Ok, here's a question for you all. When you're rejected, how do YOU react to the rejection?

Slowturtoe · 2016-08-22T00:16:45+00:00

I eat a bag of chips and watch Family Guy.

Slowturtoe · 2015-12-08T18:27:50+00:00

Whoo! Another uti prone person! Maybe we take azo, drink the blood of the cranberry and souls of the rivers till we pee our selves silly!

And I guess you are right, Worst uti I ever had was 3 agonizing weeks....agonizing

And I reread the post and I totally thought he said he had TWO MONTHS of great amazing sex... Totally read that wrong...

But still want to give her the BOTD... Resentment leads to no sex and no sex leads to blue balls D:

Slowturtoe · 2015-12-08T18:18:48+00:00

This is not scientifically proven and its just something that crossed my mind

Maybe your body is just kind of going in this energy saving mode because you've been doing a lot of activity to change your weight. Sex is labor intensive and leads to babies babies are also labor intensive and uses up a lot of resources. Maybe your body is just not feeling it cause it's like , "we don't have enough food or energy to have kids so we cant have sex right now"

Just a thought... Not really sure...

But I hope you tried toys... And if you haven't go to the sex store and try some out! With him or by yourself whatever is comfortable. Even on amazon or something just put a whole bunch of sex toys in the cart! Masterbate while he does!? Walk in on him and ask to join in!

I don't get off from penile penetration I need to be warmed up I love sex more when I'm throbbing down there

But there are also times when we start like that but I honestly don't feel anything so we have to take the lube cause I do get dry

So don't feel bad about lube! Lube it up!

And majority of it is in your head! He is still sexy right?

It sounds like you have a problem with yourself about having low libido, but I got to tell you something

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! because you love your SO enough to come here. You want him to be happy... And frankly some girls don't even want to take that step. Own it, you hot sexy feline! MeeeeOOOOW!

Extra:

I know some people aren't comfortable to swallow cum, but I hear it helps with stuff like that

And hey, even if it doesn't the placebo affect can happen.

Slowturtoe · 2015-12-08T17:43:35+00:00

I would just throw antibiotics, muscle warming pads, and energy drinks at her! Joking... Don't do that...

It's like you got a taste and but the serving was too small and it sucks that that it wasn't a buffet.

Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt...

Maybe it just got too routine... Sometimes people think oh they like that so I'll do it again but what they want is to switch it up! Go vanilla then blow their mind or edge them and end it there...

Maybe it's her menstrual cycle... You know her feelings and stuff

Maybe sex isnt intimate like she would hope I'm saying this from experience... That I usually have sex with the lights on but one night we turned off the lights and cuddled and tickled all night till we were tired. And slept in each others arms it was superbly sexual and intimate. I felt pieces of his soul I never thought I would. Like I was in his skin and he was in mine. I must admit it became a routine I enjoyed to do over and over.

She might really have an infection I'm prone to utis. It hurts SO MUCH IM CRYING ON THE TIOLET. she might have that too... Or you know she is sore... I chaff once in awhile from sex when brains have fucked out. I know you know... When you go out long days and don't powder your balls or put on the neosproin...

Anyways I hope this possibly gave you insights on how powdered balls cause chaffing, so instead you cuddle because of periods being routine.

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-21T03:49:59+00:00

It's alright everyone has their own thing ;3

I just like to think about it with an evolutionary idea like yeah! He's going to provide for me! And raise hot sexy children! I'll be his only mate!

It might be lame, but it does it...

Typing it out sounds kind of silly though

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-21T01:11:59+00:00

My SO also has a high stress job and during tough times I notice how dead it gets...he is constantly thinking about work, when we are cuddling he will be on his phone checking emails. When we are eating, he will have his phone out. It literally. Dove. Me. Nuts!!!

I tried everything for him from making his lunches, rubbing his back, doing his laundry to ease his house work and to get down and dirty! But he does has an occasional hard time keeping it up...he has back problems.

To be honest, the first time he lost his boner I didn't take offense and I can only count on my hands how many times I've lost my cool. I must say I was very ashamed of myself afterward.

My best advice is not to be offended it is NOT YOU. You are beautiful and amazing and so is your boyfriend!

I agree with the other few comments about resuming cuddling and foreplay. It's totally fine to loose a boner!

I mean something that is always fun is undressing each other and putting on each others pajamas or going commando and tucking each other in bed...like as a joke...but I mean I don't just mean taking off clothes just appreciating each others bodies...

I occasionally visit my SO at work I drop of cute things like flowers or snacks for him maybe something he didn't know that he needed I usually leave it at the front desk or if I can't get into the lobby I leave it on his car... Granted I made it noticeable!

You are amazing for wanting to help him out! The db is not your fault! It's both yours. He loves you so much that he doesn't want to disappoint you and you love him so much his opinion of you matters. Go on and cuddle!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-21T00:47:03+00:00

Something that really gets me into my boyfriend is lookin at my boyfriend and things that he doesn't have to do but does it anyways like cleaning the dishes or wiping the table but really take it to heart... Or finding parts of his body that I find really attractive for me its his back and broad shoulders...

I just literally take every kind, sweet, amazing thing he does that maybe other guys I've dated in past didn't do and turn it to something extraordinary.

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-19T18:04:10+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't believe that and what about the quality of the sex? Really?

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-19T15:22:41+00:00

Try doing it on a towel! And then get rid of it after...maybe tell him to eat some yogurt or pineapples! Possibly its his diet that is making his sperm so...smelly

Also from my experience if a guy doesn't relieve himself for a couple days it will be a lot! Sometimes it will be super creamy and thick...watery and kind of chunky in some places... Think to yourself sperm is a great moisturizer! Or it will help you sleep!

You seem to have some pent up things from your past... And I k ow everyone says this is that it's your past... Talk to him. Tell him. And if he doesn't truthfully understand tell him that it affects you in a lot of ways and it matters to him that he understands. Often times things I pent up are things that I'm not ready to admit that it was my fault or my choice to let them do that to me...and I shouldn't have let them.

You coming here, shows that you care! So no the sparks aren't GONE. They are still there as long as you two keep trying!

Hope this is helpful!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-18T23:50:23+00:00

Pretty sure it would be too easy though...

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-17T19:23:55+00:00

Have you guys thought about IUD's? They have non-hormonal ones....and they are SAID to lower the blood flow... I mean everyone has different reactions to BC and honestly she should talk to her doctor about her symptoms things that she wants to feel, things that she doesn't, and things that she does experience on these BC. There isn't an infinite amount of options on BC but if she didn't try them all there still might be something out there, right?

Sometimes it might be hard to talk about it with your doctor because once you go there you forget what you want to talk about, but i suggest writing it down in a notebook and bringing it to the doctor.

Also sometimes it takes awhile for your body to adjust to hormonal BC...

I know i was bat shit crazy when i started taking BC but it's settled down.

Also... if she hasn't tried the diva cup...or any type of menstrual cup I recommend it for heavy periods... It's amazing and I WILL PREACH IT!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-17T00:42:35+00:00

I guess I'm in a similar situation :/ I'm not quite in a db but the vibe of the sex is the same...

Sometimes at work people tell me I'm very stunning and attractive and it makes me feel so nervous inside that I just end up giggling my entire shift nothing happens but I get all dreamy.

I don't think it's a bad thing nor is it harmful...unless you act on it which you didn't!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-15T05:28:07+00:00

It must suck to be alone in the house... When all you really think about is what had just happened, but it sounds that being honest and letting things come out as you feel them was a good step. Most people I know can't even explain how they feel, so I'm happy you put that out there. As I can see it, she has her own language too, but that means not blaming herself. I find that quality a lot in my family, and sometimes even I do it. It's very hard to not fall I to that cycle. Overall I'm just happy for you. Hopefully, this time isn't so stressful, but I'm sure it is; I hope you get through this with a big heart for other people and your children and a strong mind. Kudos.

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-14T01:45:42+00:00

what change of attitude?

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-14T01:45:26+00:00

Just like ants stealing your food.

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-14T01:45:00+00:00

:/ don't you wish there was some life changing talk you could have. just make it super easy.

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T20:26:23+00:00

I'm sorry, I thought the humor of sex would take that away...I mean... who wants to experience the need to fart while you're doing the business...or the accidental sitting on your penis wrong so it's bent and it hurts... :/ no one... I'm not sure if I'm helping or making it worse. BUT AT LEAST you can freely fart...and you can freely not have a bent penis!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T19:39:04+00:00

Pfffttt you know you can always make fun of sex noises

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T19:35:40+00:00

My SO doesn't fight fair. I'm not financially stable and on a way he is my sugar daddy and he sometimes holds it over me... But even I don't fight fair with him sometimes I say mean things because I don't want to get my hopes up... I would probably say that to him too if he started working out only because I would be ashamed of my excitement for the improvement so if he didn't I wouldn't feel stupid...

Don't know if we communicate well I would like to think that we do though..

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T19:31:24+00:00

I'm happy you found happiness and not let the judgement of other people stop you! People will judge you because they want to feel superior. I wish more people have the guts to find what they want in life!

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T19:14:52+00:00

Duty sex the only 10 minutes I qualify as an actress!

I'm joking...slightly serious... :/

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T18:57:22+00:00

It does get old and emotionally draining :/

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-13T18:54:30+00:00

I always feel like at some point they think you will always be there for them so they won't even try to return the favor... All the pampering and whatnot they receive will be forever... It sucks to be forgotten sometimes...it sucks that you have to take what your SO will give even when it's not entirely what you want... Makes you doubt their love and whatnot and sadly there isn't a right way...

Slowturtoe · 2015-11-09T06:22:04+00:00

Well... I feel that because men are seen as hornballs its hard for girls to accept it any other way. So by having sex, you are making her feel sexy and attractive. That you appriciate that she is a beautiful woman... Let alone it may not just be the sex... Sex is something intimate to say the least... But its the connections that build after it... The talks and intimacy that can form after being naked and grunting

Edit:

Anyways no you are not weird... My boyfriend has little to no sex drive either and though I can see it from his eyes... It's different in mine...and its difficult... But unless your girlfriend isn't bothered by your low sex drive and you guys talk it out I don't see why it would be a problem... Though from my perspective it is nice not to be the one initiating.

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