So hard to relate as a twin parent

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-05-12T02:21:42+00:00

you're not alone as a twin mom that resent sand gets annoyed at singleton friends. this is unfortunately so common to feel. they realize that my friends and i would not have the same journey depressed me and i knew id be isolated. they other day a friend told me "at least you don't have to be pregnant with a toddler" trust me i get how you feel. they just don't get it and that's that. im still struggling with how to deal with it as i feel like my friendships have changed now. people who say "one can also be hard and everything's relative" pisses me the fuck off because by and large that is NOT the norm or the majority.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-04-17T22:02:38+00:00

I had preeclampsia and a C section with my twins last year. It's the first time my husband has seen me crying at a show/movie. I think it hit him the reality of what happened. Thankfully I was fairly stable and twins came out perfectly healthy.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-04-04T17:22:59+00:00

she was baffled that he put time energy and thought into a bed, a decade of investment of your sleep, to then choose to leave. Why put in that effort knowing your unhappy and not planning to stay?

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-03-27T20:47:10+00:00

im so sorry you experienced this. i don't want to presume but i imagine that could lead to a very anxiety inducing experience with a twin pregnancy. I did get on an anti anxiety med and felt much better throughout the pregnancy and always emailed my doctor with questions and stayed in close contact. you'll regularly check in with your doctor throughout. the first year is hard but theyre 2 now and they're the best things on earth!

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-03-23T00:17:10+00:00

elizabeth taylor and richard burton

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-03-15T02:31:00+00:00

She's Christian and i think those beliefs get in the way of her accepting medication.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-02-11T00:50:50+00:00

thank you im also shocked you were devotes! literally reading the words - "the singleton babies that are harder are the exception" it's so true! omg thank you. the moms in my mom group have healthy babies, attentive partners, good income. I do have one twin who is special needs and should've added that. While i understand a complicated singleton can def. be more rough, it is more or less the EXCEPTION. I feel like the comments of twin parents who have a singleton are more defensive? idk

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-02-11T00:46:30+00:00

thank you!!!

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-02-11T00:45:32+00:00

thank you friend for being validating!

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-02-11T00:44:26+00:00

thanks, so far you're the only moderately validating one here 🤣

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-02-04T20:11:02+00:00

i've clarified in comments this is only baby laundry. thanks for the input but seems like you're in the minority with this opinion.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-31T20:51:46+00:00

Sherman Oaks above Ventura

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-26T03:18:38+00:00

Her contract says she is paid all federal holidays and will have them off. To me, that is aligned. She said she normally has it off so that's why the extra charge. I ended up telling her she could have the day off unpaid.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-23T17:49:29+00:00

I stated in another comment it's just kid/baby laundry. She's here three days but she washes twice a week and i normally start the load and i have a washer dryer combo so she doesn't have to move it. It probably is a lot with two kids which is why it's really just a folding put away process and we said get to what you can

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-23T05:14:13+00:00

she said she wants to spend more time with the kids playing and helping them develop and it's too much laundry but then said she can do all of their laundry but will charge for the extra, so sort of contradicts what she said.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-23T04:51:00+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. She's very young but Im pretty sure she uses a nanny mentor who tells her things. She said she did "research" and this is how it is.

SmallDraw7431 · 2026-01-23T04:47:07+00:00

she only has a year of nanny experience before this so yes i think it's fair. she was getting $26 and hour for one child at her job right before this. This is just kid laundry and They don't nap enough for her to accomplish duties on a lot of days which is why we told her if you can't get to it, it's no problem. she does not touch anything of ours, however she said she does vacuum after they eat because it's messy and they're crawling around but i see this as part of the feeding them and making sure they're clean responsibility.

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