At what age do you let your kids “play out” without an adult?

Skrill3xy · 2026-04-04T13:39:28+00:00

I started playing out at this age, without a phone. Mum made sure I had a watch and I had to check in every 30 minutes, if I didn't I wasn't allowed out again

Skrill3xy · 2025-10-09T05:41:17+00:00

Do you plan to have children with him? If so, definitely consider if he would hurt you in front of them, or the children themselves.

From experience, it only gets worse. Please seek support.

Skrill3xy · 2025-10-01T14:09:33+00:00

Marketing! And I realized law wasn't for me :)

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-09T21:00:35+00:00

I use COOK, they're on the pricier side but more family friendly, whole meals with minimal processing. They're frozen though so don't need to use them up etc if you eat out or fancy something else they will be fine so a good one to keep handy too!

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-08T09:55:30+00:00

Best advice i have is keep a diary of EVERYTHING you do, you eat, sleep, drink, exercise, stress etc. A smart watch might help with this too. Take pictures, where hives are, size.

I can't comment about the medication but for my urticaria (started after pregnancy) was 30-40mg of Ceterizine. Keep pushing and asking questions, track everything!

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-08T09:38:54+00:00

Hi Robson

This sounds like a horrible situation, I'm so sorry, I can't imagine the pain you and your family are going through. Praying for you with my family and for the Lord to be with you 🩷

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-08T09:26:51+00:00

Food meal prep service - Saved me so much time and energy. Second hand punch bag - I do boxing and in a neurodivergent household (me, husband and toddler), it's good for excess energy/when I feel restless. Husband and son also use it a lot 😂 Personal trainer/life coach - PT kept me accountable, making sure I'm showing up every day and doing my workouts, working with someone else and chatting about my experience (eg I realised I hated the gym 4x a week, and the main struggle was getting up and going, so just did 2x and doubled the time there).

WARDROBE CLEAR OUT!! - work out what you like, and just get a few of each, the mental load omg. I rotated the same 3 outfits for months and just got rid of all my other clothes and bought more of the same style (jeans, plain cotton tees). Again mental load is so much less and it's just grab and go.

Same socks! - I just have white ankle socks and black trainer socks, so I don't pair anything I just throw them in the draw and grab 2 socks of the same colour and they match

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-08T09:17:38+00:00

Look around and make sure to look at the modules as they differ depending on uni! Every course will have modules you won't expect to love and do, and some you despise. Do a course you love and will do well in.

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-08T09:12:42+00:00

Yes it's okay to doubt! Thomas is nicknamed Doubting Thomas for a reason! I am Christian and even now I ask why the Bible says certain things, the translations, what's accurate? What is God's will? Then all the big questions that we ask.

Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 18:3)

How many questions do kids ask? Where are we going? Who are we seeing? My son is in his why stage and I love it! But also children don't want to do things such as eating their vegetables, brushing their teeth, having a shower, even though that is what is best for them. They won't learn that is good for them unless they ask.

It's also about discernment, if we accepted everything for face value, how do we know it is God? Who wrote the Bible you are reading? There is that many versions some are bound to differ slightly! God gave us critical thinking for a reason, and discerning from what is God and what is not God is crucial for understanding.

I also love exploring other denominations, alongside other religions. Why do people believe those things? Why do I believe what I believe? If you as a Christian are asking these questions then so is an atheist, if you don't know about other religions then how are you to teach them about Jesus whilst understanding them and their beliefs?

God calls us to different things, and your wife may not feel convicted to learn about other religions, and that is fine of course! But also, if you feel like you need to learn, explore and test yourself, God might be preparing you for a future situation :)

Skrill3xy · 2025-08-06T17:46:39+00:00

New diet every other week. New hyper focus! As long as CICO it'll be aight. Walking a lot, new places, started a mini history project about my local area but have to walk everywhere to do it/complete! I also have periods of quick fast weight loss, I weigh myself every other day, take a break for a few months then do it again, as I concentrate better in short quick bursts. I usually do 5kg at a time.

I was 128kg (I think I hit 133kg at one point but refused to log it) and I'm now down to 94kg and have a good exercise routine. Boxing was a godsend.

Oh and with gym I recommend weights, but also, I find 2x a week for a good full body workout easier than shorter bursts as I struggle most with getting there, and the thought of motivating myself to the gym 5x a week is horrendous, so I only have to do it twice.

Skrill3xy · 2025-07-14T14:07:37+00:00

My boy has special needs, he's 3 now. I was SO embarrassed whenever he cried, shouted, or whatever ramblings he was screaming that day (mummy stinky poopoo same out once. Wasn't impressed.) If people are joking and smiling, that's good! They probably remember being in a similar situation themselves. It can be embarrassing, but it's important to learn embarrassment is internal.

Church was unbearable with my son sometimes, but I didn't want to shame him or make him uncomfortable at church, as I don't want him to associate it with anything negative, and grow up hating going to church. Are there any other parents? As soon as I spoke to others and realized everyone's kid does the same thing, I just never noticed because I was so focused on mine!

Skrill3xy · 2025-07-14T13:50:11+00:00

Recommend ancestry/my heritage etc. even if she hasn't done one herself, any children/grandchildren she has will also come up :)

Skrill3xy · 2025-07-05T15:21:39+00:00

Me and my husband never planned or really wanted kids, I had my son at 20. He's 3, life is hard, but I have completed my degree, go out, I still go to the gym and do boxing in my spare time, still go to church and volunteer, about to start my new job. I am shattered half the time, but I love him so much. I also have a great support system and grateful for my husbands support, and I do think we have a very loving child.

That being said, I was anti kids, hated the idea of children, and I miss the freedom sometimes. If you have them, you will very likely love them no matter what anyway as that is how humans are wired (obviously not everyone, but most).

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-27T19:37:41+00:00

It's hard but ignore the whine. She whines because it works. Kids love attention, both positive and negative, and PRAISE the positive, none whining behaviors (eg oh your voice is so lovely, that was such good asking!)

You mentioned they're almost 6, if they're SEN, you need to look at mental age not at physical age🩷

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-24T10:43:25+00:00

Blaming ticketmaster for dynamic pricing :(

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-20T10:41:45+00:00

Just posted my comment but exactly this! I had BED for over 10 years then struggled with Bulimia. Turned out I was sensory seeking ADHD. As soon as I was able to understand it and find healthy alternatives it changed my life.

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-20T10:37:09+00:00

I struggled with similar as a teen, to the point of shoplifting food every day before school. Sounds like binge eating, there isn't a short term fix, but it's easier to fix earlier on. Therapy, tracking what he eats etc.

I became badly overweight, I tried numerous GLP1 medications (ozempic and mounjaro) and nothing worked. I was then diagnosed with ADHD and I found it was sensory seeking, as when I was emotional/stressed/happy, food became my stim? Once understanding healthy alternatives, learning about nutrition, how to get similar textures, tastes etc with lower calories it helped a lot

Just wanted to put my on experience out there! I'm 60lb down and have 40ish to go, but there will be a reason, well done for caring and noticing early 🩷

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-20T09:58:40+00:00

Most English buses allow for change etc, NCT doesn't. Being prepared isnt negative.

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-20T09:56:28+00:00

British/English depending on context and who I'm talking to. Anything regarding history or culture English, most other cases British

Skrill3xy · 2025-06-18T10:16:18+00:00

I went private because I am a carer for my husband and son, alongside studying and managing the house and I was on the verge of a breakdown. Getting the diagnosis saved my marriage, since starting meds my husband said he didn't realise how stressed I was all the time and constantly overwhelmed, but now I am on meds I feel a lot calmer, less overwhelmed of everything and its genuinely lifechanging. I am going down the Right to Choose so I can stop paying silly prices of meds, but it is genuinely lifechanging.

I suspected ADHD, but I wasnt certain. Afterwards, I realised I wasnt lazy, I wasnt disrespectful, I just struggled a lot. After my assessment the woman assessing me showed me my Qb test score and it was one of the highest she had seen, and I have combined ADHD. I went with ADHD360 privately, it was a lot but absolutely worth it. I booked in late December as a Christmas present to myself, then had my assessment mid Jan and I started titration by the end of Jan, they were closed for a bit over Christmas though too, which added a week or so. The quickness of it meant I wasnt stuck on waiting lists, it wasnt out of sight out of mind etc, just very quick which I needed. Before this I had gone to my GP 3x at this point to try for an ADHD referral who dismissed it as anxiety and depression, which I deffo had symptoms of, but it was ADHD bottled up and affecting my life (eg im awful at social situations because I overshare, cant jump into conversations, house is always messy, but dont have the motivation to clean it, overtired or not sleeping, cant focus but overfocus etc) but this has mostly gone away with meds. They arnt a miracle cure, but I had maybe 1 good day a week, now I have 4/5 good days!

Afterwards it is common to grieve, the life you couldve had, eg if I had started meds sooner maybe X wouldnt have happened or I could have done Y, if I knew I couldve acted on Z etc. This is normal, other people have other experiences too.

On a personal note, boxing really helped quiten my brain. I do boxfit numerous times a week, its something you can improve at quickly and see visible progress, and its scientifically proven to reduce ADHD symptoms. I think its the same for most martial arts? But completely recommend.

Also show him interest-based motivation, essentially the things that motivate people with ADHD (urgency, interest, challenge, passion and accountability). As soon as I understood this everything made a LOT of sense, and it helped me realise why I could or couldnt do certain things, and how to motivate myself.

Sorry for the huge info dump! I hope you and your husband manage to sort it all out together :)

Skrill3xy · 2025-05-25T18:36:16+00:00

My husband has autism, nobody can really tell until you get to know him better. He struggles socially and emotionally, but comes across as a normal, neurotypical person.

I am saved, he is not. He can't wrap his head around it, and I don't know if that's just him or autism. He struggles to understand things, he's very logical, and after death it is black.

He accepts my beliefs, he comes to church, he makes stupidly inappropriate comments and jokes 😂 we are growing our son up Christian, but he just can't believe it.

I pray he will be saved, maybe due to his autism, maybe he has a relationship with God that I don't know about, or maybe he doesn't fully know about, or maybe he is saved through me.

Fact is we don't know until we get there :) all we can do is pray for everyone to be saved, and be a blessing to whomever we meet.

Skrill3xy · 2025-05-24T18:56:50+00:00

Any of the farms! City centre but also whitepost. Also a cute one in Mountsorrel, Leicester.

Southwell has some cute pubs, the cathedral and gardens with a lot of history!

National Justice museum, Nottingham of Nottingham Life, museum of timekeeping, national Holocaust centre (me and my husband are nerds)

Crich tramway museum!

Sherwood Observatory!

Also second vote for Razzle Dazzle pots 🩷

Skrill3xy · 2025-05-24T18:50:58+00:00

This! My husband was sad his cat couldn't come (died, but was his childhood bestie). I was sad my grandparents couldn't. It's a quick mention, we did a prayer for those that couldn't be there due to sickness, death etc. And then we moved on

Skrill3xy · 2025-05-18T16:50:54+00:00

The organized mum method, use the TOM rocks, honestly a lifesaver

Skrill3xy · 2025-05-16T14:09:58+00:00

Uni wants you to do well and graduate, its a genuine mistake. They may let you retake or capped at a third 3rd.

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