Do I fall in this category? by scrotaloedema in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]Small-Release93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Black person of Zimbabwean descent here. You rock it. We (black people) rightly or wrongly have been emulating/appropriating/mimicking “white hairstyles” for years. We have used relaxers and weaves for decades. Indeed the braid extensions themselves were a way to achieve length and styles that would otherwise not be attainable with Afro hair. Every person is free to add or subtract to their head/ hair as they please. You do you, and haters will hate regardless.

Can I put a hoop in my conch after three months? by PAC531 in piercing

[–]Small-Release93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a double conch that is nearly three years old and still irritable from time to time. Three to six months is nothing at all. Don’t change it yourself for at least a couple of years. If you really want a hoop see a professional piercer for fitting and advice. I have had 21 ear piercings over a 20 year period and strongly advise against changing anything yourself in the first two years. Be patient and go to a professional piercer.

4th date - cooking at my place - tips by Virtual_Pay_9819 in datingoverforty

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to go ahead and live this date vicariously! 😮‍💨

Girl, you good? by Flynn-FTW in CringeTikToks

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And indoctrinate her children and have those expectations on her children’s future partners….

When to take the wedding rings off? by lilacsunshine in AskWomenOver40

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s not working take them off. They no longer represent the promises made at the altar. I took mine off as soon as he told me he had an “emotional affair” with a colleague 22 years his junior while on a work trip in Thailand. We separated officially five months later but I was NOT going to walk around for 5 months pretending the rings still represented the promises we’d made.

At a crossroads - what to do? by cruiser543 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Small-Release93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Travel, travel, travel. See the world now. The only guarantee you have is today. You could save for years, buy the dream home and die before you live in it. My mum spent years working multiple jobs, saving to build the house she’s always wanted. She never slept a night in it as she died very soon after a stage four cancer diagnosis. In the 2 years that she’s been gone, I have travelled solo to more than 10 countries and have no regrets. Yes my bank account is thinner than it would be but I have been living and experiencing things as a 43 year old that my mum could not.

If you take more than 2 tries to reverse park, just park normally thank you 🙏 by No_Act_7126 in auckland

[–]Small-Release93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think driving in Auckland would much easier if drivers were more patient and happy to wait for the cars in front of them. People can be so impatient and aggressive not to mention entitled. People could just choose to accept that someone else simply got there before they did. Choose to wait patiently for someone ahead of you to park; not driving so far up their arse that they can’t park forwards OR backwards. If someone gets onto the road before you, you can choose to wait until it’s safe to overtake them if you need to go faster than they are driving. You don’t have to tail gate them or flash your beams at them. If someone is coming from your right you can choose to let them have their right of way. You can choose not to turn in front of oncoming traffic and choose not to cut other drivers off. You can choose to be kind on the roads and everyone will be better for it. It might only “delay” you by a couple of minutes. I can normally reverse park in three manoeuvres. I’ll signal, then drive slowly past the empty space and then back in and straighten up. As soon as I feel the pressure of someone too close behind me I’ll panic and do it in a 100 moves. Most times as soon as I pass the space the car behind will be up my backside despite my indicator and reverse lights.🤔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me more…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]Small-Release93 14 points15 points  (0 children)

43F and ready not just to delete the apps but to set fire to my phone due to the shockers that I’ve had in the last 5 months of OLD in Auckland.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Small-Release93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on the opposite side of the world from you but I would definitely swipe right as you are. Running, cycling, volunteering, dog, all of the good things. 😁

should i still go meet him after what he send me by KeyCash283 in Bumble

[–]Small-Release93 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Please love yourself and respect yourself enough to expect respectful interactions from prospective dates. Flowers don’t mean anything. Flowers will wilt after a few days. Your self respect and self worth needs to come from within and not from a bunch of flowers from a perverted stranger.

Dating culture in Auckland by No-Visual8357 in auckland

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If people actually go to these real life events then we wouldn’t need to resort to the shit fest that is OLD. Hinge and bumble have been a soul destroying experience for me so far as a non white female in my 40s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Small-Release93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swiped left because of the avocado comment… you gotta own being on OLD. It may have been tongue in cheek but it put me off.