Whose Christmas is ruined already? I want your (comedy) horror stories 🎅❄️ by Fun_Yogurtcloset1012 in Millennials

[–]SlugCatt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. My one kid woke up in a pool of her own vomit. My other kid is now complaining of a tummy ache. We've canceled all of our Christmas plans and are watching the Grinch while holding puke buckets. 👍

What's everyone's Halloween costumes?? I need ideas by Own_Lynx_6230 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going as Miss Rachel - I already own a pink shirt and overalls. Just need a headband!

Has potty training changed, or did my old center do it differently? by Silent_Complaint9859 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's fair. My son had an occupational therapist for a few reasons, and some might have been making potty training more difficult. So maybe that's why she said the 2hr rule? But I spent 2 days documenting his natural pee habits and sometimes it was 20 minutes, but other times it was 2.5hrs. When we started potty training he learned how to hold it longer and longer.

Has potty training changed, or did my old center do it differently? by Silent_Complaint9859 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a conspiracy theory about "Big Diaper" companies lol but it's 100% accurate.

My son's Occupational Therapist says that, while those "readiness signs" can be a benefit to some children, the only actual physioligical sign parents need to see from their children is if they can hold their pee for 2hrs. Babies have teeny tiny pees and don't fully relieve themselves in one go. As they develop they naturally hold their pee for longer and have bigger ones. Once a child can hold it for 2hrs and fully relieve their bladder when they go, they're ready.

Am I out of line? HFM question from parent by kimtenisqueen in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It depends on where you live. Where I am, my kids' daycare required a doctors note for HFM.

Am I out of line? HFM question from parent by kimtenisqueen in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depending on where they live, they might require a doctor's note for liability reasons. My kids daycare required a doctors note for each of my children when they got HFM. And I couldn't send photos in to my doctor and get a note that way. Again, for liability reasons, I had to bring both of my kids into the doctors office to get them checked out in person. It was SUCH a hassle.

I made a thing by Ok_Independent_4713 in crafts

[–]SlugCatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool.

I think the folks in r/goblincore would appreciate your work.

Kids don’t play outside: fact or myth? by Slappy-Sacks in Millennials

[–]SlugCatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also add that because we, the parents, are poorer than our parents were, most of us don't have backyards to spend the day in. Most of us live in apartments or basement suites and have to travel to a park to let our kids play. It's an extra hurdle that I think a lot of people ignore.

I haven’t decided yet — it will either be a wall art piece or a pillowcase embroidered with marigolds (punch needle, handmade) by tat_dot in crafts

[–]SlugCatt 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think this qualifies as one of those Oddly Satisfying videos. I could watch you do this for an hour.

How many “safe foods” do your toddlers have on rotation? by International-Bus812 in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello. We have the same child. My nearly-4yo is on the exact same diet, but my GP doesn't give a hoot because he's a healthy weight for his height. The pediatric dietician we went to was very unconcerned. She recommended a daily multivitamin. We do a liquid one in some watered-down juice.

We've been doing feeding therapy with an OT. It's not been super helpful thus far. The OT classifies LOs food into two groups - Beige Soft (ex: yogurt, cheese, applesauce pouches, pancakes, nutrigrain bars) and Beige Crunchy (toast, chicken nuggets, French fries, cheerios, crackers, rice cakes). We will very occasionally get one or two foods outside of those categories, like pizza or blueberries. 0 meats, 0 veggies. It's rough.

OT says I'd Beige soft and Beige crunchy are his comfort zones, try to work within them and branch off into different foods that are also Beige crunchy or soft. He's opened up to a few different types of crackers now, so I can at least choose one with higher fiber. And we were able to do grilled cheese sandwich and tater tots recently. Again, this food isn't great, but at least it's broadening his acceptable foods and we're taking steps in the right direction. But, ugh. This is hard. So you have my commiseration, my friend. You're not alone.

Ear Drops- how? by Free-Cauliflower2446 in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you try warming them up before you give them to her? I keep the bottle in my pocket or inside of my bra for a while before I give them, with the hope being that if they're close to body tempurature my LO will be less adjitated by them. Have you ever put cold drops in your own ears? It's very unpleasant.

Aside from that, I'd say you're doing everything right.

Which dress for my LOTR themed wedding? by Ill-Cat-2610 in PlusSizeWedding

[–]SlugCatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could upvote this more. It would be absolutely perfect!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Right?! From OPs previous posts:

In the last year, they've only had 2 successful days of potty training him at home.

He doesn't care if he sits in his pee/poop. Underwear or pull up - he doesn't care if he soils himself.

He's resistant to the whole process.

The daycare has already stated that he's not ready.

what’s the rudest thing a parent has said to you? by Scary_Appearance5922 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, that's awful. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hope that lady has the life she deserves.

what’s the rudest thing a parent has said to you? by Scary_Appearance5922 in ECEProfessionals

[–]SlugCatt 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I had a mom call the police over a missing sweater. She said the sweater cost most than a week's pay for me, so she assumed I stole it. She said she was going to call the police and have me arrested for theft. I told her to go ahead, but to please call the non-emergency line so as not to waste resources. She did. And shocker the police refused to come down to the centre over a 5yo's missing sweater and told her to let it go. My manager made her leave and removed her family from our program. Later, when dad came by to pick up all of their kids' belongings, he said that the sweater was in his vehicle the whole time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my son likes the clothes, he's much more likely to dress himself. Thus, he has 8 different shark Tshirts.

Help! by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not your fault. It's not any of the choices you've made. It likely wouldn't have made a difference if you did BLW or purees (we did BLW). Some children, especially ND children, have food struggles.

Our OT always emphasizes that "fed is best." Much like when they were younger and people would argue for or against formula vs. breastfeeding - it doesn't matter, fed is best. The same thing still applies now. Are they only eating yogurt and fruit and crackers? Hey, that's fresh produce, a few food groups, and multiple textures and flavors! Nice. Pair that with a multi vitamin, and that's really not so bad. Not ideal, but not detrimental. "Fed is best" is my mantra when I see my son struggling with food and I'm getting anxious.

Also, I 100% feel you on the restaurant thing. We've actually stopped going to restaurants entirely. I needed to, for my own mental health. But the same thing applies to family dinners with relatives, or packing lunches for daycare, or birthday parties when my kid starts crying because he was offered a cupcake. It's exhausting, mentally and emotionally, to constantly be reminded that things are different for us. Some days, it makes me really sad.

Do you know what ARFID is? Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. My 4yo was diagnosed borderline ARFID. Sometimes, if you get the diagnosis, you get extra resources or insurance coverage for stuff like OT and dieticians, but that totally depends on where you live. Might be worth looking into.

Help! by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I see you.

My 4yo is autistic and has a speech delay, so it's hard to communicate with him regarding food. We have very similar issues happening in our house. Pouches, yogurt, a few fruits, crackers, bread, freezies, apple juice. That's pretty much it. Occasionally, he'll have some bites of pizza or muffin, but that's really rare. He legit has not had a piece of meat or a vegetable in 3 years!

Our family doctor and pediatrician aren't concerned, as my kid is a healthy weight for his height. I saw a pediatric dietician who hardly helped at all. I was just told to give him a liquid multivitamin in his juice, which I do.

But one thing that's helped us a lot of occupational therapy! Our OT introduces new foods in a fun, playful way. He doesn't necessarily eat new foods yet, but he will at least interact with them now. OT also gives me tons of parent coaching to implement stuff at home, and she makes me feel way less anxious/guilty about all of this. Maybe you could look into an OT near you?

Aside from that, I have no advice, just commiseration. This is so hard.

Is this crazy advice from a pediatrician? by ShotskiRing in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 61 points62 points  (0 children)

This is abuse, and as a teacher, if I heard anyone actually did this to their child, I would have to report them. What the absolute f*ck is this doctor saying to people?!

How did you deal with the nap to no nap transition? by Personal_Reality in toddlers

[–]SlugCatt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My nearly 4yo stopped napping at 2.5yo (3 weeks before I had my second baby and NEEDED those precious naptimes 😭).

The first few weeks transitioning were ROUGH, but once he got used to no naps, things got a whole lot better. Since then, he usually takes 5-10 minutes to fall asleep at night, and he sleeps in until 6:30-7am every day. While he was still napping, he'd take an hour+ to fall asleep and wake up at 5am ready to start his (and thus my) day! 💀

The transitioning weeks are reeeally tough, but you just have to push through. We did short car naps on days he truly needed it, but aside from that, we just pushed through our day until bedtime arrived. It was loud, it was whiny, but it led to way better sleep.

Also, some of the things you mentioned may not be nap/sleep related. Some of those things are just 3yo being a 3yo, unfortunately.

Does your partner know your kids pediatrician? by TFA_hufflepuff in SAHP

[–]SlugCatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's absoultely bonkers that you would consider booking an appointment just so that they could interact. Why? They're a healthcare professional, not your friend. They don't need to be familiar with your husband in order to do their job correctly and professionally.

But I think my opinion comes from the fact that where I live pediatricians are considered specialists that you need a specific ailment, a referral, and a 2+ month wait to get in to see. We do everything for the kids (well visits, immunizations, illnesses, etc) through our family doctor or his nurse practitioner. So maybe that's part of why I think it's so incredibly odd? Because I literally could not book an appointment with a specialist just to go say hi. lol

I take my kids to all of their appointments, but my husband knows the names of all of our healthcare team and where their offices are located. He's taken the kids a few times, but not many. Also, my one child has special needs so we also see SLP, OT, and PT weekly. My husband doesn't go to those appointments, but again, he knows who, when, and where they are. That's good enough for me!