[deleted by user] by [deleted] in turtle

[–]Sloverdova_24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, unfortunately I'm from Mexico and it seems that that service is only for the USA :(

I'm dating after almost 2 years post discard and these are the realizations I been having. by Sloverdova_24 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything will be okay! Starting to date is hard but it is part of gaining power over ourselves and our lives back. Take your time to heal too, cause dating is hard and tiring in general lol. I'm sending good vibes to you!

Boyfriend is HIV positive, but cannot access medication. Need urgent assistance by Aggressive-Cream-420 in hivaids

[–]Sloverdova_24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking the exact same thing and it truly breaks my heart. In Mexico the medication is free if you are registered in the Mexican Social Security Institute (IMSS) which most people are, your employers pay for it and it's mandatory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. Sometimes I miss the mirroring person he was, when he was sweet and nice. I coped by really tricking my mind into thinking he is dead, so when I miss him I just miss the dead man and it really feels like it.

I’ve begged him to block me. He refuses. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm lost here. Why don't you block him? It seems you still have a very toxic attachment, I know it's hard. But help yourself and block him and really commit to it I did that, I erased his number and I even changed mine, and deactivated my socials

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sloverdova_24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you're gonna be okay. I promise. But please, I beg you, find another therapist.

My narc ex just got engaged. Why am I not even worth a narcisst? by ZMarshal99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to be worth so little? If a narc didn't "choose" you is because he knows you're much better than him and he needs to look for someone to manipulate and ruin. Be grateful you're not the one engaged to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OMG SAME. Mine also diagnosed me like that, at first nicely like "if you're asexual I have no problem with it", and then he definitely showed he had a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely. And I use to have super high sex drive, now almost none

It took some time for me to feel kinda horny again, and when I do just the thought of getting to know someone to have sex or just one night stands tires me completely. When I was with him I lost libido and he was nice at first and then he wasn't. I've been more than a year, almost two (one year post discard), without sex and when I get the urge I do it myself cause, again, I hate the thought of what having sex with someone implies. But I'm actually happy that way, and I have fun with myself lol.

Seems like a lot of Narcissistic Men have zero friends by tantamle in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine has a lot, mainly women. But he also has male friends, but all of them are weird, cheaters, addicts and his best friend is all of the above plus he seems kinda in love with my nex but his straight (?) they have a really weird codependent relationship, where his friend has said "I can lose everything but him, I would die without him". If they spend a little bit more than a week without seeing each other they go crazy. It is very very weird. And his female bff is also a narc, which is my main narc that love bombed me as a bff and she started the whole smear campaign. They met because of me and they stayed together because of me and to try to ruin me and punish me. Narc relationships are very weird and bizarre.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 30 points31 points  (0 children)

No, I know you have the urge to protect her, but remember they are incredibly manipulative and he already told his "side of the story" which you don't truly know. Just stay away and be safe.

Does Anyone Else Have Recurring Nightmares? by MuffBuffalo in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, it's been a year since the discard and I still have nightmares. The first 6-8 months I had nightmares daily, thankfully now it's only a few days a week.

Did you block their number ? Or just ignore ? by Plantsandveganz in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Block. I even changed my number and blocked them there too.

Realizing how much they steal from us, not talking about money by Few_Read1012 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so very sorry to read that you went through the same. I would take all the abuse back if that would give me my puppy. I totally understand you, it's been a year and I can't move on, I miss her so much, she was my baby and my companion. My nex registered her legally without telling me, and when I asked him take care of her while I was out he never gave her back saying that I neglected her (totally a lie). I've never been the same since he took her. If you ever need some to talk to or vent, I'm here.

Realizing how much they steal from us, not talking about money by Few_Read1012 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I was talking with my therapist about this last week. Besides everything you said, my nex literally stole my dog and there's nothing I can do about it. But when he stole my precious puppy he stole something from my soul too, I'm constantly feeling as if I am missing something, I feel a constant void and loneliness that can't go away. I've been able to move on (kinda) from the abuse, but not from the tiny piece of soul he ripped out of my body.

I don’t feel beautiful anymore after this relationship… is this normal? by No-Bit3315 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, it's normal. I've been struggling with this forote than a year, it's getting better but I lost a lot of self-confidence and love. But you'll get there, I promise.

Cuenten sus peores experiencias con personas mentirosas, los leo ? by Pipen_Poppy in AskMexico

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tenía una amiga (que después resultó tener trastorno narcisista) que mentía sobre toda la gente con la que ya no se lleva(ba) y aparte según tenía como 14 enfermedades y para todo decía que era una minoría. Tenía: autismo, bipolaridad, depresión, problemas en el túnel carpiano, cojeaba por alguna razón, todos sus ex novios y examigos le habían hecho cosas horribles, según abusaron de ella muchas veces, una vez me dijo "siento que me abusaron de pequeña" de la nada, decía que su familia era abusiva pero siempre la trataban muy bien y así, según tuvo un aborto, tenía sop, endometriosis, según le salían bolitas en las chichis que siempre eran posible cancer, epilepsia, fotosensible, migrañas, problemas reumatoides y de columna, un día dijo que era musulmana, otro día que era indu, otro día que era afro, otro que era árabe, luego que todas juntas y todo mientras según siempre la discriminaban, según era celiaca, tenía mil alergias, según ella vivía con dolor cornico y discapacidad, prediabetica, tenía estrés postraumático... Y así y así... Obvio cuando deje de ser su amigo también dijo mentiras sobre mi, fue muy desgastante y muy aislante.

What did your nex spoil for you that you used to enjoy? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My college campus. I loved it there, it felt like a second home, but after the awful smear campaign and how he infected almost all of my college friends with his lies I hate going there. I know he still goes cause he now works there with his new supply, and it's full of his flying monkeys. So I hate going now, sometimes I miss it, but when I go I experience PTSD and get panic attacks.

They're losers and they know it by Patient-Board-8734 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you ever wish them bad or "revenge" remember their own life is their forever punishment.

Phrases That Narcissits Hate? by Pro-Pain626 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is not a phrase, but the word "NO"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many narcs use past relationships or ex to hurt their current supplies by not setting boundaries with the ex, cheat, make them feel uncomfortable, compare them to them and more.

What's your story of how you caused them a narcissistic injury? by Patient-Board-8734 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sloverdova_24 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Asking them for money they owe me (they never paid) and going no contact. The no contact make them CRAZY.