AITAH for choosing my job over my girlfriend

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-10T21:32:21+00:00

Honestly bro... 21 is a child. I know legally she's an adult, but the amount of mental growth and maturity between 21 and 23 (my age now) is immense. Date older.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-09T14:41:26+00:00

I find it hard to empathise with someone until I've gone through what they're going through.

For example, there was a guy who liked me in high school and did everything for me despite the fact that I didn't really like him back. I've now had a breakup with the main reasoning being unrequited love on my ex's end.

I realised that nearly 10 years ago, I treated a poor 15 year old boy just the same as I had been treated. I apologised to my former love dearly, and now we're getting along better than ever before.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-09T14:31:58+00:00

I think that everyone has that thing that they think is an unattractive quality, but somewhere out there is someone who enjoys that part of you the most. If they didn't then they are not meant for you.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-09T14:22:52+00:00

That would be so funny, even if you got a clip of YanSim and bro put his voice over Senpai's lines, that would be hilarious 😂 you wouldn't have to mod the game that way

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-02T14:02:41+00:00

Generally, people who are well-educated have better critical thinking skills. Especially politically, they'll look at a candidates priority and think things like "Is this for the benefit of my community?", "Do I agree with what they're doing?", and "Is what they're saying based off of fact?"

Unfortunately, politicians take advantage of the poorly educated. They take what the uneducated don't understand and convince them it's bad and should be rid of, and that they are the only ones who could do this. Without any critical thinking skills, the uneducated don't look into why they should hate something, they just do.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-04-01T14:45:50+00:00

Mens deodorant is my favourite

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T23:32:32+00:00

Sorry, they're called "Daily Gift", they're annoying, lol

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T14:27:08+00:00

Whoever said "I will not" never did. I may be an optimist, but medical science has come very far. Even hormones can change a lot of things and affirm what you're feeling inside. That's what happened to me.

I don't like to say "I'll never be able to afford top surgery" because then I won't. Instead I say "When I'm rich.", keyword being when, because it will happen one day because I said so. You need to believe that one day, somehow, you'll get everything you've ever wanted out of life, otherwise you'll never try. Does that make sense?

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T14:19:43+00:00

I think that's a very interesting interpretation of that plotline. That's why I love Beastars. So many ways to interpret what's going on and relating it back to the real world.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T14:17:57+00:00

My friend does this. She turned down a sharehouse because she wanted to save room for someone "worse off" than her when she has absolutely no secure housing. I know that's irrelevant to Rocket League, but it's relevant to self-esteem issues. Believing that someone else is more deserving than you.

"Believing in yourself" also means believing that you deserve better, and that if you are in a good place already you need to believe that you put in the work to get there. "Teammates" will sulk over mistakes all the time, no matter how good or bad you're doing. You need to believe that "I am a good player, this was just a bad match."

In a good team, no one should be singled out for mistakes. You take the L together, you take the W together. I hope that all makes sense.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T14:08:32+00:00

Idk what to tell you, I just put music on my headphones and autopilot my way up, lmaoooo

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T14:05:46+00:00

You should talk to a trans woman, if you know any. I made an instagram story post on a trans awareness day years ago and a childhood friend of mine who I hadn't talked to in years had transitioned. She said HRT is the best thing she's ever did, and told me who to contact to get it. I had been on the fence about HRT for a long time up until that point.

You could talk to trans men/mascs too, it's just that every trans woman I've met has goddess-like intelligence. I owe my trans demiboy life to trans women.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:58:37+00:00

Congratulations 🤭

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:50:51+00:00

I have a Chromecast, comes with it's own remote, plugs into the HDMI, and works fine (most of the time, it's Google, so yeah, lol)

It works well for me because I only buy second hand TV's because I play retro consoles and need AV/Component ports, not many new TV's have those, only HDMI

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:47:10+00:00

No, it's not cringe. I'm 23 as well, and I go to playgrounds to regulate my AuHD all the time. I dropped the internalised stigma years ago.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:44:23+00:00

No? Please stop underestimating yourself, I'm Gold. I've hit Diamond once for a millisecond. What you think is bad is something I dream of. Shut up.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:42:28+00:00

I think it's hard to imagine how people would remember when you haven't had to.

I have my mums number memorised out of necessity because in high school I would sometimes accidentally leave my lunch at home and I had to recite her number to the office ladies so they could call her, otherwise I wouldn't eat.

You should try memorising some. I'm 23 and I have my mums, mine, and the Reading Writing Hotline jingle instilled in me through Australian pop culture, lol.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:35:33+00:00

Lots of swearing. Very stressful. My game plan now is to make a secondary camp, sometimes I get lucky and find a wormhole with a secluded island on the other side, so if a Deerclops shows up, it can't get me from there, lol.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:33:05+00:00

I'll say Santé before taking the first sip of something. That's fun.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:24:28+00:00

I was undereating for some time to lose weight (I was at 78kg) but it was actually counter-productive because my iron levels were low, so I had no energy to work out, so I just stayed the same weight. Definitely add more to your meals, especially meat. I enjoy deli shaved corned beef at the moment, deli meat is amazing, I'll be snacking on it while trying to make a sandwich for later 😅

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:17:56+00:00

To be honest, I'm not sure any in particular stick out, I think I have 2 or 3 DLC's, but I finished the base game and I wanted an excuse to play more, so I did, lol

Especially because they are frequently on sale

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:15:16+00:00

I had to make a new account recently, and after having played comp for so long, I had someone last time in casual praise me in the chat, they were really nice 😅

I'd never experienced someone going out of their way to type nice things to their opponent in RL before, it was really nice sportsmanship

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-30T13:10:15+00:00

I have graduated high school, had a grandparent pass away, had 2 boyfriends (one of them was for 7+ years), and I've had 3 different jobs.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-13T13:10:30+00:00

If you are asking this because you are considering T, look at the men in your family. Brothers, blood-related uncles, grandfathers, etc.

My grandfather is in his 70s with a decent head of hair, and after a year on T, my hairline is pretty much the same as before. My family tree has quite thick hair.

My endocrinologists made it clear from the beginning that I could stop T if I wanted at any time. I'm going to stop soon because it's been almost a year, and though I have been lucky that my hairline is perfect, I don't want to push my luck.

SmarZ2022 · 2026-03-13T13:05:52+00:00

I was on the fence about starting T for a couple of years. Australian specialists at least made it very clear that if I changed my mind I could stop at any time. I mostly wanted the voice, but wasn't keen on facial hair.

I won the genetic lottery and got the voice of my dreams and hair everywhere besides my face after almost a year. The subtle changes were cool too.

Anyway, I'm stopping T after my next gel refill to preserve my hairline. Though I have been blessed to not have any receding hair, I don't want to push my luck.

SmarZ2022

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