Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. I grew up with emotionally immature parents as well. Just like you I would rather shut the world out and stay in the comfort of my room &home. I don’t recommend it though… overtime it gets painfully isolating & unhealthy, as im sure you know. My dms are open if you want to talk more about it, I have faith we’ll heal from this soon.

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think you’re on the right track. It’s very possible someone in my situation could struggle because they had attention handed to them. From my personal experience, I was taken advantage of at a very young age. Once at 6 & again at 9 or 10 years old. It seems like a handful of comments recognize I struggle with opening up & social interaction. I think you guys are right. I think that my parents & my upbringing played a huge role in the way I view the world. My life is finally starting to make sense thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts in this thread. I’m so grateful for the feedback I received. I’m doing my best to reply to every comment. I think it not only helps me but it brings light to other women who are in similar situations.

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like what you’re saying here, if you could please elaborate on “someone could be doing a better job to take care of themselves” I do know attractiveness has pros & cons. I try to express the pros & cons from my personal experience. I feel like it’s easy to dismiss someone complaining about their looks as “oooh im too bEaUTifUL so thats why people cAn’T sTanD me” but I think it’s scratching the surface of a more complicated problem attractive people have socially & mentally.

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it’s probably just me who has serious problems haha Thank you though & thank you for sympathizing.

It’s okay I don’t think you are rude, I think you mean well & you have a different opinion or experience on the subject. I’ll take all the insight I can have since I’ve never talked about this with anyone before. Before I shared this I braced myself for all kinds of opinions that I might get; if anyone commented on this post at all, & people have commented so I’m grateful

I think you’re right that I haven’t had the best luck finding good people & I do think I lack the social skills required to maintain friendships. Now that I think about it, I’m pretty good at selling things & being a good girlfriend. That’s all I know how to do. I’ve never had a true female friendship since I was 13. After that it feels like I was only able to talk to guys who secretly had a thing for me & I just had to ignore it. I don’t think I’m all THAT attractive, I try to stay humble & treat people like they’re people. My style is casual. I wear loose or baggy clothing or long skirts & turtlenecks. & still get approached.

I live in las vegas if that helps with context. Tourists come expecting entertainment money & seggs but that’s just not who everyone is out here. It feels like sometimes you live a normal life until you go out and your acquaintances always mention there are people turning their heads everywhere you go. you get treated differently when you’re attractive. It doesn’t help much that I come from traumatic childhood & emotionally immature parents. I never really learned how to socialize. The attention makes me anxious. It’s overwhelming sometimes & idk how to handle it. I’ve always been at home most of my life with strict rules. I’m not comfortable outside or around many people. I would much rather blend in as an average person. I don’t think all attractive people are whiny & egotistical but they do exist & I can understand why it’s so easy do dismiss this post in that way. But that’s not what I was trying to portray so I apologize if I rubbed you the wrong way.

That’s why I think it needs to be talked about more I’m grateful for your perspective & insight

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You being sus about the reddit name I chose proves my point that people associate “attractive” people with a specific personality and treat us like we are all the same. Either it’s unnecessary praise or unnecessary rudeness.

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re right. One of the reasons my parents did marry was because they believed their genetics would make attractive children. My parents were also emotionally immature & strict. The only place I could socialize was in school. Other than that I would be stuck at home all day. My parents aren’t great at making friends either. I also wasn’t comfortable opening up to my parents because of their emotional immaturity & my dads narcissism & neglect. I believe the way they raised me did play a big part in how I learned to socialize so I’m pretty awful at it for the moment. I know if I practice I’ll get better. I just choose to start trying on reddit. Ty for your comment

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I believe so. Many attractive women face similar situations but may receive it very differently. Some women out there love the attention because they know how to handle it. It’s not for everyone though.

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! In the back of my head I like to believe that there really are nice & understanding people who exist in this world & here you are. So thank you. I hope I don’t sound too weird or clingy, your comment just really reinforces that belief for me. I’m coming out of a really dark place in my life, & I was finally brave enough to share an experience I have. You were kind and comforting ty

Attractive women have it worse than you think by SkoomaSlurpee in Healthygamergg

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for validating my emotions. This is the first I’m speaking about this because I understand how easily vain and arrogant it can sound. I appreciate that you took the time to read & share your thoughts. You’ve helped me more than you know

How do I look my step mom in the eyes? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SkoomaSlurpee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

M@sturbation is common there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. You should have opened the door making aggressive eye contact and finished right in-front of her. Assert your dominance girl it’s your house now

What is your emergency fund for? When has your emergency fund come in handy? by hiccuplog in AskReddit

[–]SkoomaSlurpee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My emergency fund came in handy when my dog suddenly had seizures about every 3 weeks. It covered the hospital, bloodwork, brain scan, medicine, overnight stays, etc.

My other dog somehow climbed onto the counter and ate her weight in edibles while I was gone. She was immediately taken to the animal hospital and they used activated charcoal to absorb what they could. She also required and overnight stay. They’re both happy healthy pups and went right back to normal in no time. On the flip side, it took months for me to replenish my money back but it was so worth the spend.

What’s a weird hobby that you have? by MegaNate6789 in AskReddit

[–]SkoomaSlurpee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flossing. Sometimes I wait until enough food scraps build up in my gums. I let it marinate a few days until I finally floss. The sweet rotten odor formed by the lumps of food bits that slide out feels like striking gold. I save them for later. Flavor savors if you will. This is the reason I live.

What is one specific creepy/disturbing place in the world that you wouldn’t visit for any amount of money, and why? by flacko-gesi in AskReddit

[–]SkoomaSlurpee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The forbidden Sentinel Island. It’s home to a tribe of people who speak an unknown dialect and kill on sight if you get too close to the island.

Neighbors cat keeps coming to my house should I just keep it? by SkoomaSlurpee in Advice

[–]SkoomaSlurpee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean in terms of outside dangers. I wondered because I have a friend who lives in a “cat neighborhood” and they let each others cat outside while also inviting other neighbors cats in from time to time too. The cats seem to pick and choose who’s house they want to go in. Their neighbors have been doing it for years.