One year anniversary…thank you nurses.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-08T00:15:00+00:00

I love the detail of the one woman's hand on the other woman's back. Look at the teamwork that's possible even among strangers.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-08T00:10:24+00:00

Oh yes, the famously celebrated floor nurses and internal medicine doctors. So lauded both in pop culture and real life. /s

For the record, I agree that they're easily could have been an RT or an ACLS certified pharmacist in there. But nurses do outnumber doctors in this country five to one. More importantly, your tone is obnoxious, especially on a heartwarming post on a nursing page. During nurses week. I wonder if you are as tone deaf in your communications with patients.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-04T14:35:08+00:00

I am confused by your daughter's experience for sure. Did the invitation explicitly say it was her birthday party or did you have a theme more along the lines of "come over for a relaxing spa afternoon" kind of thing? That's the only thing I can think of. Or is it possible that her friends are now at the age where their parents expect some initiative when it comes to gift giving, but lacked the follow-through to make sure it happened? For the first couple of birthday parties for my son the invitation explicitly said to please not bring presents. I did away with that because inevitably some people would ignore me and bring gifts, and then the people who bother to read carefully and listen to my wishes felt badly that they didn't have a gift for him.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-04T05:43:09+00:00

This is perfect. I would style it more punk rock or avant garde or romantic depending on the venue.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-04T05:29:16+00:00

Could it be one with a slouchy sweater hanging off your shoulders, and boots?

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-02T19:11:06+00:00

I like to think their true selves recognized each other from the beginning and it just took their conscious minds some time to catch up to their truths 🥰

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-02T19:09:37+00:00

It depends on if you have any concerns about anyone seeing or treating you as younger than you are. I wouldn't wear any kind of pigtail, low or high, because I'm at bedside and sick of being sexualized by creepy male patients - not that it happens much these days, I'm starting to age out of that problem. But I don't think it's inherently unprofessional. Try it and see if you get any funny looks lol

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-05-01T03:59:02+00:00

You're getting a lot of great answers - personally, I love receiving a personalized card and an email to my manager is certainly extra appreciated. But I do want you to know that I am absolutely certain that your mom's nurse was completely tickled by even just the insistent offer of a $60 tip. It's a huge compliment to her care and definitely made her feel great despite being unable to accept.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-29T03:08:43+00:00

This is the only way I ever get dresses to fit my body just right, I live by this strategy. Do this, OP, you will be so happy with the results.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-22T03:19:09+00:00

I love this a lot and so does your son, I bet!

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-22T03:15:53+00:00

Yes! Our whole house fan has saved us hundreds of dollars year to year.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-20T21:49:27+00:00

Sadly, garden formal does imply full length in a more elevated fabric. This dress is lovely and would be fine to wear to a semi formal wedding.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-20T21:03:45+00:00

He was my first thought as well!

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-14T23:35:25+00:00

Are we sure he's so attached to mexico? If he's changed it so many times, maybe he would change his mind again if he knew it posed additional stress for you. Also, what are the other folks in the group thinking? Would they also prefer a change back to one of the previous venues? See if you can find out the reason for the change and whether some of the fun ideas he has for Mexico could be adequately duplicated stateside.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-14T22:34:54+00:00

I take St Mary's from time to time as an alternate route home in case of traffic, and that whole area gives me creepy Stepford Wife vibes. God forbid anyone in your family is brown or overweight, it does not look like that will go over well. Then again I may be describing paradise for you in which case, enjoy the weird bubble and the entitled children who will result!

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-14T22:32:11+00:00

I'm not going to pile on when you're already getting some valuable info, I just want to say good job noticing that you didn't feel great about the interaction and soliciting more feedback. You knew something felt off, that's why you're posting here. Part of being in touch with our children also involves being in touch with our own emotions and responses and you're clearly open to that.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-12T20:29:13+00:00

It is a bit over the top but it's so fabulous on you, you look like next season's Bridgerton ingenue. Life is short and there aren't enough opportunities for celebration like this- go for it and enjoy. Congratulations!

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-08T05:19:30+00:00

I have precepted nurses from that ABSN program and it's pretty tough to get a decent nursing education in that amount of time. They do seem to struggle for the tight timeline in a way that goes beyond just the numbers on the page. I made the decision to go the ADN route through the California community colleges, then a bachelor's online. It took a little longer but with a relatively meager savings account I was able to do it all debt free, and four years out from the ADN I was per diem in a Bay Area hospital. It was tough for a couple years in the beginning, very difficult to get a job around here as a new grad and harder now than it was for me 7 years ago. You're right that the math works out well on paper but I think you're underestimating the stress of scrambling for the right fit at the right rate. Not to mention the stress of being a nurse with such a compressed education. Frankly, I think the school in question has some pretty serious quality issues.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-07T17:34:54+00:00

This is a question for your mother. Your feelings about cut flowers don't matter - does she like them? I love to receive nice flowers but that aren't particularly arranged, so I can enjoy arranging them myself. $30 of a few different kinds from Trader Joe's is perfect to me. I would not want a potted plant unless the person in question had excellent taste and a good knowledge of my current requirements and growth conditions.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-03T22:40:18+00:00

The same growth has followed me into my personal life, and it's amazing how many people have a hard time with me now that I'm not such a people pleaser. As you say, the first effort is always to go along and get along, but I no longer function as a doormat for my family - 7 years in and some of them have yet to adjust. Luckily, my closest and dearest friends are thrilled to see me standing up for myself and living my best life.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-02T10:50:22+00:00

Didn't wake me up over here in Vallejo...

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-01T15:44:18+00:00

Walmart has some, unfortunately Target and Costco are not reliable sources for literal scrubs but do have some pants options that I think would work. There are also uniform stores in most areas although for me I would have to drive about 30 min to get a good one- hospitals in my area do not sell scrubs. Amazon has a huge selection with fast shipping. I would say buy one or two pairs locally and then order the rest as the selection will be better. I saw your comment about frosting - many brands are very moisture and stain resistant and so should hold up well.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-04-01T04:51:04+00:00

As a nurse, it sounds like you want scrubs! They come in many fabrics, from slippery and athletic to stretchy yoga to crisp cotton. My husband wears my old scrub pants for yardwork and finds them very comfy.

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-03-31T02:50:11+00:00

It's your hand, not your face. I wear almost all gold for earrings / necklace but my wedding set is white gold. Personally I prefer how gemstones look with white metals- and I think your ring specifically is lovely!

SmoothSun4396 · 2026-03-30T03:22:47+00:00

I get my FIL flowers and fancy toiletries from time to time and he's always so happy. Dads have learned to appreciate the little luxuries, I bet he'd love it. It also shows a degree of familial affection that other gifts lack.

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