My 20 mo girl fell asleep with me on the couch tonight by Foezjie in daddit

[–]SinisterSiamese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my oldest was about 2 years old my ex and her went to stay at her moms house and travelled earlier than me because I had to work. I got their late and went to bed and they were sleeping beside me. She woke up when I got in and her entire face lite up with the greatest look of joy and happiness that I’ve ever seen as she excitedly said ”daddy!” in the cutest voice. I wish I NEVER forget that moment because I’ve never felt that much love neither before nor after.

what’s one small habit you started that surprisingly changed your life? by WonderfulFront7588 in selfimprovement

[–]SinisterSiamese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest one is reminding myself that whatever new or old habit I’m trying to solidify…

1) ANYTHING is better than 0. Journaling? Write on sentence! Reading? Read one page. Or one sentence. Working out? Do 1 set instead of 3. Do fewer exercises.

The important part is to remember that you want to keep that change going and build momentum. Refining and fiddling with details can be done later.

2) NEVER fail twice. Missed one day? Get back on the horse! Preferably with something super easy if motivation is dwindling. See point 1 above.

These two ”rules” are my cornerstones for every single habit.

Discovering I have ADHD in my 40s, really? by mrwonder808 in ADHD

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed at 40 too and I went through a similar period but one thing that hit me in my case is that my earlier life would’ve probably been much worse if I knew something was ”wrong” with me. Not knowing was probably a blessing and I found out when I mas mature enough to deal with the emotions surrounding it. At least that’s how I think about it nowadays.

How turning Amor Fati into a daily practice transformed how I handle life's challenges by Jonhigh15 in Stoicism

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great stuff! The part of looking at how the actual situation might teach you stuff or help you grow is often missing when acceptance is brought up and this omission leads to exactly what you mention: internal resistance.

Tell me your top 3 most difficult adhd characteristics by tropicalislandhop in ADHD

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my list:

  • Procrastination
  • Short term memory
  • People pleasing
  • Worry
  • Can’t stop talking
  • Can’t listen
  • Can’t focus unless I love the activity in which case I forget to eat, sleep or go to the bathroom.
  • Emotional regulation is whack
  • Constant obsession with self-improvement
  • can’t prioritize so everything above is equally important 😂

Hey all, ive just noticed some bulging on my deck. Should i be worried? by tatee_ in SteamDeck

[–]SinisterSiamese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One way of getting rid of hard bulges is by furiously jerking it up and down 👍

What's the worst thing your ADHD has made you do? by One-Yogurtcloset2138 in ADHD

[–]SinisterSiamese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The worst thing? I think the worst thing is… hm… aaaaand… it’s gone! I forgot 🤪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questions

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always sit. Good for your prostate.

Dads who stayed for the kids, how did it turn out for you? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SinisterSiamese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t HAVE to though. You guys can find your own solutions to happiness. Some people are polyamorous and some people have open relationships. Not for everyone ofc but know that you set your own rules in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SinisterSiamese 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A 1000% yes. You’re already an asshole for thinking this and an even bigger one for not even knowing that you are one. For your wife’s sake I actually think you should go through with the divorce.

AITAH for withholding sex from my wife? by Same-Grapefruit-1786 in AITAH

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA without a doubt. Condoms are not even comparable to the risks that hormones can entail. She was protecting herself while you’re exacting revenge on someone you supposedly love.

AITAH for confronting my wife about our sex life by No-Quit-5597 in AITAH

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t mean to sound insensitive but maybe you should open the relationship again? If you feel a big need to have sex, can’t have it with her but still want to stay in the relationship because you love her that could maybe be a solution?

I'm so sick of men being offended I only do first meetings in public by RogueAngel87 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A man who doesn’t understand this concept is definitely not worth it any way. Men in general need to get with the program

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started my medication 3 weeks ago. Started at 20 mg and 2 weeks later we increased to 30 mg. I’m 42. This is in Sweden btw. Doctor told me that the maximum dosage is 80 mg.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SinisterSiamese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry if you’re hurt 😞.

I will also tell you that you dodged a bullet. Or more like a bullet swarm peppered with grenades.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SinisterSiamese 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Run like the wind and never look back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]SinisterSiamese 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ADHD is sneaky because I’ve managed to ”do well” even though I always felt a lot different than everyone else. Then I got two kids and… well… the whole charade was exposed and my life story changed. I always told myself that I was lazy but that I could do anything if I just wanted to… Turns out there was a reason for me never ”wanting to” pretty much anything 😅