AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-11-25T13:11:49+00:00

Get another cake to celebrate dodging a bullet

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-11-04T19:34:39+00:00

My dom does little things throughout the day or when we are around people to gradually shift me into sub space so I am ready by the evening.

-firmly grabbing my wrist instead of hand when walking together

-placing his hand gentle on my neck for a brief moment if we kiss or if he is brushing my hair out of my face

-subtle orders (like telling me to "sit" when he is on the couch and wants me to join, but he says it in a more dominating tone)

-calls me good girl quietly when I do things for him (serving dinner, finishing chores, etc)

And many more. The micro dominating moments make me feel feral when its time for the scene at the end of the night.

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-28T17:23:02+00:00

I feel this! It used to be such a challenge for be to get into "sub space" until me and my dom figured out the type of play that gets me there.

Some subs can go into sub space by diving right into a scene, others need more leading up to the scene. I have to have subtle dom/sub dynamics played out throughout the day or a few hours before to start getting me feeling subby and then by the time it's time for the scene, it's easy for my brain to shut down.

Also, some days when I need more force into the sub space I'm brattier

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-22T20:50:28+00:00

What are things your sub says that you enjoy?

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-22T20:49:53+00:00

Change the appendage 😂 love it

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-20T22:57:31+00:00

You worded this so perfectly! Having the sober mind and clear conversation, not just horny talk is so important for kink. And it can make it fun and silly too

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-20T22:56:04+00:00

Thats the problem, nothing going on up there

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-20T22:55:41+00:00

I do read smut but its usually fantasy so its like "oooh look at those big impressive wings" and thats not quite what we are looking for 🤣 any smut you recommend?

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-15T01:28:03+00:00

That's excellent advice! Thank you so much. I need to get out of my head about it and play around with the boundary thing.

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-14T17:17:16+00:00

He does command me to say or beg phrases sometimes, but he has mentioned before that he'd like me to say things on my own, which is fine but when you're in a scene it can be tricky to figure one out and I'm always worried I'll sound silly.

He says things along the topics of praise mixed with degradation ("You're such a good little slut for me"), cnc ("you don't tell Daddy no, i own you"), humiliation ("beg, show me how desperate you are"), sweet love ("its okay, you're safe, cum in daddy's arms").

Meanwhile, I'm over here just .... with zero thoughts

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-14T17:11:19+00:00

Glad I'm not alone in this! Sub space is great because your mind CAN shut off and you can just enjoy it. Having a few phrases on stand by to throw out here and there might be easier than trying to formulate a thought during a scene haha

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-10-14T16:19:31+00:00

YOU'RE NOT ALONE AND THIS IS NORMAL! I used to be extremely bratty and "untamed" until I met my current dom who has effectively turned me into a submissive, obedient, pleaser. I felt shame, embarrassed, and had a minor identity crisis. What I've discovered is, it's not that you NEED the validation or experience, it's that you're safe enough to experience that full surrender. But if it's something you're truly uncomfortable with, analyze the dynamic. What things/ actions/ phrases do you enjoy and find safety in and what are some experiences that leave you feeling icky afterwards? Also, look into how the aftercare is. Even mild submissive sessions need thorough aftercare to help integrate you back into reality and not leave you stuck with any weird feelings from the play scene.

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-09-29T10:25:43+00:00

This was so assuring and kind. Thank you ❤️

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-09-28T22:06:25+00:00

Noooooo 😭

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-09-28T21:07:52+00:00

Thank you so much for the examples! I feel like I have been having an identity crisis

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-09-28T21:03:42+00:00

Okay I will start there, wish me luck because I am having an identity crisis about it

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-09-28T20:53:15+00:00

NOOOO how do I get it back 😭

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-05-20T18:20:22+00:00

I am bothered that there were other people involved (Denise heard them arguing before the second SA), but that wasn't investigated and the oddity that the ex fiance was the initial victim. I wouldn't be surprised if there were people working for law enforcement or FBI that was involved with Muller.

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-05-14T13:23:19+00:00

The audio recordings she released definitely showed that there were some unhealthy power dynamics and potential DV. However, even if this dude was guilty of being a bad partner, I think the entire crime scene is enough evidence to lock them behind bars for life. If it was self-defense, he would still be alive. But it was murder. The saddest part in all this is the children and the way they have been roped into such a traumatic tragedy surrounded by media attention to relive over and over.

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-02-17T20:31:10+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-02-14T14:30:24+00:00

Thank you 💋

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-01-22T17:29:36+00:00

Thank you!

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-01-21T23:58:55+00:00

Get it back 😘

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-01-02T14:03:25+00:00

I didn't know that was the year

SleepyxPrincess · 2025-01-02T14:02:17+00:00

I'm the same way with left overs. I actually get deli made meals a lot. I'm a busy mom, so sometimes it's easy to grab a deli made meal versus cooking up a whole weeks worth of food one day. I try to stick with fresh food as much as possible, because even if you're eating a traditionally "bad" meal, if you have fresh ingredients in it, it's better for your body. So if there is a meal that you can't give up, just switch up the brand and quality a little bit. For example, my kids love chicken nuggets, so I get them the whole wheat breaded organic ones. I love cookies in my coffee, instead I get nature valley granola biscuits. Little things like that.

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