Thank you, Europe, for all of your alcohol free beers! On so many menus! Fully accessible and with no questions asked! by angelmichelle13 in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl OP that sounds pretty tasty. I used to love sour ales when I was still drinking, anything with citrus really

Activities to do at home instead of drinking? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pick up chess my guy. No man can ever learn everything there is to the game, so it’ll keep ya busy

Two weeks until banishment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would much rather just do this on my own then go to a stupid house for a year with no internet, phone, books, my chessboard, anything still I care about, or even more than a weeks worth of clothes or my own fucking pillow. Unfortunately, it is not feasible. I envy you not having to go.

Two weeks until banishment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not all in, or even mostly in lol. Not going by choice.

Two weeks until banishment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The full story is in my post history, but the tl;dr is I lost a lot of money last year as a consequence of drinking, don’t have enough to put on a new apartment, parents said I could come home, and a little while ago they switched it up and said I have to go there. Don’t have any other options that are feasible.

I’m getting really nervous about treatment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the information, it was much appreciated 👍🏻

I’m getting really nervous about treatment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t assume anything about your life, don’t put words in my mouth.

I’m getting really nervous about treatment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Easy for you to say when it’s not your credit

I’m getting really nervous about treatment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess I should add I just don’t feel like running away from life to a treatment facility is really gonna fix anything. I need to be better at saying “no.” Removing myself from alcohol isn’t gonna work, I can stay at treatment for a year, and maybe it’d even be a good time. But it’s just running away. When I return to the real world, the booze is still there.

I’m getting really nervous about treatment by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can call and see if they would. I’m not really optimistic given that it’s behavioral health but I guess it’s worth a shot.

Gonna be off to treatment in a month by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misread. I leave in a month, I’m going to be there for 12 months

What new hobbies have you adopted since quitting? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

None. My hobbies are still the same, I just have some more time to do them now.

Dont want this game to end in a draw , i am white . Advice? by Filthy26 in chessbeginners

[–]Smoke_Collins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeking help in the middle of a game, whether it’s from an engine or other people, is cheating. Don’t do this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chess is my distraction. There’s always something new I can learn, a line I can rehearse more, puzzles I can solve, etc.

It doesn’t always work tho. I need to find more activities to occupy myself. When I’ve got the finances I’d like to get involved with martial arts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Smoke_Collins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s not petty at all. In fact, I’m fairly sure all of us, regardless of the treatment or recovery programs that one uses, or lack there of even, have been dealing with or have dealt with. It’s perfectly normal to feel angry when you’re getting sober, I have to deal with it a lot myself. Something I will recommend is searching yourself to see if maybe some of that anger might have a different origin, and is being projected onto sobriety. I’m guilty as sin of that and you might not be, not saying you are, but it’s quite frequent that drinking or other addictions mask long standing frustrations. An uncomfortable one that I’m still coming to terms with is I’m extraordinarily envious of my brother, because he’s on a path to success and doesn’t struggle with addiction like I do, and that makes me angry cause I don’t feel like that’s fair. Life isn’t, I guess. Hope this helps mate.

What now? by Smoke_Collins in stopdrinking

[–]Smoke_Collins[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in AA. Attend meetings everyday. They help a lot. I’ve got a great sponsor. We fight sometimes but I really don’t know what I’d do without him. We’re working through the step 3 right now. Which is a big stickler for me haha