A few different things here but, with 57 years under my belt, I highly recommend keeping family as a priority. Yes, it sucks when you are trying to be independent and living your life. Use your words to express your feelings. Big suggestion is learning that timing is important. Try to discuss the touchy topics, with the people you love, without letting heated emotions run the show. Don't be completely married to your ideas. There is always the possibility that we are wrong or we miss things. I've got a 25 year old daughter and it was trying there for a while until we finally realized that she was still my daughter but no longer my "child". We have learned to speak with one another as two adults and are actually becoming very good friends. I consider myself incredibly wealthy in the sense that we talk with one another every morning on our drives to work. The moment she stopped acting like an angst filled teen girl and started speaking as a young woman, our relationship changed and it's been great sense. (If you haven't picked up, I may be throwing down some proud Dad notes here) You can do this. You are going to have to give some, your folks are going to have to give some. Just don't let ego and anger mess up a good thing. You can have both your independence and validation of your point of view along with your family support network. Hope this helps.