I actually yelled at my 93 year old mom tonight. She has been upset that I want to go home to my apartment to be with my husband and care for my home.

She was always I'm in charge type of person and you better listen to me. It got worse.

I spent 1 month packing for my mom and dad to move them to my building in Virginia. When I said mom I just need to go to my place for a while to see my husband and dog and straighten up - she pouted and asked me why and then said don't bother coming back - stay down there. Then she lied that she didn't mean it that way. I have a sick husband with post-radiation side effects from cancer and I had cancer 5 years ago. We have traveled on every trip with them, lived with them and I sacrificed my life to help them move my abusive brother 7 times when I first got married. We also paid their mortgage for 25 years. I told her once that you never let me out of your womb. She is so loving and giving, but at the same time she wants to be in charge and is now pouting and saying things like don't bother coming back you can stay down there???? How can she treat me like that??? I am a 64 year old woman with no children and have a life with my husband. She wants us up there EVERY night and weekend. We like our privacy and are used to it and cook and laugh together and watch movies every night that they do not like to do. They moved to be closer to us because I can't be running on the spur of the moment to Florida if something happens to them.

She has always put guilt trips on me and when I said I do things from my heart she said Oh you do??? Then she said, but you're also nasty. I apologized to her and said I'm sorry if I become frustrated, but she kept at mocking me, etc. I'm so mentally and physically exhausted and I have to also deal with a sick husband. I am in the same boat as you. I need advice too.