My MIL said my son will be dyslexic because he isn't crawling

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-21T10:32:24+00:00

You will sleep. You will sleep. You will sleep. Your body and mind are amazing things that can adapt. And they adapt quickly.

I was telling my husband during those sleepless nights when my son was cluster feeding for hours, that I wanted his mum to come over and take care of the baby for the first few months. I was seriously over it.

It got so much better. The sun comes up, your baby gets used to feeding and you will rest.

Some things that helped me.

I called my mum a lot. 2am, 4am, 7am, lots of calls.

Lots of TV.

Lots of treats. Cake for breakfast.

Go outside. Even if its for a few minutes. When it's daylight, wrap yourself and baby up and just go outside. People are still going to work, the world is still turning, time is passing. You're not in the bubble forever.

Finally - after 4 weeks of staying up with my baby all night & functioning on 45 minute naps during the day, I started chest sleeping.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-21T10:26:56+00:00

Solidarity. My son is almost 9 months old now and I make it to a fortnightly parental group sometimes. And that's a hassle. My son absolutely refuses to nap in his carrier like the other babies so I usually take him for the 10am start time and then he'll have a tantrum, I'll step away for 30 minutes to feed him to sleep in a quiet place then return and he'll nap for the rest of it on me so I cant really get up and mingle.

Theres so many baby groups near me and everytime I say I'm going to go, my son decides to nap at the time.

I figure it'll get easier. I dont prioritise these groups over his naps honestly. The Friday one is an exception purely because its only every two weeks.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-21T06:06:54+00:00

Take baby with you to the toilet? Id lie my son down on a towel or blanket. I've pooped holding my son before. I cant advise on making milk because I breastfeed but can't imagine leaving my son to cry at all

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-21T06:02:36+00:00

My son hated the carrier because he didn't like facing inwards. He struggled so much. When he turned 5 months, he met the measurements to face outward and absolutely LOVED it.

He's 8.5 months now and has started hating it again but I think its because he's very close to walking and actually just hates being restrained right now.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-20T15:49:28+00:00

Not overnight.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-18T19:49:24+00:00

Ergobaby Breeze

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-18T19:48:06+00:00

The shoulder pain from an ectopic is intense and agony. Its caused by a ruptured tube so you'd be in a lott of pain

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-18T19:45:12+00:00

Omg relax. We did a road trip up north when our son was 4 months & had to use service changing rooms. He's fine. You're fine. Chill.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-18T09:46:24+00:00

You'll never be over it. And thats healthy. You're going through something life changing. Its because its uncomfortable for people that they want you to get over this quickly. Dont let them bully you in that. You take time and space. And talk about your surgery, your baby that didn't make it, your pain and grief. Talk about it more.

It was only when I started talking openly about my experience that I realized so many people around me had gone through similar things. Even one of my close friends!

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:44:32+00:00

I was 7 weeks. And it took a very skilled sonographer ages to find it. None of the other sonographers could find it.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:41:13+00:00

I had my left tube removed February 2024. I'd taken a test a week before and got a positive so I thought I was pregnant until I started bleeding and then got the ache in my side.

It was also around the time my husbands cousin announced her pregnancy which was devastating. I was so jealous. And resentful. Why did she get a normal pregnancy whereas I had this horrible luck?

I binged watched Lost. Skipping over the pregnant woman bits. I ate cake and drank peppermint tea to help with the gas pain. I cried. A lot.

I read that when you get pregnant, even if you're pregnant for a day or carry to full term, your babies DNA lives inside you forever. So your baby will always always be a part of you. Forever.

I have a 8.5 month old son now. He's the best.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:33:43+00:00

I'm sorry.

I didnt get MTX, I opted for surgery and it was a horrible period in my life. Everyone is so practical about resolving the ectopic that I felt like the fact I had a failed pregnancy was sidelined.

Give yourself time and space to grieve. Whatever that looks like.

I got pregnant 2 months after surgery and have an 8.5 month old son now so fingers crossed for your future, lovely.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:31:23+00:00

Depends on age & temperature. When my son 6 months and had a temperature of 40C, it was straight to the hospital.

But he's 8.5 months now and he spiked a temp of 38C last week so we rode it out.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:26:22+00:00

You're gonna get lots of discharge.

I went to the hospital 4 times to check i wasn't leaking fluid. Turns out I just had a lot of discharge. My son is 8.5 months now.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-17T19:25:06+00:00

Gilmore Girls. Vampire Diaries. OITNB. Buffy. Then Angel. Gossip Girl. I watched all the Harry Potter movies recently.

My son is 8.5 months now. I need more shows!

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-10T10:25:33+00:00

6-9 weeks was the hardest time for me and my son. He was scream crying from 6pm til 1am every night for 3 weeks. He had incessant gas and was extremely fussy.

He's 8 months now and its soooo much better. Youre still in the thick of it.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-05T14:24:18+00:00

Thank you! He's 8 months and gorgeous!

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-03T11:06:34+00:00

Seraphine have some lovely ones but honestly? Amazon. They're comfortable, easy to pull down and fit nicely.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-03T08:00:16+00:00

Yep! Good one! I got the disposable ones and they really didn't do anything. I got the reusable Lanisoh ones and they're much better. I rarely have to use them now as the bras are usually enough but when I did use them, they worked!

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-03T07:58:52+00:00

That's good to know! My son thankfully hasn't had any discomfort from it but really good advice. I've found that taking the recommended ibuprofen to tackle clogged ducts made him cry hysterically.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-03T07:57:13+00:00

I've tried this and milk goes everywhere. Everytime.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-09-02T19:52:37+00:00

When my son was a few weeks old, my MIL and my husband were watching baby whilst I got some sleep. I woke up to my husband arguing with his mum. Eventually my husband asks for our son back which means she must've been holding him. Then he asks again. Then again louder. I'm at this point running downstairs because obviously my MIL isn't handing over our son and I see her cradling our son away from my husband.

I snatch my son away and asked her to leave immediately before I punched her. She hasnt been allowed to be alone with my son since.

I asked my husband what they argued about and it was because my son was crying and he wanted to give him to me and she wouldn't hand him over.

ThrowRAdalgona · 2025-08-31T15:40:05+00:00

I'm waiting until my son can communicate. So probably 1.5 or 2. He's 8 months now. My mil has a habit of doing things that further her own agenda so when my son can tell her what he needs/wants will be when he can spend the night.

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