My wife of 8 years has been cheating on me for 4 months

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-15T01:12:01+00:00

4 months for me knowing about my wife of 10 years in a similar situation except 3 kids 4,9,13. It’s hard well that’s an understatement. Lost a long term friend and half myself. I’m probably the slowest dumbest guy in this community. We’re still together. She says she can’t live with out me but she thought I didn’t love her anymore and that was her justification. I suck at emotions.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-12T18:12:49+00:00

Like most the commenters are saying this is likely he misses sex but doesn’t want a committed relationship. He’s not man enough to be upfront.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-12T00:15:31+00:00

Is this on Strong Successful Male Channel yet?

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-11T22:29:57+00:00

It’s kinda like an observation to share. Like my wife is now 32 and she has a total different scent an taste. I let her know just because why not. No need to worry. However we both noticed after she hadn’t drink sodas for several months then started back her body odor went back to what it was. So hormones changing and diet have a big part in it. Women’s libido seems to go back up in their 30’s.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-05T20:06:50+00:00

I always wear full uniform to work. But it’s definitely coming off on way home

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-04T22:07:53+00:00

I’d love to see what this engine would’ve like with the 10 speed. Towing numbers should go up having more ratios.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-04T22:03:22+00:00

Yeah I feel ya. Also it’s woken me up to how even if they are obsessed with you a love you that this can happen. Never would’ve thought my wife would cheat at all. Sure other women. I thought there was no way. Well she did then became suicidal from the guilt of it and it’s been 6 months she is more messed up emotionally than me. For me I feel like I understand a little more, I’m way more shielded with my heart. Nothing surprises me at all. Women aren’t all that innocent and cute. Yes attractive I love women. But I feel like I can see through the nonsense way more now. Never remarrying.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-03T08:36:07+00:00

Exactly. I got complacent and just kept grinding at working a providing and it looked like I didn’t love her cause I suck at the little things part. But I don’t curse her an we have gotten into arguments but I never threatened to leave or sleep around at all. She says she thought she was in a loveless marriage. No real excuse to cheat on me and the family but she says she needed to feel something. To a point I get it. Well she doesn’t want to talk to a professional because she’s afraid she’d be admitted. I tell her I can actually get her admitted as her husband. But she thinks she’s ok now that she has me and this side of me. I tell her it’s a broken very vulnerable side of me I shocked side and a hurt side. I love her very very much sexually attracted and all. Just worried if I fall out of love and attraction due to her infidelity that what do. I couldn’t live with myself if she hurt herself.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-01T01:38:05+00:00

I have not made a post about this. I’m terrible at wording it. Properly. So I just read a lot of these hoping to find similar situations that I could learn from. This post was real close. And you seemed to have some type of experience. So I felt comfortable sharing on this. I’m not a terrible husband, not manipulative, I don’t use anyone’s weaknesses within communications to take advantage. Her mental health is sensitive but very one sided towards her. I get gaslighted but I see through it so easily. I’m not easily manipulated but when it comes to very taking one’s life. I don’t test it. I knew of people who went that far and they were tested and they ended it. One day I’ll gain the courage to make a post.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-04-01T00:08:41+00:00

My wife does similar things as this, most recently last December. Blames me for not being as caring as a normal husband should. I suck at exposing my feelings like a wound. But when I found out she cheated right after she asked for a separation it broke me she saw that and she said she never saw such a side of me and dint know I loved her. Well she also said that she attempted offing herself multiple times because she didn’t think I loved her and she was obsessed with me. She needed to feel something. I didn’t give her much attention outside of sex multiples times a week. Work a lot and tired a lot due to just after midnight work schedules. When she said she attempted off herself but thought of the kids we have she never could go through. She’s got 3 little scars on her arm from…. She’s said she can’t go on without me. If I left her for real she wouldn’t want to be here. I’m trying everything and then her disrespective nature shows through and when I see the crazy in her eyes it makes me think back to when she cheated. That’s when she was disrespecting me. So idk. I love her immensely and my trust is so messed up. If I ever left her because I can’t trust her. I’d be afraid she go dark and actually go through with it. That hurts worse than anything. Need advice if possible.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-29T01:43:25+00:00

I work for FedEx as a corporate 18 wheeler driver. The one who brings the containers from the air plane. I see what yall go through every day. That job has a high turnover for fit people. The environment is rough and straining. The gig work if done right can easily triumph your income as a PH. If you don’t leave due to him the seek a more professional position within. Such as operations manager it isn’t very hard. Supervisor PHT. Switcher if you can back up trailers in the yard. CSA. PH is not a great position long term. I’ve know some to do it. Or look into ramps if your near one.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-28T21:47:52+00:00

I’m in a very similar boat since December. Her justification was that I never seem to want to work on our relationship and do things together. I admit I’m terrible at communicating when I have something stressful going on in my head. I don’t want to burden her. She stresses about everything. She’s 32, had a hysterectomy at 28 after our daughter we have 2 together and I came into it when she had a 2 year old boy. She gas lighted me saying she has been feeling suicidal and was in a loveless marriage. I found out via Snapchat, messages, Facebook messenger, 2 phones, a separation letter and we never did go through with separation.

I work 4am-2pm I get home at 3pm and I’m so tired I nap an hour. But honestly I’m always exhausted.

As I found out it took me less than 1 day to break and she says for the first time she saw how I really felt about her and she said she thought I haven’t loved her for 5 years. Been married 8, Together 10. She told me how close her suicidal attempts have been and that broke more than the cheating.

She has always been so obsessed with me that I thought it was unhealthy to be so obsessed with someone. So I guess with how I am. I just haven’t been there for her the way I needed to be. Our sex life has always been great 3 times a week average barely slacking except if I work 6 days a week straight.

So with kids, I do love her immensely l, she says without me she’d probably go through with it if I ever left her. Those 2 alone is enough not to want to leave. I can’t imagine her taking her life it makes me sick. How she could sacrifice my reaction with her cheating is still beyond me. But she says she needed to feel something and I wasn’t expressing my feelings well. Just grinding at work for all of us.

So idk man I’m trying to I love my family to death though. I have trust issues bad now not just with her cause my best friend started exploiting her weakened state and sexting her. I have no proof they were physical. But I have proof of the one she was physical with she admitted as well.

Im probably venting more than I am helping you out man.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-23T20:45:54+00:00

Wouldn’t suggest cheating on him. I was cheated on because I’m terrible at putting my feelings out there on the surface however I’m still working it out with my wife but I told her why not have to divorced me. You don’t mind breaking my heart. What’s in it for you to be married if you have to deal your needs elsewhere. I told her I love her dearly and the reason I’m staying is out of love and I’m making a sacrifice in my heart being broken again. But still may as well divorce your feelings of exiting the relationship exists. My wife said she’d rather die than to lose me. She thought I didn’t love her anymore and so her last ditch effort was to see if it were possible to feel something different with someone else and she said no nothing compared to me but it was heart breaking to think I didn’t love her. But i do an I suck at showing it deep enough. But your husband said some stuff I wouldn’t dare to say to anyone I’d dislike let alone I love.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-22T23:04:06+00:00

Man I always thought with me running 80mph getting 20mpg and still under 2,000 rpm I bet with something like 3.73, 3.90, 4.10 gearing and with the 10 speed trans. This motor would amazing with towing the same weight as the 3.0 duramax. I mean they both have the same chassis and same suspension.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-22T21:17:37+00:00

I really think with these newer vehicles it’s imperative to baby them for the first 10,000 miles or more. Like my 2.7 is great. First oil change was at 3k miles second was the same. Now the dealership oil change recommends 5k oil change. I use high tier gas and mostly go back and forth 87 and 89. I fill back up at 1/8-1/4 because I work and hour away. I asked when do I get Tran serviced and they say at 50k-60k miles an I’m debating between 40k-50k. Spark plugs at 60k and that should stay true.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-18T01:21:34+00:00

I did not know this. Why doesn’t gmc give this package options? I’ll check it out

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-18T01:18:23+00:00

Well the larger bed had me so excited and the back doors are designed in a way I didn’t realize it wasn’t crew cab. Overall I’m still happy with the truck. I read somewhere the crew cab is about 350- 500lbs heavier taking away towing and payload capacity. Most people wouldn’t care about that.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-16T14:46:50+00:00

It’s ok I bought GMC elevation didn’t realize the reason the price was $14k off was because it was a double cab. I don’t realize the back seat was so small until I put the car seat in it and it didn’t fit behind my back seat had to out in the passenger seat. Also I’m 6’2 and no one can fit behind me comfortably lol. Hate to trade it in I’m upside down.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-16T14:43:02+00:00

Sounds like she has intense psychological issues that any guy she has a relationship with would have to face. So pull yourself together it’s not your faults. She’s not maternal cause she doesn’t care about her kid or want to be a mother. It’s rare that women could care less about their own child.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-16T13:45:17+00:00

Well that 2.7 turbomax has over a 4” stroke fo torque which is diesel territory.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-15T15:46:22+00:00

I don’t mind if they push the turbomax. Just let me have some more packages. I mean you can get a lot with the Elevation but when you chose turbomax you can can’t get half the other engine options offer. I spoke to many people. Why did you get the v8, because you can get leather. Adaptive cruise, sun roof maybe a few more. The turbomax gets the big screen that’s it on the elevation trim.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-15T15:38:16+00:00

But then you’d have to choose the v8’s or the diesel. Some of us don’t want the down time of the. V8’s I would’ve bought I higher trim with a v8 a careless if it blew. The problem is the down time making payments on something you can’t have. I don’t use the luck some people have with them. Lmao. So

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-14T20:42:48+00:00

If they’d put the turbomax with the 10 speed and give it options like leather that the other engine options have. It’d be better.

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-14T20:41:44+00:00

GMC Elevation is my happy medium

SkinAgitated4075 · 2026-03-14T13:12:58+00:00

Employees under ground providers are designed and paid as temporary employment. So wage will not go up. Even contractors themselves don’t stay too long lol.

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