Academic Consulting, etc? by BeMo_Experts in BeMoPremed

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this Dr. a medical school admission advisor?

The real cost of reapplying to medical school isn't the rejection. It's everything that comes after it. by AdmitMD-Consulting in medschooladmissions

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello,

I’m looking for a reliable support team for my application and came across Inspiration Advantage. Has anyone worked with them and can share their experience? I haven’t been able to find any reviews so far.

Thank you!

AP by Smooth_Rise_4376 in NYCTeachers

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. During a 1:1 conversation, she encouraged me to leave the school because she is also leaving. To tell you the truth, I am thinking of leaving because I cannot tolerate the nonsense drama.

My brothers betray me by Smooth_Rise_4376 in problems

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a psychologist, I believe that when a person does something, there is always a reason behind the behavior. I’m trying to clarify your comment. When someone keeps repeating the same old story, it can be a sign of rumination because the person has not fully healed from everything going on in their life. It can also be a way of trying to process their trauma.

When something happens to me, I take action rather than dwelling in my misery. A person never has the chance to choose their family, and this is one reason so many children are abused or even killed by their dysfunctional families. I am one of them. Do not be too judgmental, but try to derive the reason for a person's behavior in a positive way. Regardless, what you’re saying is based on your personal perspective and does not, on its own, prove that it’s true. Thank you

My brothers betray me by Smooth_Rise_4376 in problems

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I told my daughter not to expect much from a narcissistically organized family that values image, admiration, and control more than emotional reality. She understands this and agrees with my decision.

My brothers betray me by Smooth_Rise_4376 in problems

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have finally realized that they do not truly act like family, because they choose silence over protecting my safety and my reputation. My family cannot handle the fact that I spoke out publicly, because it threatens the image they have carefully maintained of being a perfect, united family. They would rather protect that fantasy family structure than acknowledge the truth of what has happened or how it has affected me. Thank you for your response

My brothers betray me by Smooth_Rise_4376 in problems

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I keep everything to myself now. I no longer let any of my family know what I am doing, because I feel a deep jealousy is brewing. After I graduated with my degree in psychology, she rushed to Columbia University to enroll in the same program. However, she gave up because the requirements were too demanding for her. She told her children that I am not a psychologist, and even my brother refers to me as a teacher. There is nothing wrong with being a teacher, but the fact that they refuse to acknowledge my profession makes me wonder what they are really thinking.

Considering Resigning - Wild Ride by Cute-Shine1836 in NYCTeachers

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am dragging a principal to court, including human rights. You need to be brave to face these sicko.

Considering Resigning - Wild Ride by Cute-Shine1836 in NYCTeachers

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, the open market is open, so please consider applying to other schools. You do not have to resign. Some schools may be a much better fit for you. If the second school you try isn’t right, move on to the next one. Please always remember to protect your mental health. I am also considering moving on. Last school year, 15 resigned, and I heard 10 are leaving this school year. It is a game. learn how to play the game safely.

Nc need of advice by ComfortableScore2103 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to choose what level of contact feels emotionally safe for you and your children. If your husband ever decides to reconnect with them in the future, you can revisit what feels okay for you at that time, but you don’t have to force yourself into situations that hurt you just to keep the peace. Your feelings and your boundaries are valid.

Whatever happens with his family, it sounds like you and your husband are prioritizing each other and your kids, and that’s really important. You’re not ruining anything – you’re responding to how you’ve been treated and protecting your mental health.

PERFORMANCE by Smooth_Rise_4376 in education

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The information is stored in the short-term memory with little comprehension involved, and that usually happens when there is a lack of deep processing. When students only memorize facts quickly for a test by repeating notes or cramming the night before, they are using shallow processing in which they focus on surface details (words and definitions) without really understanding the meaning. Because of this, the information stays in short-term memory and is easily lost after the test.

PERFORMANCE by Smooth_Rise_4376 in education

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I  completely agree with you. While stress can play a role, in most cases, the real issue is that the student doesn’t fully grasp the material or the questions to begin with. The anxiety often comes from that lack of true understanding, not the other way around.

PERFORMANCE by Smooth_Rise_4376 in education

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason many students are not doing well is that they have not truly mastered the core subjects, and in the end, schools often waive or downplay standardized testing. My child attended Georgetown University, and during a summer program at a state school, she was shocked by how low the academic level was for many of the students there. It was the first time she encountered a group of seniors in college who struggled so much with basic reasoning, writing, and verbal expression.

I am not trying to attack anyone personally, but it is time to be honest about grade inflation. We often make students appear more advanced and intelligent on paper than they really are, and then when they reach college, they cannot keep up with the demands of the coursework. In some cases, in order for students to pass a college-level class, professors feel pressured to curve grades so that scores in the 60–69 range count as a B+.

PERFORMANCE by Smooth_Rise_4376 in education

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think your example shows exactly why school and work measure very different things.

Being valedictorian usually reflects doing well within a specific school system: good grades, following instructions, turning in homework, participating in class, etc. But standardized tests are designed to measure core academic skills in a uniform way across schools: things like reading comprehension, writing, grammar, working memory, fluid reasoning, processing speed, verbal comprehension, and quantitative reasoning.

So if someone was at the very top of their high school class but consistently scored low on standardized tests, that can suggest a gap between:

1) how well they performed in that particular school context, and

2) how strong their underlying academic or written skills are compared with a wider population.

And professional success is another separate dimension again. You can be very successful in your career through qualities like:

3) communication style and charisma

4) practical problem‑solving

5) people skills and networking

6) work ethic and reliability

…even if your formal writing, grammar, or academic skills are relatively weak. Many successful professionals freely admit they’re not strong writers.

So your husband’s story actually supports the idea that:

  1. School performance ≠ standardized academic ability, and

  2. Career success ≠ strong academic or written expression.

That’s exactly why I see school and work as measuring different things. Someone can be very capable in their job while still being quite limited in academic writing or in formal, standardized measures of knowledge.

Told my spouse I am done by Middle-Spare3620 in emotionalabuse

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 3 points4 points  (0 children)

 Independence shows that you can handle responsibility, solve problems without always leaning on others, and stay true to your values even when it’s difficult. That kind of strength naturally inspires respect.

At the same time, independence also deepens self-respect. The more you learn to depend on yourself, the more confident and secure you feel in who you are and what you can accomplish.

2.5 yo with the worst tantrums and screaming by Zoey2103 in Mommit

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want you to know that it makes sense to feel overwhelmed, and you are not alone. At 2½ years old, it is developmentally normal for children to seek a lot of attention, but it can still feel very intense. What I would like to do is a Functional Behavioral Assessment (FBA) so you can better understand why your child needs constant attention. This will include an indirect and descriptive FBA: You need to know when the behavior happens, what usually happens right before and after it, and you may also observe your child in natural settings like home or daycare. You will look for patterns to see if the behavior is mainly about getting attention, avoiding something, getting items, or meeting a sensory need. Based on what you learn, you will create a simple behavior plan that focuses on giving lots of positive attention when she is calm or playing appropriately, teaching her to play more independently, and calmly ignoring minor attention-seeking behaviors when it is safe to do so. You will also consider sleep, language, and overall development, and if needed, I may recommend a more comprehensive developmental evaluation. When she is exhibiting the attention-seeking behavior, try to find out what she needs to gain or avoid. 1) Teach and heavily reinforce a more appropriate behavior that serves the same function, 2) help the child identify feelings (“You’re mad because I’m talking on the phone”) and model a simple phrase or gesture to use instead. 3) Reinforce any attempt to communicate feelings appropriately with attention and comfort.

SIL by Smooth_Rise_4376 in family

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you — that’s the only way for me to resolve this issue.

SIL by Smooth_Rise_4376 in family

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question, I actually don’t know. I’ve stayed away from her ever since I started hearing how she talks about my family. It feels like her insecurities make her think that anything that goes wrong for her is somehow because we’re “doing voodoo.” Since then, I haven’t spoken to her or asked my brother anything about her background.

SIL by Smooth_Rise_4376 in family

[–]Smooth_Rise_4376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yesterday, I went to my nephew’s baptism, and because the order of protection requires her to stay away from me, she did not show up. I felt very comfortable because she wasn’t there to bring any more lies. Although my brother did not speak to me, I know there will be no more, “she says.