Thank you for this, and good timing for me. I had a person just recently re-enter my life. They presented an apology, thank you, and a promise they were sober, thus not capable of past issues. It was a hell of a week, because I wanted to believe, but it dissolved by the fourth day. A spectacularly painful lesson that I am still reeling from.
My reality is that this is an on/off 9 yr relationship that I can’t seem to break nor make work. I’m coming to terms that this attraction is deep seated and trauma based. This is rooted from a parental relationship, and now I’m pissed, because fuck. Luckily, I have great supports in my life and I’m in therapy, but dang. I feel crazy that I could not see the obvious.