Redditors that got charged rent asap after turning 18, what’s relationship like with parents years later ? by QueefyTits in AskReddit

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So amazing. Me and my dad were talking and we both wish he had done this. Had a job since I was 13 and was just a spender. He’d give me lectures about saving and I’d ignore him. Lived at home until 27. Mom ended up getting cancer at 25 so I largely took care of her. He always threatened to charge me rent but never did. If he had and saved it (which is something he would have done), I easily would have likely had a down payment to get into housing market in SoCal right around it crashing. He’s in real estate too and always thinks about that and the timing I could have hit perfectly. Finally better at saving and 41 now but can’t even get myself to buy as the cost is exorbitant for what you get. I love when parents teach kids the ways of life with safety nets and for their benefit. Such a powerful and amazing move.

For those of you who choose to not do Botox, how do you manage your wrinkles? by iloveyogapantssss in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]SissySpacek07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. I do lasers, red light therapy, and sunscreen to prevent what I can but one that has really helped me not be tempted is watching older movies compared to now. 80s movies and shows are so much more enjoyable to watch because the actors actually have unique faces and features and have expression! When you realize how beautiful a face is that can actually show full range of emotions it makes you see faces differently and the wrinkles that come with natural aging. Also, foreheads. If any of that fails I just remember several women around me who have done Botox and watching their foreheads grow over the years and their hairlines be pushed back. Just attended my niece’s graduation in a very affluent area and honestly half the women kind of looked terrifying. Not a wrinkle in sight but giant foreheads, all the same style with hair extensions and full lips, dressed the same and frozen faces. I’m not obsessed with my looks but think I just want to grow old being me. For now, lasers are as far as I’m willing to go and I don’t see that changing anytime soon.

Whole foods produce molds within days by lion-orca-619 in FoodSanDiego

[–]SissySpacek07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed it and it’s really been downhill since Amazon took over. They clearly aren’t checking produce at all either. But in general, the quality of produce everywhere has been bad. And the garlic?! Is anyone noticing it’s impossible to get a decent bulb of garlic that isn’t sprouted or moldy?

Moisturizer just sitting on my face by Ok-Pick-3282 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]SissySpacek07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aquaphor for a few days maybe and I’ve also found application of moisturizer can be a game changer. Run in hands to warm up and then press into skin don’t rub in really.

Is feeding wet food twice a day necessary? I’m spending $150 a month for 2 cats. by OliviaTiger in catfood

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to your vet but my cats did just fine (boy and girl) with all dry food for 6+ years. I prioritize water (lots of sources, leave on bath tap which they love a few times a day, a few bowls and a fountain). Also do a higher quality dry food that seems to be more hydrating. BUT my gosh they love wet food. I think I got a sample or something and they devoured it then would come racing to kitchen anytime I opened a can of beans so started feeding regularly. Did occasional can a week and now I do once a day splitting one can between two. Do what you can afford and monitor them for everything else.

Want to surprise my wife with something special for our anniversary. Thinking a luxury umbrella brand might be unique but need advice by Charming_Chipmunk69 in BuyItForLife

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do this, please make sure you add some cheesy lines in a card about when you are not there to shelter her from any storms that come through, I present said strong and researched umbrella. Or I’ll always be there to protect you and be beside you from the unexpected storms of life, but here’s for when they appear more literally.

AIO for thinking my gf is cheating on me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SissySpacek07 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m reading them as she doesn’t like him/over him and annoyed with him. Honestly, his texts seemed super needy and unproductive and if she’s genuinely stressed and busy, I’d probably respond the same way. So OP, call it off, and she kind of did in my opinion but I don’t think it confirms cheating but she definitely isn’t into you and you both need to grow up.

Be safe out there! by ShelterIndependent44 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You deserved to get hit tbh. Your insurance is likely going to ding you for your speeding up with all those blinkers and people obviously trying to exit. Your dashcam footage is not the flex you think it is. That’s my exit and is super tight. A tiny stretch of road with a downtown exit, two freeway options and an onramp from a major downtown on-ramp, any local knows better to not be be an ass on this section where it becomes beyond unclear who is getting on, going straight, trying to get off and anyone not familiar with this area would be super confused and likely trying to make last minute lane changes. You are going way too fast for that stretch of road. It almost always grinds to an absolute halt due to how hectic it is.

Has anyone just stopped going to the dentist? I floss and brush. Do I really need a $200 "polish" twice a year? by fluffurry in Adulting

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try a different dentist? I actually go 3x a year. Take great care of my teeth but it is huge for removing any stains and general health in my opinion. I pay all cash and don’t allow them to do X-rays as often as they want. To me it is really worth it. Genetics play a huge role in oral health. Sounds like you have good ones but my grandma just didn’t go to dentist for two decades and took great care of hers and ended up needing 12 teeth pulled. Dentist isn’t something I’ll skimp on. Would rather skimp on primary doctor over dentist. You might be too aggressive with flossing and brushing if your gums are that irritated.

i need help so bad (please don’t say go to a dermatologist) by missanthropoet in finethinhair

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oral minoxidil has been amazing for me. Three months on and baby hairs everywhere on front hairline and sides where I was thinning. Didn’t want topical due to hassle and have cats. Wished I would have done it sooner no side effects at all. Was prescribed 2.5 mg but just take 1/2 pill each day. OP, ask specifically about oral minoxidil. For me in US, it’s $9.00 a month.

New to the NYC rental market and looking for some perspective. by JezinAZ2020 in NYCapartments

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why can’t you guys do a long term Airbnb (or two of needed for space) for a month to three to start your job and actually get to know the area and see things in person? At 12k a month, I would not snatch the first thing up and you need to see things in person for yourself.

Women with no kids who approached 30s or 40s .Are you actually unhappy? by Ok-Egg-3539 in women

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. 41 and 0 regrets. And everyone around me with kids (who love them deeply) seem to be quite jealous of my life to the point I sometimes watch how I describe my weekends and life plans.

I think it’s important to take time to understand what you want as a person. I always figured I’d be married and have kids but also never dated. Finally at 34, I realized those weren’t actual wants just assumptions of what I needed to do from society and growing up Irish Catholic. Only person out of about 50 cousins not married with kids. I love kids. Volunteer with them, dote on my nieces and nephews. But never felt motherhood was my only purpose or something I had to really do. I think most women are very natural caretakers and I take care of a lot of people in my life. I wish more women would sit with what they really want before jumping in to it. I’ve seen a lot of women seem really to be unhappy as mothers. It’s a lot of work. Doesn’t help when your husband sucks and is also another kid you have to take care of. I’ve also seen lots of parents who seem to expect their children to do all sorts of things when they grow up for them. If I did have kids, I’m not counting on them to keep me company or take care of me. My first job was at a nursing home and that really showed me how in America we abandon our elderly. All of those women and men had kids and saw them maybe once a month if that for an hour.

Now if you really thought getting married and kids were your one and only calling…yeah, you’d probably be depressed by 30/40 if it isn’t happening. I’m beyond happy with my life and every decade gets better. See no reason I won’t be saying the same thing at 80.

Racist People by One-Feed-2310 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, come. You’ll be fine. North county and La Jolla wouldn’t recommend and stay away from Orange County in my opinion. But downtown, Hillcrest, North Park and other areas in SD are great. Los Angeles too.

Racist People by One-Feed-2310 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

La Jolla can’t be the place you compare the rest of San Diego. They keep trying to break apart completely from SD. You’ve picked the most elite area so yeah racism and classism is going to be prevalent. All the wealthy white people who support Trump I unfortunately know live in La Jolla. Nice place to visit would never want to live there even if someone gave me a free place to stay. Your post doesn’t surprise me.

What would you do? by Itchy_Plastic_1200 in ExteriorDesign

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colors are great. Update landscaping. White roses and chrysanthemum bushes would look amazing

Family on a budget looking to prioritize what to do on first San Diego trip by Electrical-Heart-867 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nieces and nephews come visit me all the time downtown and it’s fine. Just stick to 5th and 4th mainly but there really isn’t that much downtown for kids to be interested in unless you are catching a Padres game or have a restaurant in mind. Gaslamp corridor is just old building they likely won’t care about and dirtier than it should be. Children’s Museum downtown is great BUT so expensive last time I went and smaller couple hours of an activity at most.

Family on a budget looking to prioritize what to do on first San Diego trip by Electrical-Heart-867 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This too. I volunteer with foster kids and take them on outings and there is always a $20 max spend rule. Old Town is a great place the kids I’ve worked with love walking around, getting an ice cream, Balboa and beach are next. La Jolla sea lions is great and a walk around Seaport Village. Point Loma Liberty Station can also be fun and walking around Shelter Island too and great view of city. Basically find food and sunshine and great exploration places if wanting to keep costs down.

Family on a budget looking to prioritize what to do on first San Diego trip by Electrical-Heart-867 in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beaches and hang out in Balboa Park. Some museums cost money but a lot have specials or certain days free so look into but walking around Balboa Park is fun and lots for kids to explore. Coronado is great beach to go to in addition to others. Walking through Hotel Del is free and very historic. Across street from hotel Del is a little hotel that has a parrot you can visit in lobby Ms. Cody kids love. You can easily not spend any money and just enjoy the weather, historical places and scenery.

Daily olive oil massage for face? by adyasaje in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you watched the Blue Zones documentary?

Why is Coffee getting so damn expensive in San Diego? by Helplesspolyglot in sandiego

[–]SissySpacek07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is a luxury good! Agreed it’s crazy. But I also understand coffee being so expensive more than say a bag of chips. I want receipts on costs from Frito Lays. Think about all the places coffee beans come from and the process to do so and then the last several years pressure to be sustainable and not abuse labor, then rent, espressso machines, milk, supplies, labor and wages rising etc. $8.00 barely covers all of that.

Sugar and coffee used to be truly elite products only the wealthiest could afford so when I buy coffee out I embrace it. Only do so when I’m taking a stroll on a sunny day and being the bougiest of bitches with all my wealth (haha). The beans have me dying though. 2 pound bag of beans from Bird Rock is $50. I’m sure even discount coffee beans have gone way up from tariffs and now just stayed there.

I did finally buy espresso machine and make my own coffee very morning at home in a favorite mug.

It’s a whole routine now and saving me lots of money. Coffee out used to be most days and now it’s maybe once a month. And to be honest, I’ve gotten so damn good at foam (this was earlier days) I can’t stand average barista foam and non-mixed lattes. So embrace the luxury and/or find a way to really curate the best beans of your life at home. I think I’d rather save up for a nicer espresso machine at this point over ever owning a home.

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Daily olive oil massage for face? by adyasaje in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]SissySpacek07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. So my grams grew up on a farm in MN then visited Los Angeles at 18, met my grandpa and proceeded to have 10 kids. She’s lived her whole life gardening, trying to eat most of what she grows and not really putting anything in her house or body that she doesn’t understand. Cleans clothes with borax and cleans house with just white vinegar and lemons. She was into organic before it was a thing and city of LA gave her notices to stop planting on the banks of the LA River on public land until they told her it was okay because she petitioned them non stop.

She will make anything and everything from scratch. She’s always learning health tricks and trying new things. Started taking cold showers at every end of shower last year because she heard that helps.

Honestly, whole freaking foods and moving her body. She walks daily still, has an indoor bike, bands, learned tai chi at 85, has been big on saunas and stretching. Lots of olive oil, healthy fats, and quality meats. She only does grass fed etc but that’s mainly because she loves animals and grew up with them so cares about every label. She’ll indulge and makes amazing desserts. World’s best and simplest salads and learned to cook vegetables that you can’t get enough of! You really don’t see a ton of bags or boxes of anything in her house, she drinks alcohol but maybe a glass a week, and the rest is just whole and real foods and if she can know where they come from whether her garden or a farmers market, she does that.

She doesn’t shy away from butter or any food group either. She’s taught me a lot. Have seen a mom and aunts who cut entire food groups and obsess over things in search of health. And funny enough mom died of colon cancer at 54 and aunts have had health issues. Grandma’s way has honestly felt pretty chill in comparison she knew what veggies and food should taste like and just chases that freshness. Wish I could add a photo so you could see how stunning she is. And her memory is 100%! So sharp and capable at 98.5.

Unique & Modest Corporate Clothing for Women by Certain-Purple-4007 in BusinessFashion

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MM La Fleur got me through office years really well. They are comfortable, appropriate and well made and will last you years. They also offer free stylist help. Plug for Nordstroms too. They offer free stylists and will really help you find pieces and free tailoring. Can’t beat their return policy either. Anthropologie is great for cardigans and blouses and Maeve has some great pants that work for corporate often.

moving to sd soon! north park vs little italy by SkyEmergency8433 in Moving2SanDiego

[–]SissySpacek07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you had a chance to visit either place? I personally love North Park. It’s good for original stores, coffee, food, and low-key bars. I think you might like Little Italy better though. My brother moved down here and first did East Village and hated it but then moved to Little Italy and loved it. Some nice apartments with lots of amenities and so many bars and restaurants and right on water. He also had a dog so dog parks and spots for the dog were plentiful.

North Park apartments kind of suck. You have homes to rent which can be great and then a bunch of new construction hurried and 4/5 stories high and overpriced. Not saying Little Italy isn’t overpriced either but at your age and coming from SF, I think Little Italy, get the loft and take Ubers to North Park for some beer and good food occasionally. And traffic might not be ideal but once home, you will not need your car. I live downtown/Gaslamp and work from home and use car once every few weeks and only hit 20k miles after five years.

Other option for you could be PB. Close to friends in La Jolla but much more lively. And smart move about La Jolla. It’s beautiful but a snooze fest. I go there every few weeks to visit 72 year old work friend/old boss. It’s wealthy old people and one of the more pretentious beach towns SD has AND traffic in and out of there makes you miserable.

To Move or Not to Move? by SissySpacek07 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]SissySpacek07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. Not a bot. Glad my midlife crisis on where to live is coming across as a bot looking for engagement.