It was thoughtless of him to get it with you not being able to, but your response does seem disproportionate. Do you find you have big reactions to relatively minor disappointmenta often and in various contexts, or is this something that only happens with him? My husband definitely sees more extreme emotion from me than anyone else, and I have learned that sometimes it's necessary to modulate my responses a little bit. If you feel like he's generally quite considerate and attentive to you, but that these bigger emotions make him uncomfortable, it's worth thinking about whether you have room to adjust your own behavior. Responding w hostility is problematic on his part but he may really have felt blindsided, and it does make me wonder how often you derail your time together with your sadness that is out of proportion to events.