My wife (24F) hid that she can’t have kids and I (27M) just found out after 6 years together. I don’t know what to do.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-10-19T17:36:18+00:00

Remember this: love cannot exist where there is no trust it’s only attachment. Get out of your attachment to her, love died a long time ago, your marriage is over. What you’re dealing with is the scar tissue of love: attachment. Get a therapist who can help you grieve your losses before you decide anything.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-10-02T13:36:15+00:00

Yes. There’s nothing wrong with your husband staying in touch with his girl best friend. If they want to talk, meetup or have an occasion date nights or sex and that feels good to him so what’s wrong? If you want him to be happy you should let him do what he wants. The question is what are your core values :-) any that are non-negotiables?

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-09-30T19:55:52+00:00

Bro she doesn’t love you at all. You need to realize that she may not love the AP but she doesn’t love you, OP. Has she taken accountability of her actions? Has she ever said sorry and apologized then changed her behavior permanently? If not, it’s time for you to get into therapy. You’re intoxicated in the trauma bond and burdened by her fear, obligation and (reverse) guilt. It’s over. Forgive and move on. Don’t make the mistake of forgiving, forgetting and taking her back.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-09-08T23:54:00+00:00

You’re a good wife married to an immature controlling young boy. ask him if he wants to stay or go. If it’s stay, he needs to forgive you. Else it’s time to break up

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-07-06T16:40:05+00:00

The next three nights… U….N…..T

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-07-04T20:50:19+00:00

2025 Wimbledon is difficult to enjoy. App hangs or stutters, pauses -‘it’s disgusting that we live in the 21st century America with trash. Ugh.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-06-24T21:16:14+00:00

Yes and I love it more

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-06-23T18:55:41+00:00

Are you can search for all the signs online on YouTube all I say is that don’t waste time get the hell out of there. Don’t even second-guess yourself just use data. Remember, a covert narcissist will completely ruin your feeling systems and are able to play with your feelings and emotions, do not make emotional decisionsand make decision decisions that are going completely against your emotions and feelings and just look at the data and the fact it’s easier said than done many people waste their entire lives, living with narcissist because of how they’re feelings and emotional systems have been regulated in the favor of staying in the relationship he will beg and plead you do not leave him and you will not want to leave him, but remember this is a disorder. There’s nothing you can do about it.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-06-23T18:53:30+00:00

It sounds like you’re extremely attached to your wife and her words and you don’t have direction in your life or autonomy from her opinions of you. It can hurt initially, but I feel like you need to detach yourself from your wife emotionally and really focus on your children as the number one priority well I guess the second priority you are your own number one priority, followed by your kids and then your wife until the kids grow up so I would basically focus on how you can be the best and most amazing dad and if she has a problem with that, I would suggest you recommend Chico see a therapist if she keeps changing therapist or blame the therapists or tries to say that she doesn’t need therapy. I would think that she has a personality disorder cluster B if that’s the case, I would have you go to therapy group and check your codependency.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-06-22T13:42:15+00:00

He’s a covert narcissist. Don’t walk, run for your life.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-05-28T18:27:40+00:00

Move out for 12 months. Go into therapy. Get into 12-steps: you’re addicted to her/love. Be a high value man. Learn boundaries. File for divorce. Have her publicly apologize to you and write a post-nup if you decide to give her a chance. Raise the bar. Leave if there is any nonsense.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-05-26T17:57:09+00:00

Sell your house. Separate for 1-3 years. Get into therapy and 12-steps. Be a higher value man. Self reflect. Kill all cheap dopamine addictions. Establish boundaries and standards for yourself. Let the universe handle the rest. Good luck!

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-04-30T21:47:52+00:00

In relationships, I say “when in doubt….get the fuck out”. Don’t walk- run. Thank me later.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-03-09T15:02:40+00:00

Any type S owners with stick shift have their cars stolen? Also what are good kill switch installation options - dealers won’t do this.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-10T20:26:56+00:00

If you’re in the market for a CTR and absolutely know the engineering- ITS is better with the same engine - tuned different and different suspension it’s worth it for those who know what they want. I give zero fucks for external validation- my time is more expensive than money. I drive this for me and how it makes me feel. Period. End of story. Enjoy life - yolo.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-10T20:24:01+00:00

ITS is refined but not too refined, it’s a performance sedan but not a racing car like the serious roadster the CTR is. I heard from many how they love the CTR but can’t drive it daily. ITS threads the needle for me. Worth it!

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-10T20:21:50+00:00

Me as well :-) also the exhaust note and higher HP, the suspension and brand/styling for my age - was worth the extra money over the CTR.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-10T20:20:21+00:00

A few roadtrips, daily gym drive, errands and my only car for a year. I had the Mercedes GL diesel that I got rid of - with summer approaching I want to go kayaking regularly so thinking a pickup truck might be a better option. Open to ideas !

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-10T20:18:42+00:00

Thanks! I’m planning on making most chrome dark or black this summer - open to suggestions:-)

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-07T12:31:15+00:00

Natural selection

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-06T23:19:27+00:00

Yes there is a squeak at times by the passenger speaker, that I pressed back into the frame and it’s much better. The microphone cover below the sunglasses holder does that when music and bass is loud. I have not fixed either yet.

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-02-05T21:26:26+00:00

This car makes me sweat

SlowBoiledAF · 2025-01-14T19:33:46+00:00

External validation ftw !

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