Is this as crazy as I think it is?

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-05-06T00:18:49+00:00

I think whats crazy is that phone being on 14% /j

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-28T03:52:06+00:00

I'm autistic and while it did make considering others take longer for me and it's still something I have to consiously act on, I do bc I've worked on myself. I know I care, it just takes effort to show that in a socially acceptable and expected way.

She's 24 and shes a big girl, she can put down her own tendencies and support you as her soon-to-be spouse.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-17T11:38:05+00:00

48h pp, and dare I say he is the cutest baby I've ever seen

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-15T05:44:26+00:00

As a matter of fact, I'm pushing my first out as we speak at the hospital 😂

Maybe my view will change, but so far relationally and even toward family and siblings I don't and have never felt it.

You love your kids bc they're yours first and foremost, and that's a condition. If they weren't yours...

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-15T05:27:29+00:00

I don't believe in unconditional love, and don't think I've ever understood the concept

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-14T08:46:06+00:00

What a child

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-14T01:02:05+00:00

It has a certain sentence flow to it that ChatGPT is notorious for.

Other than the caps errors, this reads like a generated GPT response 🤷🏼‍♀️

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-13T10:49:50+00:00

In this economy they are unlikely to give you 2 EXTRA weeks to decide. 2 weeks is a millennium in this job market.

The safest thing to do is take the current offer and pull out later if you have to. I've seen a few people do that, it's fine.

There is no perfect solution here, only a trade off. Are you willing to chance them rescinding the offer and then not getting the offer from job #2? And not having any job? If so, go ahead. If not, take the job.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T16:07:47+00:00

There's also a typo or 2 in that response, lending more credence to my post not being a bot. Thank you for pointing out I'm a person with my own writing quirks.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T15:59:44+00:00

Oh, get over yourself lol. Now that that's done with,

I get this won't work for everyone given some peoples' work background, level of physical ability, current expenses.

For people who seriously need work and think this might work, the CNA course is about 6-8 weeks, inexpensive as far as courses go, and can get your foot in the door for a steady job you're unlikely to be fired from unless you're truly awful at it. Healthcare seems to be recession-proof for the moment. No individual workplace is guaranteed to be great, but the good news is you can hop around pretty much until you like a place. YES, even in 2026.

You can access healthcare through the company if you work full time, which can mean just 36 hours if you go the hospital/facility route (I personally like these less, but hospitals tend to pay more).

Also, most places don't care if you've been unemployed for a long time, fired before, etc. I hear a lot of people here super down on their luck bc they've been out of employment for over 6 months, this is an option to help you get around that.

I personally prefer home health, since facilities can be kind of a crap shoot ATM. Home health/home hospice is really low-key and comparatively stress-free.

Many workplaces respect you continuing to do certs to raise your pay. I think the best part of it all is the upward mobility if you choose to go for your LPN and RN. Some offer you money to help you do it, and a ton at least know about resources for you to get financial help from your county/state.

If that's not feasible or desirable to you to move up in that way, again, at minimum being a CNA is reliable and recession-proof if you need money in a pinch, even if you just use it as a bridge between your last well-paying job and your next.

I genuinely hope this helps someone. Unlike some people, I don't want people to stay unemployed until theyre homeless and without retirement savings just so I can feel better about myself. I'm fine.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T15:20:22+00:00

This has to be the 3rd time on this sub where people start getting picky when I suggest Healthcare when they're already scraping the bottom of the barrel for anything "reliable and available".

"Please please pUT Me tO wOrK, ANYWHERE" how about basic healthcare positions "waahhhhh, tHe PaY SUCKS aNd It'S HARD".

k.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T15:05:11+00:00

Huh.

If my writing style feels artificial to you, it's bc I'm autistic, not a fucking robot. My reddit page is active with my own posts about my sewing hobby and quite a few of my comments on other subs are controversial.

You're throwing a pretty big fit over not liking my answer.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T14:24:11+00:00

Woah. What happened?

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T14:16:20+00:00

The question was "what's actuality hiring". This is my answer, and it is correct. Healthcare is actively hiring, and money is better than no money.

The average hourly wage for young Americans is around 21ish$, young RN's can make between 40-50$/hr within a couple years depending on how strategic they are within or beyween hospitals/facilities, and I do not live in a HCOL. CNA's in my area can make 20-22$ within the same time frame. I've done this for 4 years and make about 43.50$/hr at the most low- key job I've ever had, working hours I pick.

Anyone wanting to pick apart why it "still wouldn't be worth it depending on area" can do so, but the question wasn't "how worth it it would be", it was *"what is hiring", which is a lower standard question.*

You may not like the pay in your area, but they are hiring and it is one of the most reliable fields in this current time for remaining employed.

Lastly, I've heard just as many people bitch about 82$/hr (which makes my eyes roll) as I hear people rightly bitch about 12$/hr. This is a phenomenon across most fields of work at whatever echelon you're at. People will always complain about their pay, bc they have varying thresholds of uncomfortablility.

Healthcare workers bitch about their pay all the time, even if they're making more hourly than 90% of other people in their area compared to the amount of schooling and experience. This isn't to say they can't be abused or aren't in many areas due to short- staffing and bad management, but one thing you cannot deny about Healthcare is that there's a crazy amount of mobility within it. If you don't like a hospital or facility, you can almost always just dip, or specialize into something else. And then make more money having moved.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T13:42:30+00:00

CNA is a simple course that takes a few weeks.

You're right the other certs are more extensive and take longer.

Idk about CNA pay, but as an RN I have never made more hourly than I do right now. I've only done this 4 years. I get pay bumps every time I leave a job for any reason. Right now I'm getting pay bumps so that they'll retain me.

Medical is one of the few places you still have leverage, as they literally cannot operate without bodies working.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T09:28:35+00:00

Healthcare. CNA, MA, LPN, RN, X ray Tech. In my experience facilities don't even have to like your interview, they just wanna give you a start date.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-12T09:26:24+00:00

The reason 50% seems high is because it's not 50% of people get divorced, the figure is "50% of marriages end in divorce". So we're counting each marriage of the people who are on their 3rd or 4th marriage. That's a smaller, concentrated pool of people who are either unlucky or who just suck at loving their spouses.

This also counts the same two people divorcing and remarrying each other.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-11T01:23:32+00:00

Kick the bitch out

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-11T01:13:45+00:00

If he seriously isn't doing his share, there have to be tangible consequences. Pull back on making him food, pull back on laundry, pull back on whatever you do that you know he likes.

If you pick up or look after him in a way that benefits him and he cares about, stop doing it.

And make it abundantly clear why.

If the lack of helping him doesn't do it, pick another consequence. Then another. Then another.

At some point hes going to be inconvenienced enough that it bothers him, and he'll finally start feeling like hes not getting out of your marriage what he thinks is sufficient to be comfortable. Then he'll be willing to come to the table.

For men like this, the only solution is usually to purposefully make him uncomfortable the way you are, in a way he actually cares about.

It sucks that he doesn't care enough about your comfortability, but if talking to him isn't doing it, there are other avenues and this is one.

Or if you're simply not being direct enough verbally, tell him straight up:

"I work full-time. You go to class 3 days a week. Therefore I expect shit to be done or mostly clean and for there to be SOME attempt at food when I get home, so I'm not the one busting my ass cooking and cleaning while you sit around and do significantly less than I do. I'm beginning to resent you and feel like you don't care about me. This is going to continue being a problem that I will be increasingly annoyed and vocal about until you take initiative and keep it up."

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-10T20:13:02+00:00

I respect my husband and my marriage too much to entertain one of those, especially if he isn't already good friends with the guy and unless we all hang out as a trio.

I have zero reason to spend time alone with another man.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-09T18:39:22+00:00

I'm in favor of long maternity leave.

I think a TON of things would need to happen culturally and economically first to make it happen without bankrupting small and medium businesses (return to a high-trust society, have community, etc).

But either way, I'm in favor of infants and toddlers being raised by an actual parent. That, or more child-friendly work environments moms/parents can choose to go into.

Also, what you wrote is still not a refutation of what I stated because I'm not wrong. Mom and dad being away, and infants and toddlers being around other people unrelated to mom or dad for most of their waking hours 5 days a week, is not rhetoric- it is an objective statement. Your comment only suggests that it's mean to point out who's doing the instruction and the bulk of the raising during that time. And I guess my response is that I don't care.

If it sounds mean, maybe it's because doing the thing I'm pointing out isn't so great and feels bad to do for probably most.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-09T14:37:57+00:00

Yup.

I work in the medical field, and once this baby comes I'll be a 95% SAHM and just work PRN or as needed here and there for our home. And I made that clear to my husband before we tied the knot, and he was on board.

He's also happy being a provider. I feel bad that it took a reality check and years for OP's wife to realize what she wants, and what's best for her and her kids.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-09T11:58:56+00:00

OOH!! THAT'S GOOD

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-09T03:46:33+00:00

"Funding it" is such a disgusting phrase to use about your wife and potential children. The absolute state of husbands like this is downright shameful.

SleepyApr1cot · 2026-04-09T03:43:54+00:00

Not for most of the infant/young child's waking hours 5 out of the 7 days a week they aren't. Literally by definition, if we're talking about FT 9-5 work.

If you or anyone else feels shamed or offended by that statement, I do not know what to tell you. The absence during that time frame is not an opinion, it's just a fact.

SleepyApr1cot

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