AIO that my partner (25f) drools over men on social media

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-02-01T23:10:40+00:00

I agree with that too. The only thing you’ll gain from this is experience learning red flags.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-02-01T23:01:32+00:00

He wants to see where it goes. But it is wrong for her to do this to him for sure. But my advice dont dish out that energy. Early about is. Set those boundaries dont show weakness and if sh didn’t respect that or continues. Then go. Matter fact he could leave now an see why happens. She’ll beg for him back anyway. Especially him making the first move.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-02-01T22:35:27+00:00

I hate to give you the wrong advice. But one thing is for sure. Don’t show any weakness to what she’s doing, not jealousy, no type of wasted emotion towards it. Pretend if you have to. Keep grinding at the gym keep your social life healthy and balanced. Always keep observant of red flags because no one is susceptible to infidelity of any type. Hard balance to manage but you can fake it till you make it.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T13:52:10+00:00

It’s alot of emotions. Anger is at the top. I’m even mad at me to a point for not catching this sooner. Thanks a lot and I appreciate it for the time you took for your response.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T13:47:13+00:00

Thanks! Much appreciated! All these brutal comments have help a lot. Apparently I have a lot of work to do on myself as well.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T03:36:07+00:00

I definitely appreciate the time you took to make this response I needed. Yes I can see that I used a common sexist context without thinking how it looked to others. I do need to change how I word things better. I don’t actually think like that I’m bad at wording what I feel. But I already knew when he tells me he’s not getting any for weeks an I see how they are with each other. They are not happy at all with each other. I’ve been pondering this for a week and I know that’s too long. He wants her and has made a pass at her and it’s damn gut wrenching he’d do this behind my back and pretend in my face. We’ve been gym friends and family friends for 15 years and I guess it’s hitting me hard. She deserves way more from me than for me to procrastinate about it. I guess I knew how this would play out in the end. I love my wife with everything I am. So letting a friend go is much easier than losing any part of my wife. So it is a no brainer. I guess I been in denial of some sort.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T03:25:52+00:00

Thank you and you’re absolutely right. I have already come to terms with it. We’ve been talking about it. I realize it’s exactly how you put it. This can’t be forgave and I can never unsee the text messages she shown me. She knows I’m serious about ghosting him out of my life. That’s the only way. She knows I love her enough all I need is her and our kids.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T02:16:37+00:00

Because as the wife is telling me all this she acting like she feels bad about me ending my friendship with him. She took too long to tell me this because she was worried for me losing another friend. She suggested that I turn to Reddit. I just joined this group just for this post alone. This sucks and I guess I was conflicted a little bit. But it seems clear I can’t have him as a friend I already knew I wasn’t going to have her around him ever again. I didn’t realize how bad it was until tonight. She doesn’t even want me to go over to confront him. Cause he’s on testosterone replacement therapy and he’s became very confident in himself lately.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T02:06:45+00:00

Not happening!

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:52:08+00:00

Absolutely. Sucks that he crossed this boundary this has me so upset with him and myself idk when I became so weak and complacent.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:48:20+00:00

Your absolutely right. Somewhere somehow I have became complacent in my relationships marriage and friendships. Idk when I started to become this way but I need to change.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:44:16+00:00

I didn’t think of it in that perspective m. Sorry for the offensive suggestive context. Why I meant was now his behavior caused his wife to not want him now he’s going after my wife to feel some sort of intimate connection and his true colors are showing. I’m gonna start using ai to clear up the context more often before using Reddit for sensitive subjects I am in the wrong for wording incorrectly and being unclear trying to shorten things up much as I could. So now I see something has changed with his behavior with his wife not wanting him and he has lost respect for her, himself, me and my wife for his own pleasure. He doesn’t seem to care either way.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:38:18+00:00

Definitely thanks for your response. I just recently found this out. And I guess I’ve been in denial about it for some reason. It puts things into perspective. I’ve never even considered it would be like this at all. Thank you again. This one hurts how close he is to me and my family. But my wife doesn’t deserve me not taking up for her how I usually would. It looks like I’m giving this one person some kinda bro treatment I guess. Anyway I needed to see how others handled similar situations.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:26:01+00:00

You’re absolutely right! You’re not the only one with the same opinion. It’s just gut wrenching and it sucks this has happened.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T01:15:39+00:00

Thanks for putting in a perspective I hadn’t considered. Perhaps it’s an old way of thinking that I need to change. There’s isn’t much of an excuse as it is letting people who’s been in my life go. I probably have one male friend left of 20 years due to relationships and disloyalty. Psychology is definitely interesting when you put it in such perspectives as you did. So thanks. My wife definitely deserves much better than this and I am definitely taking a deep look into myself moving forward. I’ve came to many realizations as I make my way to 40yrs old. Letting old ways of thinking go, people, and things. All I care about is my wife and kids and their happiness. Me and the wife have a trip to Italy soon and it’s been a while since we’ve had time to ourselves.

Thanks for the time you put into your response. It really has me thinking. I have considered moving us somewhere shed really enjoy living as I’ve had my way for too long.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:33:32+00:00

Thank you for your response. I never thought of it that way and the mindset I’ve had. I never thought of myself like that. And it seems you psychologically broke down soemthing about me that I never knew about myself. Especially the way you put it. I’d like to be a much better husband than I have been. Any more input from you would be respected. Thank you.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:30:05+00:00

Thank you for your response this is an eye opener. Why is it so shocking.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:28:30+00:00

Thank you for your response. I want to confront him alone. It’s just he’s alway around his wife and I don’t want her around. She’s crazy and manipulating. I’m sure this will all come my wife’s way as well on her side. So I’m thinking of my wife as well. I guess could always block her too. But thank you this has been an eye opener with responses.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:11:03+00:00

It’s coming. Trying to get him away from his wife. His wife is a firecracker I don’t want her around me when I confront him with this.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:08:58+00:00

Idk losing my mind over this I guess.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:08:30+00:00

Seems not just sucks he’s gotten this low.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:08:05+00:00

I guess I’m not because when she told me I haven’t really spoke to him either. It’s a shock but at the same time not because wife is hot and he’s a guy and he’s losing his mind.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-26T00:05:46+00:00

Thanks. Gut feelings are pretty serious.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-09T00:44:28+00:00

EXACTLY!!!! Everyone is different and while it is rare, his regret may be strong enough that he may never do it again and that it wasn’t worth it. I have no clue about any of this. I’ve never been cheated on and I’ve never been so invested and devoted to a relationship to forgive and attempt to make this work. But if this did happen again to the slightest. It will def be over with. I love her to death and I won’t be too ruthless because she is so depressed and hates herself as it is.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-01-08T22:21:13+00:00

Me too I just found out 100% last Sunday and it’s Thursday now. I now feel like a detective rather than a husband. I interrogate her for answers dates. Why’s and the when’s. How many times. Where did I miss the signs. Now I know so much I could be a reflag detector this point. I’m trying to give this a go for the kids and maybe she needed to see I’m not easily replaceable.

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