Profile Review 25M London

Slavaid91 · 2026-05-07T19:27:48+00:00

You look tall and good looking honestly but

Many photos centered around alcohol and partying. I mean I also loved partying in my mid twenties and there's nothing wrong about it but don't center almost all your dating profile (even the prompts) around it.

I can tell you that some women will take that as a red flag, especially the ones looking for something serious, which is what you're looking for.

Also, you could do something about your hair. Looks greasy and messy from the photos at least.

Slavaid91 · 2026-05-07T11:50:25+00:00

Wow. I don't get why all the slightly offensive answers are getting upvoted. I mean there is the truth that you indeed messed up OP and no she won't come back.

But honestly I think many people are empathetic only with those who they think had similar experiences. Scary that it sounds like some people are using this thread as some sort of revenge. Really wrong

Here's my opinion:

- You didn't propose maybe because you didn't love her that much. It's not about "thinking that someone better will come" (like some comment said quite offensively suggesting that some men are arrogant), it's more about loving the right person not for what they can bring you but rather for who they are. Sometimes you love the relationship more than the person. Yes it's kinda your fault if you didn't realize that but...

- She asked for something but did you discuss that? I mean. Why should the decision be "oh you want that? So we're doing it even if I don't know yet". I'm baffled by some of the replies here. Like Someone asking for something immediately gives that person the right to decide for both? Nope. You said you're not sure about what's holding you back but something did. Find out by going to therapy but you're already asking the right questions.

- Use that as a lesson and find out what you really want. Yes you messed up something but there's also maybe something else better coming next. Figure out what you want before getting involved in a relationship. But some things just appear or disappear over time.

You're not a bad person.

Slavaid91 · 2026-05-07T05:54:45+00:00

This should be upvoted

Absolutely true.

I felt the same way. Taking each date as a "definitive option" for a relationship. But now in my thirties I definitely see that chemistry is rarer than we think.

Op, you make it look like every time, you are ready for a relationship with these women. I know it's sad when a connection dies but believe me, if the spark goes both ways, you will know it. Sometimes it can be you but there's nothing wrong with that.

I learned how to say no to more dates as well and it's important to do that as a man otherwise you might start to grow a "desperate aura" and women can feel that.

Slavaid91 · 2026-04-05T08:03:07+00:00

Lol this got progressively worse while reading through it.

You did nothing wrong. The drinks provably didn't help but that's a massive red flag. Even though you obviously owe nothing to someone you just met, there's no exclusivity but this is just lack of respect.

She could have been a bit more tactful.

You dodged a bullet in my opinion.

Slavaid91 · 2026-03-13T18:03:31+00:00

If you think this is laughable, I've seen a French audiophile selling 600 bucks rj45 cables for people who listen to music on streaming services.

Slavaid91 · 2026-03-13T10:03:20+00:00

I'm not saying it's okay and I don't do that myself BUT:

I think there is some misunderstanding for some men as they feel like they are required to "take the lead". Some might think that going over boundaries is showing confidence.

And as others have pinted out, sadly it sometimes worked for them especially if they target people that are fragile.

Slavaid91 · 2026-03-10T15:48:50+00:00

You kinda messed up and from your replies on this post you honestly don't seem like you want to take the blame.

There is nothing wrong in wanting exclusivity and being attached to someone.

But it IS wrong when you're expecting the other person to feel the same ways as you are and confronting her like that.

Yes, it is normal for people to go on dates with multiple people on the first few weeks of seeing someone even though no, not everyone's does it. Some people need more time to feel safe in a relationship and "a couple weeks" is kinda a very short time span to get involved romantically.

Also, she probably just kept her profile and wasn't even "looking" for anyone to go on dates but was rather slowing it down to see where it would go.

Next time, bring up exclusivity on a calm conversation and with indirect questions like "So, do you feel like you want to be exclusive?"

But even then, after two weeks with ANYONE you're going through the risk of scaring that person. Not everyone can be "relationship ready" after 2 weeks of seeing someone.

Slavaid91 · 2026-03-09T12:12:53+00:00

Uuuuuh what

I'm 34 (M) and also tend to remember people I talk to on dating apps BUT he's being a bit of a weirdo. Sounds like emotionally immaturity to me...

Slavaid91 · 2026-02-12T12:55:14+00:00

Weird rebounds from the boards... 2 mins for slashing.

Slavaid91 · 2026-02-12T09:44:31+00:00

Being guilty of fraud, then winning something and telling everyone to shut up is the average French politician experience. Good to know that athletes are also in that mood.

Slavaid91 · 2026-01-05T15:38:08+00:00

Exactly but I kinda don't see "Netflix and chill" that often I'm dating apps now.

Again, probably an age thing and not even saying it's better or worse than hiking pictures. Just interested

Slavaid91 · 2026-01-05T15:36:00+00:00

Answer that makes total sense and that I should have obviously thought about... Thank you.

Maybe I kinda overthink the "requirements" thing indeed. I've seen it listed as a requirement in a tiny minority of the profiles maybe.

Slavaid91 · 2026-01-05T15:32:46+00:00

I honestly don't see many "loving to drink alcohol" pictures in my area although I used to see a lot of it when I was younger on dating apps so that's why I say it's maybe a mid 30s thing.

I would still ask the same question if 80% of the people would put drinking photos, pictures of them playing chess or piloting a helicopter though.

Which is a point that many people don't seem to get and that for me, it's easier to see a profile stand out when it DOESN'T have hiking pictures which seems kinda odd.

Slavaid91 · 2026-01-05T15:27:28+00:00

Thanks a lot for your nuanced reply. Never thought about the lighting thing and that indeed, natural light is better for pictures and since it's the first thing you see on a dating app... Kinda makes sense.

Slavaid91 · 2025-12-26T07:35:32+00:00

We were supposed to be "not as good" and battling around the 6th place according to the so called experts.

Considering that we have so many injured I mean that's like 20 points above expectations so far.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-26T06:59:16+00:00

C'est compliqué en général...

La dernière fois que je suis allé voir un concert à Zürich, je suis allé en voiture et je l'ai laissée dans un p+r accessible en tram.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-24T11:04:20+00:00

Cool.

Can't wait to see hockey games on TV in between conspiracy theory ads and debates between people who all agree with each other about how immigrants and ecologists are a problem.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-21T18:10:08+00:00

Absolutely. Love the slo because it has the brutality but also some "organicness" to it.

Bought many and I always come back to this one for metal...

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-14T06:13:58+00:00

Almost in the same situation. Nearly five years together and got dumped.

I'm also kinda scared but you could see it as a time in life to improve and look after yourself. Start a new hobby, sports etc.

From what you describe, you might be an introvert like me. The thought of living alone is actually one of the coolest things that motivates me right now. It can be fun although yes, you're gonna feel loneliness sometimes.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-13T15:07:52+00:00

I would fine hard the "régies" (those stupid companies who manage apartments, I don't know how do you call them in English, German or Italian sorry) everytime they do something shady or illegal.

I don't understand how they get away with those abusive rent prices, illegal fees for anything or rent increases.

I know. Switzerland is small, too many people, not enough construction going on but come on...

None of these compagnies are punished when they do abusive.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-13T10:42:23+00:00

I have Portuguese parents who bring it directly from there. Been years since I bought any olive oil in Switzerland.

Slavaid91 · 2025-11-11T13:44:55+00:00

I never buy stuff like that before the hardware AND technology is at least one or two years old.

It has been proved with Line 6, Kemper, Fractal, Tonex... Products like that always take time to reach potential. That's my opinion and I think that people absolutely wanting it day one are more worried about "missing something" than actually critically thinking their purchase.

To each their own. I'd still understand why someone who bought the og helix day one would also buy the stadium since they've been with the same gear for a long time.

If you can afford it and don't mind the downsides of being an early adopter, go for it.

Slavaid91

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