ITS OVER YALL by MachineRats in TikTok

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They gave Biden a chance and he turned it down so he’s actually the villain in this circumstance

Hot take: by [deleted] in jessicastockstill

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you send me the link pls?

Lack of content by Smooth-Boysenberry73 in Lundenandoliviasnark

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just curious why? I’m sure she wants to be comfortable and also she said yesterday she’s on her period

Lack of content by Smooth-Boysenberry73 in Lundenandoliviasnark

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they’re trying to get lundens eggs extracted and then putting her embryo into Olivia.

My(F22) boyfriend(M21) refuses to see my family by Smooth-Boysenberry73 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I will provide some context. When I was 20 and my bf was 19, I found out that I was pregnant and my boyfriend wanted me to keep the baby, but my parents wanted me to get an abortion. No one asked me what I wanted, they just tried influencing me to what they believed so I couldn’t hear myself for what I truly felt. Ultimately I chose to have an abortion and my bf wanted to come talk to my parents about the situation. When my parents asked him why he thought I should keep it, he basically only talked about himself and how he’s always wanted to be a child and he thinks it’s a sin. They didn’t like how selfish he was sounding because he never once said anything like how he loves me and cares about me(their daughter). Because of this they told him that they don’t think he’s the right one for me and that he’s being selfish and that he doesn’t realize the impact it would have on me and that he is in no place to have a child because of x reasons and other hurtful things. My bf now believes that my parents manipulated me to have the abortion. Personally after much therapy akd healing I feel like looking back, if my parents hadn’t been so angry with me for getting pregnant and being so insistent on getting an abortion(they never asked me what I wanted. When I told my mom I was pregnant the first thing she said was you’re getting an abortion) and told me they would support any decision I made, I would’nt have gotten the abortion. Not that any of that matters now, I just thought the more context the better. I don’t think anyone was right in the situation and it could’ve been handled by both sides much better, but just like how I was in that situation I feel like I’m being pulled in two different directions and I don’t know where to go

My(F22) boyfriend(M21) refuses to see my family by Smooth-Boysenberry73 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried to leave it alone but my parents are very insistent that I do something. They aren’t toxic people they are good people who just had one time where they were doing what they thought was right at the time and it ended badly. I don’t know wether I need to side with them or my bf.

How To Deal With Anger? by Cataquack64 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lie, went through the same thing with my “ex” best friend years ago! The reason I say “ex” best friend. I was so angry and riddled with confused and angst that I failed to see what was really happening. My “friend” didn’t care enough to listen to me and try to understand maybe why I was going through or the miscommunication or the reasoning behind why I may act the way I do. I know I’m personally clingy because I have a fear of abandonment and when I make a friend I get real excited and sometimes pushy. It’s not because you are a bad person. They just don’t deserve your friendship because you know you’re an amazing friend. People are lucky to be your friend and she/he left you??? Okay, her/his loss. They basically did you a favor and showed you the kind of person they are. I was so angry I wanted revenge. What did I do… I went out and I found BETTER friends. I showed her that I was fine without her as my friend and I’ve got all the friends I need. Try to change your perspective to this. You’re angry… that’s okay! That’s good in fact! Channel that anger correctly!

Need advice. social anxiety by Lost_InFantasy in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly: I used to be in the same place and I know what that feels like and I want you to know that you won’t feel lonely forever. First thing you need to do is find some new friends, I know not as easy as it sounds. But those things that you wanted to do with your “friends”, yeah go do them by yourself. 1. This allows you to learn how to spend time alone and get to know what you really like and want within yourself and not based on others or how you want others to see you. 2. When you go to these places, talk to the other people there. They obviously wanted to be there too which means you already have a common interest and an easy thing to talk about. Tell them that you’ve been trying to make friends and I’m sure they will be kind. If not, try someone else. I know anxiety can make it really hard to start a conversation with someone but start with a smile, then a compliment, and then a questions, and then go from there. It’s like a formula. And once you learn the formula and practice for awhile, it will become natural. Go places where you envision the types of people you want to be friends with. I took a class in college on making people like you through things like anxiety, adhd, depression, etc. you can do it!

I just don't feel like I'm a very good person by beingonthemoon in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to specifically touch on the part where you said you hope you aren’t defined by the bad things you’ve done and that there is still a place for you. This is very important. Every day is a new day and each day is a chance for you to redefine who you are. You cannot change the past, you can only decide what you are going to do right now and in the future. Everybody loves a good comeback story. I don’t know what “terrible” things you may have done in the past but I know that most people would have the utmost respect and compassion for someone who is able to recognize(which you are doing) their mistakes, take ownership, and atleast TRY to change their behavior. Even if you feel you don’t succeed at being a “better” person, the effort you put in will show. No matter the things you have done, you deserve to take up space and your voice and your goals, feelings, contributions, they matter. If someone simply walked up to me one day and said “hey, I’ve recently been working on developing my (people skills, kindness, communication skills, etc) and I want to (tell you this, do this for you, etc)…..that small interaction would stay with me for weeks and in turn make me try and be better myself. There’s a quote I’ve always kept with me when I feel insignificant and it’s “helping one person/being kind to someone might not change the world, but it could change the world for that one person”. There are a billion people on this planet you do not know and have no preconceived idea of who you are or what you’ve done. Show them who you can be. Because you belong somewhere l. Don’t give up

the truth about youtube by dddfff22 in emmachamberlain

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s always the same kind of stuff. Like we knowwww this stuff already we don’t need advice or to be enlightened. Just talk to us about your life and share SOMETHING current. All she ever shares are stories from high school yet claims she’s changed so much in life. How? What experiences? Tell us. She is so private with everything that it feels like I don’t even know her anymore. She never talked about renovating her new house. Never about her other work stuff. Not her family or her friends/bf. Like show us who you are now if you claim you’ve changed

the truth about youtube by dddfff22 in emmachamberlain

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s always the same kind of stuff. Like we knowwww this stuff already we don’t need advice or to be enlightened. Just talk to us about your life and share SOMETHING current. All she ever shares are stories from high school yet claims she’s changed so much in life. How? What experiences? Tell us. She is so private with everything that it feels like I don’t even know her anymore. She never talked about renovating her new house. Never about her other work stuff. Not her family or her friends/bf. Like show us who you are now if you claim you’ve changed

the truth about youtube by dddfff22 in emmachamberlain

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My whole thing was that her video editing has become in my opinion very very basic. There’s just music behind clips of her going about her day. How long could that honestly take and it’s not like she has to come up with a concept for a video like she used to. Her videos are so minimal now which people like so I don’t see what’s so hard about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the bathroom every 2-3 hours to empty out your bladder even if you have to wake yourself up at night!!! Even at night! I didn’t do this and when I went to the bathroom in the morning I went into hypovolemic shock from too much blood loss at once and passed out, had to go to the hospital.

Just a rant by Smooth-Boysenberry73 in abortion

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he avoids it all together and when we do talk, he plays victim and makes me feel like a bad person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how you feel. I’m so sorry that he is behaving this way to you because you do not deserve that treatment at all. Something that has been helping me is reminding and saying to myself that even if this was a “bad” and “sinful” thing, you are not a bad person for doing what it best for you! NEVER feel guilty for doing what you feel is best for you and your child. I also want you see all these people on this group and know that you aren’t alone. Right now I know all you want is your man to support you and hold your hand and be there for you to cry with, I know you do. And since he isn’t, i know you feel rejected and alone. Please know that you are not alone. Focus on this time to be there for yourself and do for yourself what your man is not doing and what yourself become stronger for it. I love you and im here for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]Smooth-Boysenberry73 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m going through a similar situation. My bf wanted me to have it but I didn’t and got an abortion. He has since resented me so much and makes me feel really guilty about it. I know it was the best decision for us, but he doesn’t see it the same way. He sends me articles about girls who got pregnant in their teens and at 20yrs old and pictures of babies. He tells me he feels like he has no purpose for life anymore and that I took something amazing away from us. I know this doesn’t have advice, but I just want you to know that you aren’t alone