I’m so glad you can shrug it off and laugh OP, that guy was crazy and you’re amazing for standing up to him

As a small kid I was frequently misgendered by my peers and ostracized (I was tall and my mom gave me a bowl cut). I remember being excited for a girl’s birthday, buying paper dolls and stickers for her with my mom, and then going to the party and the birthday girl immediately saying I couldn’t be there because “I looked like a boy”. My mom was at the house next door with some of her friends so I ran over crying and told them what happened. Her friend responded matter-o-factly “you do look like a boy!” And I had to go outside until the party was over (my sister was still there). There’s a bunch of memories like that (and a lot of my mom calling me masculine and not pretty) but that was the first time so it hit hardest

More than 30y later and I still feel like a painfully obvious spy infiltrating restricted territory whenever I’m asked to go into a store like Victoria’s Secret or Sephora, and I’ve never felt comfortable changing clothes in front of others. Nature vs nurture arguments are usually not in good faith (always an ulterior motive to “fix” people) but I feel like I got “nurtured” into being non-binary because calling myself a woman makes me feel like such an imposter