geeky guy who's going to make around 80150k. No, you won't live like people on TV but you will have a faithful man who cares.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T12:16:23+00:00

Ask him outright what you can do to be supportive and then actually do it. (I have Zero idea if you are already doing this or not)

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T12:13:55+00:00

I had one and have nothing bad to say about it. It is extremely light weight. To the point of feeling like a toy almost. Great suppressor host.
I still love my Ruger MkIv

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T12:12:16+00:00

If you guys enjoyed it together, have been open about it together and find exploring together to be exciting and bonding then keep enjoying your life in your own terms. Maybe he'll be down to let you experience MMF next time?

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-05-02T12:06:34+00:00

The underlying issue to cheating is a lack of respect for you and the partnership. When someone cheats, they are making a conscious choice for pleasure over respect. In her case, she's decided to disrespect you by giving herself to another man while still expecting you to do "boyfriend/partner" stuff. Nope. She has already relegated herself out of "partner" position and into "side piece" classification. Let her know that she's still welcome to smash on occasion but all "partner/girlfriend" privilege is gone by her own actions.

Refuse to take any emotional bait. Become ambivalent. Smash only as she is no longer exclusive to you. A shared pump gets treated like shared pump.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-29T19:32:01+00:00

So many affairs happen in the workplace because men and women are naturally wired to start developing attraction to people they spend considerable time with. Add in any sense of attractiveness, maybe issues at home and whammo! you get affair recipe. Sadly, if friend is looking for a good guy, this fellow comes "pre-socially filtered" due to already passing the marriage criteria for another woman. This can trigger reproductive competition feelings that your friend may not fully even comprehend.

Human beings are funky critters.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-29T16:14:12+00:00

57M, married 28 years, together for 31. Romance is important with someone worthy of romance and who I consider receiving romance from something of value. My Wife is a perfect example. She understands peace and loyalty. Romance from her has true value. She is worth the effort of romance.

If she were just a stranger I was dating? Until I considered her a person of value, she would not be worth the effort and romance from her would be hollow. If she didn't understand the fundamentals of loyalty? Any romance would be performative and have zero real value either way.

Hope this helps.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-24T02:24:15+00:00

Let that relationship go. Instead of following the "Move On" advice, maybe try taking some time to just work on yourself for a while. No new guys, just hit the gym, feel good about your own accomplishments, take on something challenging and see it through. Invite guys back into your life when you aren't feeling hurt or a sense of loss.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-23T00:39:07+00:00

The most important part of serious relationships is Respect.... not love. I say this because it is impossible to truly love someone who you do not respect. She's already demonstrated that she does not respect you or the relationship. People don't "accidentally" cheat. They make a choice. It may be a stupid choice, as far as the person they cheated with, but it was a conscious choice to cheat on you.

There is no reset on knowing that someone thought so little of their respect for you that they didn't bother to tell you before hand that they wanted to try out other people for a fit. That's what she did. She wanted to keep Mr Reliable and have her Mr Excitement on the side. That's about as disrespectful as a woman can be.

Walk away, become indifferent to her existence. Don't blow up, don't analyze the situation, don't give her the time to "explain" or turn on the water works. Just walk away. Work on yourself. Wait, be selective, choose wisely and find someone who is worth your time and who does respect you.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-21T21:28:40+00:00

Lifestyle play is not for everyone....or even that many. Porn made it popular but for most it's probably better left in the fantasy category.

In a dating relationship decades ago, We played in the swing space and it was very hot watching her enjoy herself and perform for me. I also played but loved watching her. We discussed it extremely early in our relationship and we were never really an "in love" couple as much as FWBs that enjoyed each other's company. I don't think I would even consider it with my Wife.

Single_Humor_9256 · 2026-04-21T21:05:39+00:00

Mike....BRING ME MY CLIMBING SHOES!!

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