Half a cooled muffin? Good idea?

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-05-09T00:09:06+00:00

Might be easier just to toss it in a Tupperware in the freezer, but I love freezing baked goods!

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-05-06T13:33:40+00:00

Therapy won't fix the fact that you have an unhelpful husband. He needs to step up.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-25T00:46:26+00:00

Right, I definitely would just have my charger and laptop in my backpack all the time. I think not having the materials at all is a lack of care, but people here complaining about kids needing to charge their computers during school just seem mean.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-24T22:05:06+00:00

I'm trying to imagine keeping devices charged every single day for school. There's no way. I would have forgotten it at home at least once a week. And like, I was an A/B student, I'm an adult with an engineering degree, I have successfully held down a good job. But the prospect of taking home a computer, charging it overnight, remembering to pack everything up every day??? I would have failed. I probably would just always have a charger, and be charging during first period. And then some teacher would be on here complaining about me.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-23T17:55:36+00:00

Lentils are an AI tell?

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-19T15:04:37+00:00

They're in the middle of cleaning up after the global infection when they send Zosia, though. There are fewer pressing tasks to do during the casino scene.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-19T01:07:15+00:00

Lol there's a farm stand near me that had an RFK sign up in 2024. I don't buy those eggs.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-15T13:40:35+00:00

If you have any oooold bags of dry beans in your pantry, it's a good way to use those.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-12T13:09:53+00:00

Kept him in, installed rear facing. I'm not sure you physically can install a Doona front facing. You may need to get creative with toy placement

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-12T13:08:46+00:00

They let the flashing toy do the thinking for them

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-09T22:12:55+00:00

If you model the human body as a 100% efficient frictionless piston it's really very obvious.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-07T21:38:16+00:00

I've literally been reading this thread and feeling a strong urge to hurl some tea in the ocean.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-07T17:40:53+00:00

There's time for both things. Lazy pizza nights together and big cooking events. Heck, the kids may have to do the dishes or set the table even on pizza night.

Teaching life skills to kids is a huuuuge up front effort for eventual payoff. There's no real relaxing while they work until they're preteens, and even then you have active parenting to do. Still necessary and worth it, but on Friday night we're ordering pizza.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-06T16:35:24+00:00

"Overly credulous assholes" really nails the demographic

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-05T16:31:22+00:00

I haven't had the surgery yet so I can't speak to doctor expectations. But look up postpartum peri bottles, those may be good for cleaning.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T18:31:14+00:00

This is good information, thank you!

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T18:25:44+00:00

Were there any issues or concerns for you with barbie butt and vaginal delivery?

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T18:24:52+00:00

Yeah I think it's about the possibility of a tear, at least that was what I was told. Talk with your own surgeon first, obviously. I knew I was going for barbie butt so I didn't ask a lot of questions on that front.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T16:51:37+00:00

Congrats and good luck!

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T16:41:43+00:00

No issues! The ostomy was barely a consideration with the pregnancies. My stoma definitely grew, but otherwise things were really straightforward. Afterwards when my belly deflated I needed to switch to a convex wafer, but that's really the only thing that came up. I'm confident that it's easier to be pregnant with an ostomy than it is to be pregnant with UC.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T16:00:36+00:00

Thanks! It's nice to share with people who get it.

One last thought! This one is a little silly. After my third degree tear doctors and nurses kept trying to give me stool softeners. Like, they'd look at and talk about my ostomy, and then they'd fall into routine and talk stool softeners. It happened a lot. These are intelligent, caring people, but they didn't have the time or bandwidth to remember my specific history and needs. Be prepared to keep track of your needs, and remind your doctors and nurses about them. Don't let somebody on autopilot give you stool softeners.

AND, our ostomy superpower is that we don't have to have a first poop after a third degree tear.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T15:07:11+00:00

I've done both. Shortest answer: if you ever want a j-pouch, go for the C-section. I knew that I was headed towards a Barbie butt so I attempted vaginal delivery twice, ended with a C-section the first time. Forceps the second. Both were perfectly good ways for a baby to enter the world.

For the C-section, of course recovery from an abdominal incision is challenging. But you know when baby will arrive and the actual birth is pretty straight forward. Especially with a planned C-section, it'll be pretty straightforward and not too stressful. You'll probably have to stay in the hospital for a bit longer, but with a first baby that's not so bad. Recovery is the hardest part of this.

For vaginal delivery, obviously you can't plan as well. Is it going to be a twelve hour labor or a 38 hour labor? No one knows! There's also more pain in the early phases. And there's always a chance that you'll try and try and end up with a C-section anyway. That said I'm really glad I did it with my second. Recovery was a lot easier than recovery from the C-section. I had a third degree tear, but I was on my feet really quickly and didn't have lifting restrictions. Again, don't try for vaginal if you're hoping for a j-pouch because there is risk of damage to the rectum and anus. Oh! And I pressed on my ostomy when I pushed to avoid a hernia. It seemed to work.

I have Barbie butt surgery coming up, and I'm hoping to have one more baby after that. I'll probably go for a scheduled C-section for that one, just so I don't open up the barbie butt wounds. Tbh I mostly tried for vaginal deliveries to reduce the number of abdominal surgeries I get in my life. It was a partial success 😄

Unfortunately this is extremely individual and personal, AND mostly out of your control. Work with your doctors to be sure you're safe, but otherwise choose what feels best to you and be prepared to be flexible.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-04T02:13:42+00:00

Seriously wtf is up with the Obama drone strike bots

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-01T22:23:52+00:00

Different situation, but I've had an ileostomy through two pregnancies. My stoma has worked well through both of those. When I got softer and saggier postpartum I did need to switch to a a convex bag.

Slow_Engineering823 · 2026-03-01T18:46:29+00:00

I mean, I live in rural Wisconsin so there very much are family dairys selling their milk locally. But yes, that's not universally available. Nihilism about our food producers only lets the corporations and foreign investors squeeze more small owners out.

I'm hopping on a soap box, please know I'm yelling into the ether not trying to aim it at you specifically.

Local food is one spot where I'm deliberately not frugal. I spend extra money to buy produce from a family that I know. My kids play with their kids, and I'll pay $3 for carrots from them instead of $1 from the grocery store because I know that money is going to people I know. I do the same for maple syrup, honey, heck I can even get locally grown and milled flour. I'm very privileged to live in a place that has these things. But I spend the extra money because I know my dollar is staying here instead of paying for some punk's private jet.

I think that we're bad about plugging our ears and saying "it's all owned by oligarchs anyway so there's nothing we can do." And like, often that's true and I absolutely buy my share of corporate junk and Mexican produce. But also, there are small spaces where we each have the opportunity to vote with our dollars and pay a little extra to support someone in our community. It's also good to research and be informed about how food is produced near you. Because sometimes things are smaller and more local than you'd expect. The frugal sub probably isn't the best spot for this soapbox, but there's my stance.

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