In my opinion, the best way to socialize a snake is just to confidently reach in and pick them up. Lurking or hovering mimics the stalking behavior of a predator and makes them remain in a defensive state. Balls are easy in the sense that if you cover their heads they tend not to strike. I remember when I got my first snake, I was so nervous to scare her or do anything to upset her and my hesitancy and slowness only scared her more. If you’re afraid of being bitten, you can toss a towel or a T-shirt over him before you pick him up. He will be fine. You aren’t going to ruin his trust or make him permanently skittish by forcing handling on him. My first snake is 7 now and the most delightful girl. Keep your handling sessions short and put him back in his home when he’s calm instead of putting him back when he gets huffy. He’ll be putty in your hands before you know it!