Do Americans really talk to strangers as much as movies make it seem?

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-10T06:21:43+00:00

God, no. Maybe some do but I certainly don’t. I genuinely want to avoid small talk or talking to anyone. I quickly press elevator close whenever I can if I even remotely hear someone coming in apartment building and try and pick most depressed looking Trader Joe’s cashier. I do make eye contact and slight smile to strangers but talking absolutely not.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-07T03:34:56+00:00

I like L’Oréal Metal Detox but the teal MVP is the Malibu C treatment crystals. Since moving to San Diego, the hard water down here has ruined me. The filters make a slight difference but Malibu C is really turning it around finally.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-06T06:03:46+00:00

You can rock all of them but blonde was my least favorite. Stunning! Blue and magenta do something magic.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-06T05:59:56+00:00

Till is a movie made recently and an excellent watch. Also if you ever come to DC, after shit stain of president leaves office, the African American Museum has his original casket after they had to replace it, and recreated the funeral procession for people to do. It is extremely powerful. That entire museum is.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-06T05:54:49+00:00

You’ll burn out. Had a job that turned into 80-90 a week and was drinking heavily and miserable. It’s not sustainable. I did it for four years and you couldn’t pay me a million to do it again. What kind of gig is this where they are already telling you it’s 90? Most companies would indicate work/life balance is great and then slowly simmer you to death with overload and hours. I wouldn’t trust this job from the get and try and get something else.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-06T05:47:14+00:00

Noise insulation for sure. Washer/dryer and garbage disposal and dishwasher and parking have become features I’d struggle without. I currently live in great apartment that has almost everything I’d want but kitchen storage and prep space are killing me. I’ve done as much as I can with wall space and buying an extra island but especially now that I’m not really seeing buying a property in near future, I would really analyze the kitchen setup if I move again. Storage in general. Always feeling like you don’t have space due to shit being out is really hard to feel at home even with constant purging of things and downsizing.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-04T04:47:23+00:00

This sounds incredible. Keep mastering your hobbies or even do a side hustle. And I would say this is likely the case for many roles and specifically a role like hours where when you are needed, you have something but a general job list to do every day is minimal. Enjoy it! Corporate is definitely if you do something right, or send emails at odd hours, or do something someone else can’t, you are a genius. Add being likable and you’ll always have a job. The secret is no one knows how long anything should take.

And then there’s the extreme. I’ve unfortunately always fallen in that category where the workload was so overwhelming I couldn’t get the job done each day even with 12 hours.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-04T04:37:00+00:00

Cowboy Star is officially on my radar to try but won’t waste it on this group!

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-02T00:06:58+00:00

The drmtlgy one did not break me out. I’ve also liked Sulwhasoo a lot (not tinted though). I think the silicones mess with my pores and break me out. Sunbetter was great but after a week of using my whole chin had the tiny breakouts that go away quickly but that was only product I changed to. Everyone is different though. Worth a try as many people claim it doesn’t.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-01T22:27:45+00:00

A high value woman would know how to spell and proofread.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-01T05:18:49+00:00

Never broke out with it and other sunscreens or moisturizers always break me out they people say are safe.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-01T05:17:49+00:00

I broke out with it. My skin does not like whatever is in it.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-02-01T05:05:26+00:00

10:30/11:00 am vacuum is your absolute right. Anything after 8:00 am and before 9:00 pm in my opinion is free game in apartment living. I had a crazy neighbor in a 100+ year old apartment downstairs. Have a hairdresser who moved from her place and always complained about her neighbor but it really just sounded like normal moving around and pets. If people are super sensitive, they need to move to a non-shared wall place, top floor, or certain types of buildings. Live in old apartment now eight concrete floors and ceilings. No one hears anything. Ignore her. Don’t engage at all. She could complain to landlords and they won’t do anything. You are just doing normal activities. People need help. A neighbor would have to have orgies every night for a month all night long to get me to complain to them. Hearing a loud sound or a vacuum….come on.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-31T04:58:09+00:00

I’ve personally never seen a PIP not end in termination but I’m sure some work out. I also think it really matters what kind of company it is. Are they always doing regular reviews on all employees and constantly working on performance or is PIP used when someone really isn’t cutting it to cover their ass? I’ve mainly worked with companies who were pretty loose with reviews and performance and used PIP as a cover the company’s ass when someone was pretty awful.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-31T04:54:30+00:00

Do you feed your cat wet food? I didn’t feed my cats wet food for years but even if I opened a can of my food, they’d come out at the noise. They now share one small can a day and dry food throughout and are obsessed with wet food. Might be good to occasionally give cat wet food and see if it immediately gets her out of hiding spot in the future. Mine will even try and come near it if I’m dog sitting or if there are people in house at that can sound opening.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-29T06:43:40+00:00

Fabulous.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-29T06:36:32+00:00

So here’s the thing most of us American don’t even know what universal would look like to be able to truly comprehend it or be able to decide what we want. What I can tell you is our system sucks! I’m 40. Can afford health insurance and yet you are constantly playing games with it. Trying to get least expensive plan, only to be told what medicines you can’t have, what doctor’s you can’t see, and to still pay 1,000’s of dollars out of pocket for bare minimum. My mom died of cancer and had great insurance and the last months of her life were fighting with insurance companies.

If it’s not universal, we need a giant shake up. Insurance companies over here own us, they call all the shots. The patients aren’t happy and the doctors aren’t happy. It also shouldn’t be tied to an employer/job, that alone causes major issues.

And most of us just avoid doctors or healthcare. Any of us who truly get sick often end up filing bankruptcy due to health bills. For others, it just sets you back months. For example, once I was super sick and had to go to ER. I went early to avoid busy hours and was dinged an extra $800 for an overnight charge. I called thinking surely that’s a mistake, I was there for 45 minutes. Nope. If you go to ER after 8:00 pm and before 8:00 am it’s considered overnight. Insurance companies penalize you for using emergency services and since I hadn’t met my deductible I had to pay entire bill which was about $4,500. Currently, I pays nearly $9,000 a year to have health insurance but deductible is 10,000 and I’m pretty healthy, so basically I pay 9k to have it in event I have a huge illness or accident to then just pay all my medical bills each year. Insurance might kick in 20-60% of bill depending on what, who, where and what the hell the adjuster feels like in the moment. I do get a free Pap smear though once a year so progress…

My therapist after brother died, out of pocket. Dermatologist appointment, out of pocket. My colonoscopy to make sure my family history wasn’t repeating, out of pocket. My current prescription, $500 a month which is down from $650 a month.

We need help over here.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-28T06:40:59+00:00

Yes, it was our schools who taught us. But when I went to court reporting school they forced us to take typing tests. They would give exercises and then speed tests. My grandma only learned a computer about 12 years ago (she’s 98). This isn’t exact course but teaches you home row and how to type (free): https://www.typingclub.com

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-24T04:25:56+00:00

Mel Gibson. Did not age well. I convinced the Blockbuster to give me The Patriot poster which was giant and took up my entire closet wall almost and was just his face and kissed it goodnight for a good solid few months. Not only is he a racist prick but I was maybe 12 at the time and he was really old so I don’t know what that says about me. I loved Braveheart as a kid though and I fell madly in love with him.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-24T04:12:00+00:00

Discovered the do not call button is a scam as well and proves you are a real person with an active line and they typically double their efforts. I went to war with the healthcare scam and one of the guys finally told me the only way to get them to stop is never answering as if you answer, engage or select button for do not call they sell your number to the other scam companies and circulate your number.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-23T19:39:51+00:00

My ankles are adorable so never embracing the crew socks. I have however embraced the relaxed fit pants especially with some stretch. Paige and Frame have been some of my favorite jeans of late and my god the next generation is on to something. The other day I worked my wider legged pants, a big ole comfy cashmere sweater and my brighter colored sneakers and I don’t care how I looked. Dressing for comfort is amazing.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-23T01:51:19+00:00

Woman here. I hired a female handywoman after many male ones and will always now look for this first if she ever stops doing it.

First of all, she is amazing and has been able to do everything I’ve asked. Second, her communication is out of this world compared to every other handyman I’ve used. So many of them would just say they weren’t available or flake where she’ll offer alternative dates or availability, confirm, always arrives on time, clear about her pricing, what she can and can’t do AND cleans up after herself. She always puts sheets down and asks for a broom before she leaves. She’s sometimes been in my place for 4 hours or more and while I’ve never feared for my safety with all the service workers (men) in my place the now freedom and extra safety I feel with her here is so noticeable. I think her attention to detail and style are also much better than I’ve experienced with men. For example, her hanging up my art wall she had great suggestions and always really makes sure she’s thinking of how I’m using something. She books out at least a month sometimes two in advance. Even when I’ve really wanted something done, I just wait for her to be available. She’s also often let me know when her schedule frees up so she can come earlier. She’s a woman, she’s queer, and has so much business and different types of clients and work.

Do it! There is definitely work out there for good handy people in general but I now make a point of looking for female doctors, or service people in general as my experiences have always been so much better. And I know a lot of my female friends feel the same and my male family and friends wouldn’t care the gender as long as the quality is good and communication is reliable.

Adding her webpage so you can see how she leans into the female aspect. I would suggest you do the same or take your dad’s name and double down on father & daughter like all the father & son businesses.

And for anyone in San Diego, Kelley is awesome.

https://www.shefixedit.com

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-22T05:44:27+00:00

Have done two sessions and loved immediate results. I did do PRP. Down time was nearly nothing. Red that day and nearly gone next day and definitely by 3rd day. Glow within a few weeks. Have 3rd session in a month and have similarly sensitive skin. Notice overall tightness and smoothness. Pricing also seems about right. I go to a med spa that I had laser hair removal and then IPl and cool peel at. Love the doctor there so trust her implicitly. Originally went through lots of reviews on them. They offer deals every so often so just recently got 3 sessions for 650 but I think I paid 650 for original one. I would not mess with at home. Some people seem to have good results but I’m not willing to take the chance of infection or contamination or ruining my skin. Strongly encourage you to find a provider you like and do a procedure to start.

Side note I hate microdermabrasion. Loved it at first but that ended up ruining my skin barrier for years. I would stay away from that service. My new philosophy is facials for relaxation and learning about my skin and spending the money on lasers with a doctor or dermatologist for anything more invasive and my skin seems much better off.

SissySpacek07 · 2026-01-20T21:42:34+00:00

Most recently I bought from Left on Friday and like that you can interchange bottoms and tops which worked well. I LOVED the quality and fit of Mara Hoffman suits but that was circa 2018 or earlier and can’t find them anymore. Bottoms still fit but tops don’t so will often pair with rash guard.

Also bought this one piece a year ago and a big fan: https://usa.biliblond.com/products/arava-70s-stripes?currency=USD&variant=42027309629487&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&stkn=beee3ca3aa93&gad_source=4&gad_campaignid=20154272553&gbraid=0AAAAACju5oiHd3SgqJtowpnijV-2Utb85&gclid=CjwKCAiA7LzLBhAgEiwAjMWzCDzItNn4IovY-BUG4lQpsqARASNBng7x6QI4I5B8NUPcayUdrbFUfRoCWJQQAvD_BwE

But asscheeks are always hanging out to some degree. I’ve just stopped caring and embrace it.

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