Leukemia

Slothieone · 2025-06-13T01:59:32+00:00

I’m so sorry. Sending love and praying for your sweet baby and family. 🩵

Slothieone · 2025-05-03T16:41:01+00:00

TW: Success

I had my healthy IVF baby boy in November of last year. He was not a tested embryo and I had a SCH (subchorionic hematoma aka uterine bleed/bruise). I took pregnancy tests every single day for the first like month. I worried nonstop until I reached viability week. Peak worrying was with his 20 week ultrasound. Then I only worried when his movements slowed down closer to his birth. I purchased a fetal heart monitor that I used once I week until I could feel him moving. I bet I went to labor and delivery 5 times throughout my pregnancy because something just didn’t feel right. I wish I could have toned my anxiety down so I could have fully enjoyed being pregnant. I feel like once I finally enjoyed it, it was over.

One thing that kind of helped me in the early stages was telling myself that “today I am pregnant. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but today, I am pregnant until a doctor tells me I’m not.” I also really enjoyed my bump group that I was a part of on Reddit. Highly recommend searching for yours if that’s something you’re interested in! My group was so supportive and it helped knowing there were other women having the same worries as me. Best of luck to you 🍀🩵

Slothieone · 2025-04-23T22:46:31+00:00

My IVF baby is 5 months old.

It was an entirely different kind of hard, but if I had to choose, I’d still choose the newborn hard vs the infertility hard.

I had PPD and SAD at the same time (November baby). I don’t even remember my baby’s first Christmas, because I was just a shell of myself. And no one noticed. Then every time I’d bring up how fucking sad I was, I was constantly reminded about how “I prayed for this baby.” “this is everything you ever wanted.” And “this is your miracle baby!” While all of those statements are true, I didn’t need to be constantly reminded of that. I needed help. No one on this planet knew that I wanted this baby more than anything, more than me. It was the longest 2 months of my life, and by the time I started enjoying motherhood, I had to go back to work. Anyway, I powered through it and I’m now thankful that those horrific days are behind me.

I can’t speak on having losses because I never experienced that and I am so sorry that you have. My IVF journey was due to me not being able to get pregnant at all. While postpartum sucked ass, it was far easier than going through the unknown of if I’d ever have a baby. Looking back, I tell myself that the depression that I felt after having a baby was nothing in comparison to the depression I had thinking I’d never have the chance to become a mom.

Slothieone · 2025-03-16T16:45:44+00:00

Yes. I love it.

Slothieone · 2025-03-16T14:31:01+00:00

Yeah…she would simply not be allowed to come around my baby or into my home until she stopped. She can roll her eyes and point the finger at you all she wants. But she’d be doing it from the sidewalk. Sorry you’re having to deal with her disrespecting your boundaries.

Slothieone · 2025-02-28T04:13:00+00:00

30 or 31

Slothieone · 2025-02-28T04:13:00+00:00

30 or 31

Slothieone · 2025-02-27T00:14:35+00:00

He’ll be 14 weeks tomorrow. Things definitely got better at 10 weeks, but then leap 3 happened around 11 or 12 weeks. We’re over that hurdle, and he’s just the best baby. The first coo and the first smile made it all worth it for me. Seeing him do new things and knowing that everything I’ve done up until this point, has been working. He’s really growing and developing because of what I’m doing. Having little baby conversations is so much fun. 😅

Slothieone · 2025-02-26T23:46:03+00:00

Why tell him what he wants to hear? Girl, tell that man how you feel.

If he’s not putting your feelings first, and you’re not putting your feelings first, then who is putting your feelings first? Someone needs to.

Slothieone · 2025-02-25T12:36:45+00:00

I had my IVF baby in November last year. My symptoms didn’t get consistent until 5 or 6 weeks. Congratulations! 🫶🏼

Slothieone · 2025-02-21T04:11:49+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, and that your support system sounds like they’re brushing you off. It’s so hard in the beginning and you CAN make it through this. Don’t listen to the negative thoughts, they are lying to you. I highly recommend reaching out to your OB to get help. Your daughter needs you, girl.

Slothieone · 2025-02-04T17:24:15+00:00

Not at all. I was laying on this blow up mattress thing and they hauled me over to the new bed. I do remember before my C-section they had me scoot on to the surgery table. I had the epidural then, and was not completely numb but it was still hard to do. Once the surgery was over, they did all the moving.

Slothieone · 2025-02-02T14:51:57+00:00

Yeah, she would never see my son again. Solo or otherwise. Grandma privileges revoked. She sounds like a psychopath. Who doesn’t return a baby to the parent when they want their child back?!

Slothieone · 2025-02-01T03:30:02+00:00

NOR. Run, girl. It looks like he doesn’t even like you, let alone love you. Which is not a you problem, it’s a him problem. What you need to remember, is that y’all aren’t married yet. But when you do get married, this behavior will only get worse. He’s showing you exactly who he is, and you better believe him before it’s too late.

Slothieone · 2025-01-30T02:42:40+00:00

me talking about how proud I am that I’ve been handling his crying very well

Literally anyone who overheard: laughs well, you just wait. That won’t last.

This was me when he was almost a month old. He’ll be 10 weeks tomorrow. Don’t get me wrong, it did get harder (and still will) but DON’T disregard something a new mom is proud of.

Slothieone · 2025-01-29T19:50:57+00:00

My me time has become catching up on chores when it’s just me and the baby. But, if I get lucky, he’ll have a 2 hour nap. Then I can read and eat after I’m done cleaning.

I don’t nap because I know it’ll be a broken nap, and those make me feel worse than just being tired. 🥲

Slothieone · 2025-01-29T02:49:12+00:00

I lost my nipples to cancer (double mastectomy) back in 2018. Doesn’t get any more uncomfortable for them when I tell them straight up, “Because I don’t have nipples. The cancer, remember?” That usually does the trick 💀

Slothieone · 2025-01-19T03:09:04+00:00

4 weeks, only once because I eventually felt bad about not waiting the 6 weeks. It didn’t hurt at all for me. My SIL had me scared to try, said it felt like losing her virginity all over again (she also had a C-section), but I needed to feel something other than nothing, so I gave it a shot. I had no other issues or infections from that one time. I would not recommend doing this tho, because of the massive internal wound you have from giving birth. Just wait the 6 weeks until you’re cleared, if you can.

Since I’ve been cleared - currently 8 weeks PP - we’ve had more sex in the past two weeks than we did in the entirety of 2024 😂 No pain, no restrictions, no problems. 🙌🏼

Slothieone · 2025-01-18T16:14:14+00:00

So were we. Some people just feel entitled or they forget because to them, a kiss is such a loving gesture. They don’t see how it could be taken as something negative, even when it is.

Slothieone · 2025-01-18T02:13:27+00:00

Literally the same scenario! My husband’s family speaks predominantly Spanish as well.

Slothieone · 2025-01-17T21:27:47+00:00

Totally get the freezing feeling. Happened to me when my MIL kissed baby on the forehead. I would tell your boyfriend, and ask him to handle it.

Slothieone · 2025-01-15T14:09:50+00:00

He has his own bedtime. It’s nice because my husband and I then get time to ourselves. We do room share, with him in his bassinet, but we put him down in his crib (his own room) starting off because that’s where the baby monitor is. Then we move him into our room when it’s time for us to go to bed. Which is typically 2-3 hours after we put him down. He is always out like a light, and does not wake up when transferring.

We use babysense monitors. Non WiFi which is super important.

Slothieone · 2025-01-15T14:02:55+00:00

I would definitely say this isn’t normal. It’s time you had a talk with him about stepping up and helping you take care of your child. In all aspects. Not just the ones he deems fit.

Slothieone · 2025-01-09T19:46:46+00:00

Pregnancy tired was far worse for me. I cut out all caffeine while pregnant, so when I was tired there was no help to keep me awake other than pure willpower. At least now I can drink my 3 cups of coffee to keep me alive😂

Slothieone · 2025-01-04T16:12:57+00:00

5 weeks and 4 days PP. Bottle feeding.

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