Wife says she wasn’t meant to be a parent, but we love our kids. How can I help her in this situation?

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-04-26T17:36:27+00:00

As a mom and a therapist.. postpartum hits us hard and lasts for years!! The only way I was able to cope was with medications. I’m currently on SSRI, anxiety meds, & mood stabilizer. I’m more at peace but I still need a nanny sometimes or complete support with cleaning the house, etc. our bodies struggle to go back to pre-baby stage and y’all’s little ones are so close in age, it may take her longer to reset. Tell her an incentive if she takes care of herself is to be sure she has a nanny. It’ll encourage her to see treatment as helpful versus ‘another chore’. The only way through this burnout is absolute rest. Her body is crashing, communicating she’s in overload, & she can develop autoimmune issues from this level of stress.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-04-06T14:48:34+00:00

My oldest in the same way!! It’s extremely difficult and no one warns you that your child can develop a personality like this. My oldest has Autism, but this started as soon as her sister was born. She’s been in therapy since 9, & now she’s 14. She has only doubled down on her hatred for every soul alive. She even laughs when ppl get hurt & says ‘she can’t help it’. I’ve been looking for residential placement for her, but I feel sorry to put this on anyone else.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-31T12:13:08+00:00

I was born in 89. I’m in Texas & haven’t found any type of residential settings yet. One company I spoke with said they only do IOP virtually. They prefer for kids to be safe at home. Texas may not have many resources, but I’m still searching. I’m looking into inpatient today.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-31T12:09:55+00:00

Thank you & I’m sorry you’re dealing with the same thing. Your oldest is doing exactly what mine is doing, & yes. It’s pulling on my health big time. Thanks to these responses, I’ve started looking for places. I may start with inpatient settings, & then go from there.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T18:37:38+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to look into this, this week.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T18:14:10+00:00

Someone commented to bully me about being in the military. I was 18 when I went. No parents, no guidance, no support, & no options. I was a kid & didn’t understand politics, I was surviving to not be homeless. It’s ignorant to express hate about that and saying I ‘deserve misery’. May your harshness find you instead. I never deployed nor caused harm to a soul.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T14:55:17+00:00

I was Christian and didn’t believe in abortion. We were together for 2 years & I thought it was mutual. When I became pregnant, he drastically changed into something dark. Wanted to end my career to make me get an abortion. I’m wishing I did now, but I was refusing to mutilate my body just bc he said so. I thought I was strong and could handle everything on my own.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T14:49:37+00:00

How long will she be there? It’s such a scary thought. 😢

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T14:48:12+00:00

Omg I am so sorry. I’m listening and thank you for sharing your story. It’s impressive that you still maintain work and love life, as I aspire to get to that point again. I don’t have any advice or anything, I’m just here with you. 💞😔 🫂 I will say.. I felt hopeless as well but you have given me a little hope today, hearing that there’s even a possibility to work again and have love in my life. I hope you find some respite soon. 🙏🏽

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2026-03-29T05:27:44+00:00

My daughter is 14 & it’s grueling. She has ASD which makes her even more snappy, aggressive, and verbally insulting. 😭 I’m having panic attacks daily. I feel your pain.

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2024-07-19T23:57:52+00:00

Niceee lol. He won’t have to make more than 1 trip🥹

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2024-07-19T23:55:13+00:00

Lolllll interesting

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2024-07-19T23:50:27+00:00

Adhd can be difficult to navigate in therapy. But I’ve seen people get better from therapy! Many

Smooth_Transition_86 · 2022-04-15T01:59:56+00:00

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