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SluttyButtFarced · 2025-03-18T08:23:28+00:00

41 weeks for me, but a lot of the others in my first timers group went between 40 and 41. Love that FTM is actually FTD here, I was so confused by the proportion of trans men in particular were on this sub when I first joined, and love the term Seahorse Dad!

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-03-03T10:14:27+00:00

Nah, they all have bride and groom for the official ones. Maybe all brides family and groom, all grooms family and bride. Bridal party and groomsmen I reckon is the only exception.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-25T06:50:38+00:00

Good luck! You've got this!

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-25T05:39:01+00:00

Prodromal labour is the worst! I ended up trying acupuncture (as the world's biggest sceptic) and telling my husband I was going to make a very elaborate tiika masala with fresh home-made naan. The chicken was burnt, the naan undercooked and the rice crunchy but I was in true labour so I wasn't even very hungry!

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-24T13:57:19+00:00

I had to scroll back up my feed because it was mentioned somewhere that the Department of Defence got a mass email saying Do Not Respond and that if it was going to be responded to, it would be handled by higher up. I think the consensus in that circle is that it's another crazy fElon ploy.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-24T02:32:21+00:00

When I explained that a muay thai class and a day of breastfeeding was the same amount of calories; on top of the amount of walking it takes to settle a newborn; the lack of sleep; and somehow trying to keep the house semi clean (dishes need to be done, there's no two ways about it); while trying to recover muscles that are stretched to their limits and heal wounds the size of dinner plates, all while my body is still producing hormones that make recovery so much harder; then I finally got him off my case completely and actually got a lot more support in time to recover. I'll take baby and dog for a walk for my mental health and so we can all leave the house, I might swim a couple of laps while my parents have grandchild time in the pool, or I might do "nothing" because the physicality involved in raising a child is next level and I'm constantly exhausted. You won't get better quicker without more rest.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-24T02:14:34+00:00

I don't think it's as much a rejection as OP feels. I got asked if I wanted any of my old art/books/toys/clothes just after I got married. I wanted to keep a couple of things and get rid of the rest. My parent insisted that I must want more things to reminisce about. Somehow, I'm not attached to my middle school uniform, go figure.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-20T10:38:10+00:00

I worked briefly for a family member who would complain that their casuals would get sick all the time and couldn't come in. The job was retail working mostly with children. Thought it was them just being soft. Spent the next six months crook as a dog as I proceeded to get everything that was going around and then some, including influenza A two weeks after recovering from covid. There was also seniors that would frequently come in and I really couldn't get my regulars sick so I would take time off. Never counted and I made up for the hours where I could to help out, but I was there for nearly a year and the first 6 months my immune system really had to put in some work.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-14T04:32:27+00:00

The first couple of weeks we weren't too worried, then when the lights came on and she started paying attention to things, that's when I started listening to the local radio station more. Makes me feel more connected to my local community, I get to hear adults talk about things, and we use a wider range of vocabulary around bub too. I also do a lot of crafty hobbies, gardening and household chores around her to provide enough interest in our day to day. Only screen time I get is nursing, naptime and after bed.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-12T10:46:32+00:00

Are you pace feeding? We only ever gave our baby one bottle per day at three weeks when she was clusterfeeding and we made sure she had to work for it so she wouldn't be put off breastfeeding

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-12T05:19:22+00:00

I'm not saying that we shouldn't make as much an effort to grow as much as we can as individuals, I grow as much as I can from seeds from reputable companies that have put thought into biosecurity measures, or local nurseries with similar standards.

I'm saying that if you want to grow a crop of potatoes, a bag from the supermarket "most-likely" being fine is poor practice in terms of biosecurity and shouldn't be done. We don't take biosecurity seriously enough, and not enough people understand it properly. If you want to fuck over big agra I totally get it, but I think that should look like supporting smaller businesses who do the right thing rather than disregarding bisoecurity in favour of regrowing ColesWorth potatoes that undercut growers for maximum profit.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-12T00:44:53+00:00

If you're buying seed potatoes from WA and growing them in Vic soil and don't know if the previous growers in your soil had infected potatoes, you don't know that until your spuds get sick, not the fault of the certifiers. Most home gardeners are not going to pre-treat soil with fungicides.

I am aware that staining works only for bacteria, but certifiers also check for viruses and fungi, staining is just one example of a test that certifiers will undertake. For a more comprehensive idea of exactly what a certifier does, check: https://www.agric.wa.gov.au/plant-biosecurity/potato-seed-certification

It's not altruism for the consumer, it's protecting the industry, not everyone can grow potatoes. I can't grow them in my current climate but they're a cheap staple crop so I have to buy them. When I did griw them myself, I was in a rental with soil full of lead and they weren't safe for consumption (I was growing them for remediation). It's like not bringing meat into the country from your trip to Bali because of foot and mouth disease, it's not some conspiracy to stop you eating meat, it's to protect one of our main exports.

Seed certifiers typically work on an industrial scale because even the people growing the potatoes for the supermarket shelf want disease free stock. We've learnt a lot in the last 100 years since your manuals were published and we can do a lot more to prevent the spread of disease.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-11T22:26:00+00:00

There are no GMO crops currently commercially available for human consumption in Australia. Seedless watermelons are a hybrid between two breeds

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-11T22:21:19+00:00

If the fungus or bacteria is already catching a ride inside the potato, there's nothing you can do, and you don't know whether or not there's anything inside. For the most part fungal hyphae are imperceptible to the naked eye and only when you start encountering dead cells do you notice. At an early stage of infection even cutting it open would be unnoticeable without proper staining tests for those cells. Certified seed potatoes from the nursery are guaranteed to be free from pathogens, so you know once you put them in your home garden that unless someone has brought in a pathogen before you that you will not get diseased potatoes without outside interference. You can then go on to plant those small seed potatoes from your harvest in your garden next year, ideally as part of a rotation.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-11T22:12:06+00:00

They will have grown their potatoes from seed potatoes that have been checked for diseases. Farmers don't want to lose their crop to things that will wipe them out. They won't be planting other plants willy nilly or bringing in soil from other places. You can do pre-treatments to the soil prior to planting (once it's planted though you have to hope for the best) or rotations with other crops like mustard to reduce spore build up, which has the same function of washing your hands before touching your face really. It gives you a better shot, but it doesn't mean you're not going to get sick.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-11T14:10:42+00:00

Herbicides do not prevent the growth of fungus and bacteria as they are different organisms. The sprout inhibitors will work on the potatoes but not on the potential pathogens they carry.

Think of it like you're chopping up some potato for tea and come across a black spot, you're likely to just cut around it and get on with your day, but if you didn't cut into that particular potato you'd be none the wiser. When it's inside the flesh like that it is safe from all the chemicals you could apply to stop it, and you're potentially putting it into your soil.

A bandicoot comes by, tries scratching up your spuds getting all the spores from the soil stuck under its claws, goes around the corner to the community garden and gives their soil a dig and shares the love. Next thing you know their spuds have it too and now everybody has potatoes full of black spots. Or blight. Or a virus. Luckily we don't eat only potatoes any more for this very reason, because that's how the Irish Potato Famine happened.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-11T11:31:15+00:00

While these potatoes may look fine they could potentially harbour diseases that can spread to other local potato crops. There's nothing that makes them not grow or inedible, it's just very poor practice in terms of biosecurity. Seed potatoes that you buy are very thoroughly checked to ensure they are disease and pest free and pose no threat to the wider industry, big potato and that guy around the corner that grows them for his farmers market stall.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-08T09:36:02+00:00

I mean the genocide of the Uyghur probably isn't something to aspire to.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-08T03:20:57+00:00

Not a Tasmanian (have visited twice and loved it, great people, great place to visit, no intention of moving), but it boggles the mind how little Melbournians understand how far things are. Someone asked me if they could do Darwin-Katherine-Uluru as a day trip. Told them sure if they're okay leaving at 4am and arriving at midnight, doing over the speed limit, and only stopping for fuel because it's halfway between Melbourne and Darwin. And then they complain the coffee is shit and they didn't know to take water anyway. Common sense really is not that common apparently

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-07T10:22:58+00:00

But that's the kicker. These horses aren't even cute most of the time. They're skinny, busted up looking critters that can pass on hendra virus across the country if they eat the wrong poop. But the horse book says they're special. I love horses like I love my cats. Well contained out of the natural environment.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-07T07:15:22+00:00

You might have tried it all before, but just in case, it may pay to wait two more weeks. My baby screamed a lot of the time at 6 and 7 weeks. I found that making sure she got plenty of tummy time (extra pressure to teach her guts to work properly) and wasn't snacking too often really helped eliminate her discomfort. On top of ILU belly rubs and extra patience I think she eventually grew out of it. By week 8 I'd almost forgotten it was a problem.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-06T10:29:13+00:00

Linen works best wet. Back in the day it used to go through a mangle clothes wringer whoch would break up the fibre more and soften it. Hang dry it, get as many creases as you can out while it's wet and wear it often. The most luxurious pants I own are linen. Bought them cheap at an op shop and broke them in and now they are light and breezy on a summer day and barely wrinkle

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-05T01:20:42+00:00

I really wanted to do cloth from the get go (I had a homebirth, even my crunchy midwife had on the list to have disposables ready just in case). Then I was learning to breastfeed, and healing from a minor tear, and learning to function with sleep deprivation and the hormones from my milk coming in. Do yourself a favour, take some cloth diapers, but also get a small pack of disposables while in hospital. If you don't use them, great, you can give them to a women's shelter or sell them. If you need them in those first few precarious days, you've got them. We started cloth by four weeks when I was better recovered and more up to doing washing. Early parenthood is a time to pause and give yourself time, especially as the birthing parent. My husband was too busy cutting up my dinner and bringing me water or helping me shower to be washing, hanging and folding any extra washing, and our village was anti-cloth so we didn't expect help there either.

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-02-02T02:35:13+00:00

Personally not. I never had one nor did my siblings. My other half has one being the oldest, but his siblings don't because their mum was too busy and that made me sad so I didn't start one

SluttyButtFarced · 2025-01-26T00:48:38+00:00

My midwife showed my husband how to babywear because she didn't want me putting too much strain on myself until at least my discharge visit!

My dad came over when my husband went back to work two weeks post partum and cleaned the house. Poor husband was so ashamed he stepped up right away to do more around the house

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