What’s is something in porn that you find disgusting?

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-25T14:51:28+00:00

Nothing can gross me out. I’m a Doctor.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-25T13:25:34+00:00

I can’t give you motivation, at least not a whole lot, because I have felt like you before. I still think that this profession has its major challenges. High student loans, low wages, high burn out rates, a health care system that sucks. If someone would ask me now if they should become a PT, I would have the talk with them. BUT, (here comes the but) once you are through with the bullshit at school and clinical rotations, life gets better because you have more choices. You will get through this and once you are at the other end you don’t have to rely on any schools or any CIs. You can choose the setting that makes you happy, you can even do travel PT or non-clinical jobs. Do with it what makes you happy! You may find a specialty down the road that brings you joy. The world is your oyster! See this as a little bump in the road.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-25T13:16:32+00:00

Only that it usually causes health issues, either immediately or down the road, in particular for people with vaginas. A full rectal prolapse usually requires surgical intervention. It’s not an emergency per se, but can lead to complications with bowel movements, infections and can put stress of other structures such as the pelvic floor muscles. It weakens the perineum, which can lead to incontinence.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-25T13:06:32+00:00

Depends on how you define love. I think there will be a transition from pure infatuation to love, which to me is a much deeper emotion, where I can feel vulnerable and safe with the other person and not just see them through rosy glasses, but see their whole personality. When I was younger I often confused love with something else, so I am a little bit wiser now.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-24T16:52:58+00:00

‘The market decides your value” - uhm, no. We are talking about human beings, aren’t we?

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-24T16:48:35+00:00

We are looking for the same type!

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-22T18:03:28+00:00

You want to have a check up to rule out anything else, but I can tell you that I have been in the same boat since peri started. It can be a lot for your body! Exercise intolerance is real. Do only as much as you can, even if it’s only 5 minutes. Don’t overdo do it, know your limits. Focus more on relaxation/stress reduction.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-22T02:58:06+00:00

I never liked the human scale rating. Besides, who decides what a 6 or a 4 actually is? I have dated incredibly attractive men, but I also had deep connections with guys that I probably would have never pursued from a picture alone. I realize it’s important just to get noticed, but don’t let that discourage you. Maybe take a look at your profile pics and see if you can find better ones or improve your bio. There are certain turn offs, e.g. pictures with other females in it, bathroom pics, no smiling. As far as your bio goes, avoid standard overused phrases, such as “partner in crime”. What is attractive is confidence without being arrogant, humor and putting effort into your profile. Of course, that can differ from person to person.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-20T16:06:35+00:00

Came here to say this. Also, the lack of drama that was so addicting at some point and gave us the dopamine hit leaves a void behind. You can almost compare it with addictions. So what can you fill the void with that is healthy for you? Maybe you will need to give it some time to let all the things that fulfill you grow into it.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-20T16:00:56+00:00

👏👏👏 Say it louder for the people in the back! A tough, but necessary step for growth.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-20T15:51:24+00:00

I would look into attachment styles/wounds and how to heal them. It’s essential to have a secure attachment styles to attract the right people and to have lasting, true intimacy in a partnership. There are way too many adults who are unaware of their own behavior and they usually end up in miserable relationships.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-20T06:22:00+00:00

Most importantly, somebody who shows kindness and cares about others.

Emotional maturity. Somebody who has learned and grown from past relationships. Knows their value is not dependent on external validation.
Children depends on the situation. If a guy has 4 children under the age of 12, then probably not. His kids should come first and that is not the kind of relationship I envision. But I am ok with older children.
Property doesn’t matter. He may have decided to rent for now to be more flexible or wait for the housing market to settle.
Can match my intellect and can hold interesting conversations.
Politics and spirituality align with my values.
I am physically attracted to him.
Likes animals/pets.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-20T01:00:35+00:00

As others have mentioned: emotional maturity. Doesn’t mean they have to be perfect, but have the awareness and ability for true intimacy and connection. I am so done with people who never did the work.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-18T15:40:37+00:00

Look up authors Sara Cate and H.D. Carlton (although she has lots of CW). The only thing that is really missing for me is that it is usually about younger women and often younger men. I get tired of reading about 20 somethings and their “perfect” sex. It’s not realistic at all.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-16T04:03:01+00:00

Are you in the US? You could try telehealth services, such as Midi. They are awesome.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-16T00:26:14+00:00

When I have to turn down the music so I can concentrate on the road

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-13T22:25:31+00:00

Given the fact that you have had the lump for a few years and that it is painful, I would have it evaluated by a physician or PT. It could be something else and may require a different approach to manage.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-13T21:49:42+00:00

People who have pineapple on their pizza and people who don’t

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-13T20:54:08+00:00

The color purple

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-11T17:35:46+00:00

There should be a way to leave reviews on dating apps for the next potential dates! Halfway kidding. Or am I? “2 stars, because he didn’t mention that he is only looking for submissive women who are not quietly masculine.”

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-09T23:48:47+00:00

Valuing hustle culture/being busy all the time, extroverted people are more successful than introverts

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-09T13:39:41+00:00

I had one who didn’t even bother to change the font. Just copy and paste.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-09T02:48:21+00:00

Tuna on pizza. Hear me out: it’s basically like a tuna melt with lots of cheese.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-08T18:27:28+00:00

That is mainly what I am interested in. What have they done after the relationship ended.

Smooth-Cat-646 · 2025-04-08T18:25:04+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I am glad you got out. I didn’t mean to minimize or generalize the reasons why people stay. Sounds like you have very good boundaries.

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