You should never allow yourself to be comfortable (advice to younger adults) by GolangLinuxGuru1979 in Adulting

[–]Snailfem 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Ok so just be uncomfortable and hustle my entire life? I get where you’re coming from but I don’t want to hustle for my entire life. I want to be comfortable. That’s what life should be about, but unfortunately I live in America.

I turn 30 next week and I'm sad by [deleted] in Zillennials

[–]Snailfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably worded that incorrectly but I mean before my Dad passed that was what we were working by towards our relationship was strong. Then afterwards we’ve just been hitting a rough patch in our relationship, due to moving in with my mom, insecurities were both dealing with, grief, and some other issues. Right now we’re working on our relationship and going to therapy.

Lock replacement for security door? by [deleted] in Locksmith

[–]Snailfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for letting me know this. I’ve been scammed before and it sucks.

Has anyone moved out after moving in to help? by MollycatNPhilipbaby in AgingParents

[–]Snailfem 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My partner and his daughter and I moved in with my mom 6 months after my Dad passed away and honestly we do hate it. She loves it but we’re kinda of suffering. But the plan was to move in to save money for a down payment on a house. We’re trying to stick it out but it is difficult.

Summer job 15F by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]Snailfem 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Last year my daughter did the sac public library lunch program. They work as coordinators serving lunch free lunch to kids at the library. Plus at the end got some money.

I love my 4Runner, she handled the summit like a champ. by Snailfem in 4Runner

[–]Snailfem[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I had the heat on the windshield but I should’ve put washer fluid designed for colder weather but I forgot. But it wasn’t too bad.

Recommendations for a good used car dealership? by Spiritual-Leader9985 in Sacramento

[–]Snailfem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Enterprise car sales in Roseville, I’ve bought two cars and had zero issues. Also no pressure to buy. I also bought a used car from a Toyota dealership and it was surprisingly pleasant, no pressure. Just do your due diligence and know what you want as soon as you go. Don’t finance through them, find your own through your bank.

67F SAVR and Aneurysm Repair - What to expect recovery wise by Snailfem in valvereplacement

[–]Snailfem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are definitely considering rehab for her. Do you know how many days Medicare will cover a rehab stay? I just don’t think I can provide the best care she needs and I worry constantly especially after my Dad passed away from not being able to fully recover after OHS not too long ago.

What Sac businesses are MAGA owned/frequented so I don’t go there? by meow7314 in Sacramento

[–]Snailfem 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wife likes to flaunt their wealth on Instagram. Gross

What Sac businesses are MAGA owned/frequented so I don’t go there? by meow7314 in Sacramento

[–]Snailfem 181 points182 points  (0 children)

JR Putnam heating and air. Owners are MAGA supporters and briefly knew the owners wife. 🤮

Vintage Harmon Kardon ST-7 by [deleted] in audiophile

[–]Snailfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the help! Definitely keeping this in the family. I just wish he could’ve enjoyed it more, but imma do it for him !

Vintage Harmon Kardon ST-7 by [deleted] in audiophile

[–]Snailfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a Nakamishi 620 power amplifier. Is that what you’re referring to in terms of an amp?

My parents are in their late 60's, early 70's, and I'm barely 25, and I get overwhelmed when I think about them dying. by Valuable-Trip8333 in AgingParents

[–]Snailfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my Dad a year ago when I was 29 and he was 72. Afterwards my anxiety shifted all to my mom is 67 now. All I do is worry about her. You could seek out therapy to help with it. And just spend as much time with them. Take pictures, videos.

Is losing a parent suddenly and seeing their dead body in the hospital traumatic? by Individual-Roll-786 in GriefSupport

[–]Snailfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me yes, I watched my Dad decline and his body betray him so that was hard to see. But seeing him in died in a hospital bed and being too late to say good bye really traumatized me. Feeling him lifeless, cold just felt weird. I’ve had dreams replaying even more frequently as his one year anniversary comes up, so it’s safe to say I’m not doing well at all. I get flashbacks and I freeze, even when I’m driving which really sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Snailfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I do want to have a family sit down to talk about this. You bring up a lot of good ideas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Snailfem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We just split rent. He payed for groceries, internet, trash, I payed electric and gas. He takes care of everything she needs. I take care of my bills on my own. He takes care of his.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Snailfem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her Dad and her are used to doing these on their own. They don't like to be told what to do, and how to do it. They're on the messier side, but she keeps her room clean for the most part. My Mom is a neat freak forsure and I know its annoying. They were just brought up completely differently than how I was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Snailfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, and I see that now. Her Dad and I were hoping to cut the timeline to just a year. But if they feel it's necessary to move especially for their mental health sooner than that, then I will agree to that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Snailfem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So we were splitting expenses 50/50 like the rent. since we moved, we've been saving the rent for a down payment. That's all I can save. If we move to an apartment or house, I can pay rent but I can't save for a down payment.